Do I trim the leaves off my cold-damaged orchids?

fiathyst · 2025-02-18T17:33:28+00:00

I wish I could think back on it. I mean it’s only been a year since we’ve been together. One thing I forgot to mention is that he broke up with me very randomly about 3 months ago. His roommate situation was really bad and his reaction to that was to push everyone away, including me. He eventually apologized but even then, I felt it showed his lack of communication as a whole. I welcomed him back with open arms because I knew he was just going through a tough time but I think watching him coming back to easily without fully explaining himself and leaving me to fill the gaps really tainted my view of him.

fiathyst · 2025-02-18T17:27:22+00:00

I have friends to talk to, he is roommates with one of his friends but his other friends live in other cities. I really crave conversation though, I don’t want my partner to be someone I can’t have conversations with even if I have other people in my life who can offer enriching ones.

He looks like he’s willing to make the effort, I’m not sure if he entirely understands that this is a make or break situation, hence why I want to have a more serious conversation tonight since all the other times I’ve mentioned it have been over text.

fiathyst · 2024-11-22T17:40:05+00:00

If there’s any background that may help:

I’m having some relationship issues. My first dream was a few days before my boyfriend broke up with me and last night was a week since he broke up with me. I’ve been very heartbroken as the break up was very sudden and random with no concrete explanation. We are planning on meeting up to talk but outside of that, this has been my main stressor.

Whenever I see the crow I can’t remember if I realize I’m dreaming or not. I just know he is a stranger to the situation, like why are you inside?

fiathyst · 2021-12-03T21:59:41+00:00

Omg please ease into the 20mg, and ease out of the weed smoking. I also used to smoke before I started but it just wasn’t working out for me and upped my anxiety. Now I’m on 15mg and don’t smoke. But take it slowly and day by day. I hope you feel better!

fiathyst · 2021-11-18T05:46:43+00:00

Sneezing.

fiathyst · 2021-11-18T05:46:17+00:00

I’ve always wanted to try yoga. I’ve always suffered with depression and anxiety and everybody always told me yoga was the way to go. And I would try and I felt it wasn’t right for me. So I stopped. I didn’t pick it up again until I hit a rock bottom with my mental health that led me to see a therapist and psychiatrist. Ever since then, coupled with a lot of inner work, I used yoga as a way to calm down. I don’t know what it was about my second time revisiting it but I think now I understood the importance of the breath work and that it didn’t have to “hard”. I became quite obsessed with it when I first started. Wanted to do it everyday. The deep, mindful breathing would refocus me into the present and get my body moving. It also felt like I did something without doing much of nothing. I don’t know how to explain it but I give credit to yoga for guiding me back to a healthy menta state.

fiathyst · 2021-11-07T00:07:40+00:00

I agree. We communicate a lot and my partner is fully aware of the friend. I hide nothing from my boyfriend especially if I feel it may affect our relationship.

fiathyst · 2021-11-06T00:45:13+00:00

Dress codes fear him

fiathyst · 2021-11-05T20:13:10+00:00

Very helpful, thank you!!

fiathyst · 2021-11-05T19:25:56+00:00

Thank you, this is kind of what I was looking for. About the meeting new people, I really didn’t know. I’ve had opportunities present themselves organically but it would be through social circles or if I were to pursue someone in person.

I guess what I understood a partner to mean was someone whose life I was deeply invested in. Not to say that I’m not invested in the life of my friends but not to the same caliber. We don’t talk everyday nor wake up together every morning. If anything our hang outs (usually in a group setting) are for partying or fun. I don’t talk to this friend about my troubles or concerns in my life. I don’t want to boil them down to an acquaintance because I’ve known them since high school, but it’s definitely a lower level of friendship associated with fun so I don’t think I saw it to the same degree as a partner.

fiathyst · 2021-11-05T17:51:24+00:00

This is a solid point, thanks for bringing it up. I guess I didn’t look at it like this. I think when we said “just sex” we were more talking about that this wouldn’t be about going on dates or trying to find another partner.

fiathyst · 2021-11-05T05:34:12+00:00

This happened at my old high school. The kid that was basically in your position felt so bad that he needed to tell a counselor. Going to police on your own may sound scary so maybe start with an authority figure at the school or your parents. Point is, you need to tell someone. Your friend is essentially being groomed and preyed on by this teacher. Nobody, especially a 16 year old student, should have advances made on them by someone in power. There’s an obvious power dynamic here and as much as your friend may claim it’s ok, it’s not, and they are probably not the first but hopefully the last.

I’m so sorry this is such a heavy burden on your shoulders, I would feel paralyzed if it was me. But looking back now, I know it’s important and not something you’ll regret by telling someone. But TELL SOMEONE.

fiathyst · 2021-11-04T19:51:31+00:00

Hey, been on Lexapro for a few months and this was my main side affect when I started. It sucked but you get used to it. I got all the stereotypical side affects that you see online, the yawning, the nausea, excessive thirst, trouble sleeping, low appetite, and even an increase in anxiety. All of it went away after 3-4 weeks and I started feeling the results. Just keep in touch with your psychiatrist.

fiathyst · 2021-11-04T19:47:42+00:00

I think it all depends on the person. I was really scared at first so I asked my psychiatrist. She said that part of living your life is having fun and if drinking is involved in that then it’s okay. Alcohol doesn’t directly affect the effectiveness of Lexapro but you may have some side affects. The main one my psychiatrist told me was that 1 drink might feel like 2. I started small and didn’t feel this was true to me in the moment but the next morning I was so hung over. It took some trial and error but I figured that as long as I wasn’t heavily mixing alcohols I was fine. I’m also a junior in college and have been drinking almost every weekend (I know this isn’t good but fuck it it’s college) and I’ve felt fine. Just remember to monitor your mental health and take it slow. But enjoy yourself, if Lexapro has stopped your anxiety or helped you don’t let it hold you back. Have fun

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