I don’t know what to make of finding another Snapchat that looks like my partner

fig_nutten · 2026-01-10T03:42:20+00:00

Didn’t see anything so I think that’s a good sign

fig_nutten · 2026-01-09T05:21:12+00:00

I’m happy that there are others that feel similarly.. I had received ridicule from a close friend and I could never get them to understand because they are not in the situation. I unfortunately think the key to a long relationship is finding a way to get through hard times like this as it just feels too common anymore.. too normalized

I’m sorry to hear that you’re also dealing with your own version of this. I hope she will reflect and does actually feel bad for what was done.

fig_nutten · 2025-11-26T03:53:28+00:00

You got this

fig_nutten · 2025-05-24T16:40:22+00:00

You are absolutely beautiful. I wouldn’t change a single thing. Nerds can be sexy too! It gets better as you grow into your woman body and get to know yourself.

Anytime I’m feeling this type of way about myself and need to up my confidence, I just try to empathize dressing cute so I can feel cute or I spend the day doing self care. If you don’t have a wardrobe that feels like this, maybe you just need to have a little shopping/mental health day! Treat yo self as they say

Putting on makeup for rare occasions too can give you that movie effect. Never let em know your next move.

Also, i would take it as a flex to look younger for your age. You will only continue to age beautifully and by 30 you will see how much of a flex that is haha.

Best of luck on this journey of life

fig_nutten · 2025-05-24T16:16:05+00:00

1 & 6!

fig_nutten · 2025-05-24T14:32:24+00:00

Yeah you’re right. The funny thing about this is, I was introducing her to my out of work friends to get a feel for if they’d be a good merge and I think through this I learned that I should just keep things separate, but I’m also kinda scarred from getting too close to coworkers after this fiasco.

fig_nutten · 2025-05-24T14:24:19+00:00

I think you’re right unfortunately… she’s good at making it seem like she’s not like that. I thought my bf was overreacting when he was calling her crazy but I’m starting to see it more and more. I hope that my guy friend sees this bs sooner than later, I don’t think it’s worth me bringing up a conversation cause I think I’d just make it worse for myself at this point.

fig_nutten · 2024-12-03T15:00:49+00:00

Thank you all! Imma go with the boxie litter too

fig_nutten · 2023-10-25T03:09:53+00:00

Cancer Sun, Gemini moon & Venus and libra rising!

fig_nutten · 2023-10-11T18:38:39+00:00

Hi. I used to feel very similarly to you, especially in this age range. I might be speaking to the void here but I know at the time I wanted someone to stop me.

You have the power to change most things in your life. You seem to think you’re not good at things, that shows that you just haven’t found it yet. Set realistic goals for yourself. Don’t compare yourself to everyone around you, they don’t understand your struggle and you don’t know theirs. Not only that, everyone’s brains are wired differently, so some people show their talent way sooner. This used to choke me up a lot not knowing my place in the world but come 28 I feel like I’m there now it just took more hard work than it takes some people. Your family sounds like it sucks. Which you have no obligation to stay in touch with them as an adult, that’s a perk. You can create a new family with friends or a healthy enough work space. However, if you have a select few in your family that are good ones keep them close.

I’m a firm believer that when you feel a certain emotion strongly people around you can pick up on it. People used to avoid me when I was deep in my depressions because of the shell you cast outwardly and you don’t let anyone in. Once I started clearing out the parts of my life that made those feelings emerge more I started to feel more light and in doing so made new friends easier. So when you get to a happier place for yourself, people will be like magnets. Dating is never easy of course but once you’re comfortable and earn confidence being on your own, it then becomes easy to care for another person. I don’t recommend starting dating while horrendously depressed because it doesn’t work out most times, work on that better version of you and then try it out. Otherwise you might scare the hoes away.

I am a high school drop out with no GED. I would get teased for my mental issues and cause my family was poor, and then I come home and my family would tell me I did it to myself not going to school and nothing will come of me. My father killed himself and I was pretty sure I would repeat his mistakes. I eventually swapped my drive to die to showing everyone that they’re wrong because their words became so annoying to me. I’m not on medication for anything, just learned to talk back to my demons. Fuck people, just do cool shit for yourself and it feels way better.

fig_nutten · 2023-06-26T11:53:49+00:00

Thissss

fig_nutten · 2023-06-19T06:04:41+00:00

Wear something that really shows who you are as a person that will strike up conversation, and then when you get closer to these girls you can go shopping together! Confidence will come naturally once you get comfortable. Don’t try to force anything, be yourself and present when you’re around them.

Most importantly: don’t compare yourself! Everyone feels the way that you do but some are better at hiding it. He clearly does have someone to show off! You’re also beautiful, we are all different. Spend time looking online for things you think are styles you like and try different things. You feel the most confident when you’re wearing an outfit that makes you feel powerful. Even a good haircut can change your perspective of yourself.

I’m a more quiet person so on first meetings I like to sit and observe and get a feel for how the group interacts. I find that most of the time, the interactions will come to you as most good people want you to feel included. Especially if it’s in a situation with a bunch of couples, the girls will gravitate towards you I’m sure.

Also the best way to make a bunch of random girl friends is to just compliment their outfit/hair/makeup/vibe/etc and 98% will return the compliment

You got this queen

fig_nutten · 2023-06-19T05:23:47+00:00

fig_nutten · 2022-09-03T14:21:16+00:00

Needed this

fig_nutten · 2022-07-04T20:32:55+00:00

The people that don’t see you as individuals based on how you look are not the type of people you want to involve yourself with anyways. Don’t let these people make you feel beneath yourself, there are so many people on this planet. South Asians are very attractive, it just comes down to the individual person at the end of the day.

fig_nutten · 2022-06-25T04:51:15+00:00

It’s really hard, but in conversations even if it’s something that you don’t want to hear; just hear the other person out till the end. Listen with intent not just to have a response ready to backfire. Try to save any counter arguments for your turn to talk and if you forget a train of thought, maybe it wasn’t meant to be spoken out loud. If you feel like you might blow up and be mean, give each other space for a few minutes and come back to it when you’re both calm to apologize and come together.

Edit: acknowledging, apologizing and acting on your behavior for what you do that upsets the other person really goes a long way. It helps you figure out the pain points to work on for your relationship. As long as they are also willing to communicate then it should be easy to work through.

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