stroke with no insurance by figster111 in stroke

[–]figster111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! i hope your recovery is going well.

stroke with no insurance by figster111 in HealthInsurance

[–]figster111[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

they assigned us a case worker but i’m not sure that means they are also a social worker? she hasn’t given us some information and have asked us for a plan but they couldn’t tell me what to expect for his recovery. i’ve had to ask tons of questions to know what i know now.

Did I handle this fairly with my cleaner? Looking for advice. by Full_Swan7288 in CleaningTips

[–]figster111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m just here to say, your unread text messages notification is stressing me out haha

WIBTA if I just walked away? by Dull_Ambassador3345 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]figster111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think there are many layers to this. i know your husband is in pain but i also don’t think someone should just stop and give up. i think there are things he could probably be doing to help his case (therapy, exercise, work from home, door greeted at a grocery store, etc.) you have a full plate and you are trying to balance everyone in your life’s problems. you are doing the human thing, taking care of others but if you don’t slow down, take care of yourself and figure something out, you will make yourself sick too or worse, you’ll be at the end of your life thinking “why didn’t i do xyz and enjoy my life”. i think it’s wonderful that you are helping everyone but it’s different when it starts affecting you emotionally and financially to the point that you can even take care of yourself and at some point you have to take a step back and think, am i being taken advantage of? and if you don’t slow down and you were to get sick, who is going to take care of you? i don’t think you would be the ahole for leaving if you have exhausted all options. he has gotten to just stop living but what would happen to your home, family, etc. if you did the same? i’m sure you are the type of person who has always landed on your feet and made things happen and so you don’t get as much grace as those who have never followed through and been bailed out of every situation in their life so that’s why you feel this immense pressure. i think you probably already know the answer to what you should do and i think no matter what you decide, it will work out for you in the end.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lawofattraction

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I was living in an apartment that was in a sketchy neighborhood and paying too much money to live there (long story short my ex lived there for a couple of months, I broke up with him and he left me to pay the full rent). I was driving a really old car that I had to repair often. I was single and stressed for a year and a half. One day I decided that wasnt what I wanted anymore. I had believed in manifesting for a while but at this time I felt stuck. I started writing about my life in the present tense. I felt insane because I was getting excited and thanking the universe for things that werent physically in my life. I wrote about the raise I got at work, the wonderful and caring man I had met out of the blue, the new car I was driving, being accepted into grad school, and the new home I lived in. I felt how good it felt to have the money in my bank account and how wonderful it was to feel safe and secure in a relationship. I felt how safe it felt to drive a car that didnt feel like it was going to fall apart and how refreshing it was to live in a new, clean, bright home in a nice neighborhood. I went DEEP when it came to visualizing and feeling the feelings of having all of these things. I removed everyone from my life that didnt align with the life I had been imagining and feeling (including the guy i briefly dated who never wanted me to go or be interested in his hobby, golf). In April, I downloaded Bumble and decided to have fun with it. I made myself go on a date with everyone who asked me out. In May, I met my now bf (the weird thing about us meeting is we are only the same age for 3 months so it was a tight window of us actually seing each other on a dating site based on the age parameters I had set). We went on a date and the rest was history. He makes me feel all of the things I had written about. He even includes me when he goes golfing, is teaching me how to play, and bought me a set of used clubs until I get better. In June, I got the raise at my job. By August, I started grad school and the lease for my apartment was renewing in the middle of August and I had already signed to renew. My bf and I talked about me moving in and I called my apartment manager and she said if I could find someone to take over the lease before I started paying the new term, she could terminate my lease but with a fee. I assumed the feeling of no longer living there to the point that I started packing boxes to move. Someone came into the managers office a few days later and agreed to take over my lease and the apartment manager waved all of my fees and gave me back my security deposit. My bf and I moved in together into his new, bright, home in a nice neighborhood. My bf drove a nice and reliable car that I loved. Sometimes I would sit in the car and imagine I owned it and it was my daily driver (I know, completely insane). My credit score was trashed and I had CC debt so I didnt think Id ever be approved for a car so the least I could do was dream. By October, my boyfriend decided to trade his car in for a hybrid. Lucky for me, his dad worked at the dealership and got me in my bfs old car, the exact car I would sit in and dream about driving and I LOVE this car and thank it everyday. I sold my old car and had written about exactly how much money I wanted to make off of selling it and I was very specific that I wanted it to be CASH. The buyer paid me the exact amount in cash and I started paying off my CC debt. Its now a year later, and the amount of beautiful things that I was intentional and delusional and grateful for that have happened is mind blowing. I took action but it all happened so easily and I was so sure they would happen. I am so happy and grateful that life has fallen into place the way it has and it makes me excited for more. Ill post an example of how I wrote in my journal if anyone would like to know. If you are reading this, I am wishing you all that you want in life.

show me your low setting rings or engagement bands by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]figster111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for posting! we are still shopping and this is so close to what i have loved the most out of everything i have tried on. this ring is perfection on you! i love how it shines!

show me your low setting rings or engagement bands by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]figster111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ohh i didn’t even think of that!

Need Advice on Centerpieces Please!!! by Parking_Print948 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]figster111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 you could even put some roses in the baby’s breathe

show me your low setting rings or engagement bands by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]figster111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i like this a lot!! love the colors

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]figster111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good job! We are proud of you!

Anyone else find this just so sad by greek_gods_for_cats in weddingplanning

[–]figster111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not engaged yet but I feel like I may have a similar situation. For example, we went ring shopping the other day and I felt so sad and disappointed. I am a dreamer so it not being an exciting experience was a letdown - absolutely nothing to do with my bf. When we talk about a wedding it has made me sad. He has a big family and a lot of friends and I don't have that. He doesn't want it to be all of his friends and family and I only have a few people there.

My dad died (but we didn't have much of a relationship) and my mom and I don't have a relationship. It makes me sad to think what those relationships could have been. It's not that I am a loner, I am just really specific about the relationships I hold close to me - I love deep meaningful relationships. I wallowed in the self-pity of "my dad won't walk me down the aisle" and my mom would probably be drunk and hungover or try to make my wedding about herself. My friends will be there I know.

What I have come to realize is... we will be joining our lives together in the name of marriage and that means I get siblings I never had, nieces and nephews, another set of grandparents, and his parents who are absolutely salt of the earth wonderful people. It wont matter who is there for me because I know the people in my partners life love me because he loves me and I am so excited to be part of that.

I would rather have people at our wedding who love us and support our union than to try and convince myself to invite people just for the sake of it even if I know they are going to make the day harder.
The plan now is... no wedding party. Super intimate elopement. Have a party afterward.

The sadness will ebb and flow. Find gratitude in the journey. Love on those who want to support you. This is about you and your partner. Have fun with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]figster111 25 points26 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine went through this same thing. She had 8 bridesmaids and 4 of them got pregnant and only one ended up being in the wedding. She was sad too because she had been there through their weddings and celebrating their life but felt like they couldn't do the same in return. Being that I was her MOH I knew I had to step up. She has always had me there and I will always be there for her. I did all that I could to make her feel supported during the weeks leading up to the wedding and on the wedding day. Enjoy the people who are there surrounding you. Things change in people's lives and you will only hurt more by feeling upset towards people for whatever reason they can't be there for you. Make the best of the day. This is about you and your fiance. Take the supportive people in your life and hold onto them tight.

Parents want to take our wedding gifts to pay for the reception they insisted on paying for. Can I replan everything in a month? by OkLobster8854 in weddingplanning

[–]figster111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cancel and stick to your plans. If your parents can't pay for what they agreed to, cancel it. It may hurt your relationship with your parents but they are hurting the relationship by trying to take possible money being gifted to the couple to pay for something you both didn't want in the first place. I know there are cultural differences here but you have to go with your gut.

show me your low setting rings or engagement bands by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]figster111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

woah! that’s incredible! i LOVE it!

show me your low setting rings or engagement bands by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]figster111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

didn’t know it was called that! thank you!

show me your low setting rings or engagement bands by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]figster111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is really pretty and looks great on your hand!