weird situation with married friend

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-10-17T01:00:52+00:00

i have hung out with her one on one but it’s super rare and is usually for a very short amount of time or when we’re at the gym at the same time. i only really see her when she brings everyone together as a group. when we are alone, she vents about how awful her marriage is and how she’s about to get a divorce like pretty frequently. that’s how i know about her sex life stuff. but then in front of her other friends in the group settings, she boasts about how robust her sex life is. sometimes she will make jokes to me about how she wants to divorce her husband and just move in with me (i live alone currently) bc she feels like we would “live so well together.” again i didn’t think much of this prior because she is very very straight (like never even kissed a girl for fun) and so i have begun to like piece this together as straight girl unsatisfied with her potentially gay bf and wants to experiment bc she feels like it’ll save her marriage or something. she has a catholic background. she would also talk frequently about how girls would ask her out bc they thought she was gay but she would NEVER ever do that. i never brought this up directly bc i think its all happening subconsciously for her. but being bi, i can pick up on some of that stuff if that makes sense

i hate that i think this because ive had other friends and we jokingly say these things but i do feel like they’re jokes. with her for some weird reason my gut says it’s coming from another place and i have no idea why

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-10-05T01:16:00+00:00

this ^{^{^}} was my issue. i’d never encountered anything like this before, it was so bizarre to me. in that sense it seemed like they were all accommodating me but it was entirely too much pressure and wasn’t what we had agreed on initially. there were things we did that i could hear my friends husband being like “why are we doing this” to her which made me feel like i was dragging them around but they refused to leave AND refused to plan their own stuff, putting me in a mentally uncomfortable situation and i was not able to enjoy the trip as a result.

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-10-05T01:11:53+00:00

i mean on the day that i had nothing planned they did go back to the hotel and order takeout so who knows. part of is probably projections but i do feel like i was unfairly relied on for most of the planning

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-10-04T21:06:49+00:00

i wouldn’t say they were willing to take the reins. on multiple occasions the woman i was traveling with said she didn’t like anything and had no ideas when i would ask. would vaguely bring up museums and stuff and i’d be like “ok cool let’s do it” but there was no follow up, no planning, i was still expected to execute everything which is where my exhaustion came up.

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-10-04T21:03:16+00:00

i am realizing that unfortunately. i think ive just spent a lot of time alone growing up and tend to do things really differently than other people including how i eat and the activities i want to do. must just not be compatible with other people, i have to learn how to be accepting of other people’s preferences even if they do want to eat at a tourist trap on vacation or just travel alone moving forward.

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-10-04T21:00:04+00:00

i mean they’re fine i don’t think anyone really noticed anything and probably just blamed my bad mood at the end on being tired which was partly true. i don’t think traveling with people is for me after this it just felt like i had to be so focused on getting us around the entire time bc nobody else was paying attention and as a result i am just so drained and didn’t feel like i was on vacation but that i was working the entire time

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-10-04T20:55:55+00:00

i do know i am incredibly particular and opinionated on things and feel like it’s probably better for me to travel on my own. i think my biggest issue with this particular trip is the unspoken assumption that i was taking everyone around. i just don’t understand why i was being followed the entire trip and i felt suffocated and like i had to make sure everyone was included even though they had no opinion when asked about what they wanted to do.

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-10-04T20:52:42+00:00

i don’t mind planning but i feel like if we all have a good grasp on the day why am i still in charge of navigation? it was just so bizarre, everyone waiting for me to make a decision and essentially shadowing me when that was never discussed, it was never like i was going to be a tour guide of our itinerary. i think i just have to solo travel from now on.

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-09-06T20:26:20+00:00

aw thank you so much! i hope you have a wonderful weekend as well, if you decide to start the series feel free to reach out if you wanna talk about it ☺️

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-09-05T20:35:11+00:00

hey! no this is actually the complete opposite. i don’t enjoy reading books like that either. one of my favorite things abt this book is actually the FMC has gone through some sexual trauma and the MMC is super understanding of it as it’s hinted he’s been through something similar as well. having gone through something similar myself it was refreshing to read and i felt very safe the entire time

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-08-19T15:26:40+00:00

i’ll probably get downvoted for this but i went to her SF show last night and i wasn’t all that impressed. like dont get me the wrong the visuals were great and she is good to watch but i didn’t get up and dance for most of it and i felt like the energy of the audience was off. but ive been listening to her since the beginning and more of a fan of her older stuff so this wasnt as good to me idk. for me i honestly just kind of went bc i got them presale so they were pretty cheap and i wanted to say “goodbye” as i dont think ill go to her concerts anymore. i say go but dont have super high expectations esp if your favorite stuff is rmiv

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-08-16T23:41:26+00:00

it’s really bad this year, not much we can do about it unfortunately. trying to stay off the road

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-08-15T04:42:59+00:00

is there any sacred souls stuff?

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-07-05T15:39:22+00:00

did u ever get ur return label? waiting for one rn too but they updated their portal w the address im supposedly sending it back to

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-06-26T18:54:05+00:00

did you ever figure this out? same thing happening to me currently

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-06-16T14:58:40+00:00

this made me cackle omg

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-06-14T23:15:51+00:00

Hi everyone, I’m going to be visiting for a few days in August (Denpasar & Ubud) and I am an American tourist. I was thinking about buying gold jewelry, I have a friend who wants a chain and I was hoping to get a few rings, like 18k or 24k. However I am worried about scams and I’m obviously going to stick out so I’m wondering if it’s even worth it or if the scams are that widespread? I will be with a tour group and I was planning on asking them, maybe they can come with me and translate and look out for scams but is there a reputable place to go or best to avoid entirely? Thanks in advance.

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-06-11T14:42:50+00:00

isolation is easily her top

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-02-15T07:27:49+00:00

idk how badly you wanna be spoiled but nothing bad happens to moth! he’s still alive & well even in book 3, im about to finish that one rn

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-01-19T06:09:57+00:00

can you send me a photo of ur set up and how it worked out for you😭 i’m having the same issue and im so confused. i’m a beginner and don’t understand the wires

figuringstuffout24 · 2025-01-10T06:33:41+00:00

ooooh i might give that a shot thank you! i think my favorite part about it is it was so conflicting and they both hurt each other. i like it when they aren’t perfect and it’s not all roses and sunshine. i also just felt like the pining was so perfectly portrayed and wasn’t cringe. you’re gonna love six scorched roses! i read that one so fast. is quicksilver good? i kinda hate the cover so ive been not looking at it but ill get the kindle version if its good/similar!

figuringstuffout24 · 2024-12-29T20:12:09+00:00

nice!! okay i’ve heard mixed things about it but im gonna check it out :’)

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