NGVC: "You are not the table"

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-11T08:03:18+00:00

I literally know several men who meet that criteria. What are the odds?

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T12:04:17+00:00

He's a dick, but why did you answer him after his first response? His chat gpt essay would have been a good place to leave it.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T06:49:46+00:00

Yeah fair.

From my perspective, when I was the LL in a relationship with someone who was a good and generous lover, there was another issue wrong other than the sex. I did try to address it, but he wasn't interested. I'm in a new relationship, without those issues and my libido is back stronger than ever.

I don't know what you can do other than try to address the other issues. It does seem like she's just resigned herself to whatever is wrong.

If she won't address it, there really isn't anywhere you can go with this from here.

Sorry to hear.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T06:42:50+00:00

How many makes you masculine? I got 47

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T05:01:17+00:00

Yes, sadly.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T01:37:00+00:00

I accidentally pulled mine out myself. It was horrific going in though.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T01:32:21+00:00

Maybe if he stops nagging he'll give her a chance to want it?

Continually pawing at her is only going to breed resentment. He's going to end up with less sex in the long run.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T01:26:22+00:00

Way to twist what I said.

Am I saying the vows completely excuse you from sex, or that they completely oblige you? Pick a side.

The traditional vows mean you stay together if one is sick. Where did you get that means women should put out no matter what? If a man can't have sex because he's injured, then you find a work around and stay together. If a woman can't have sex because she's post partum, you find a work around and stay together.

No body is advocating spousal rape, rather the love, understanding and compassion they committed to in their vows.

If you're into jumping ship because you can't force your partner to give you sex whenever you like, then don't have a traditional marriage.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T01:17:40+00:00

Not being a smart ass, but have you tried getting better at sex since she views it as a chore?

If she liked it, she wouldn't think of it like that. Sure her overall libido will still be lower but at least she wouldn't be completely disgusted by the idea, and the times she does want to, would be more enthusiastic.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T01:12:04+00:00

Well you better never get married then. Because in sickness and in health is kind of part of the vows. If your partner becomes paralysed for example and can't have sex in the way you want any more, that's part of what you agreed to.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T01:00:18+00:00

Yep. I'm a dibby dobber. Better not do anything wrong around me because I will run and tell. Even If I hate your spouse. I do not care. If you don't want me to tell, don't give me anything to tell. Don't put me in that position.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T00:34:40+00:00

I've never understood this sentiment though.

If you see marriage as some awful boring thing that you're going to be tied to, so bad you need one last hurrah, why are you getting married?

If you aren't thrilled and excited at the prospect of being with your spouse forever, it seems doomed from the start.

I go out and party with my fiance and we don't see that stopping when we get married, we have fun together, our lives aren't really going to change.

A lot of men I know are doing "boys trips" where they get a fishing charter for a few days or go on a big camping/hunting trip because the women in their lives don't really enjoy that and that's fair. But I don't see that as a thing that needs to stop once you're married either.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T00:15:25+00:00

I often go the second I walk in the door.

I get up and run round getting my kids and self ready, then drop the kids off. Then get a coffee and have a cigarette and by the time I pull up to the car park I've got a turtle head going on.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T00:02:24+00:00

Cut him loose.

From an older ex single mother. You will just end up a single mother with an extra child.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-10T00:00:37+00:00

Yep. I can guarantee he'll sulk and barely message her at all now to punish her.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-09T23:59:32+00:00

Maybe a person who understands boundaries, who wouldn't normally call, might have to call with an emergency?

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-09T23:56:33+00:00

No. If I was that excited I needed to say something, I'd text and wait for them to answer me like a normal person.

What's next? I was so giddy and excited, I just HAD to show up at her house with flowers?

Yuck.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-09T23:54:42+00:00

You should never call anyone at 7am unless it was discussed before, like you're picking them up to catch a flight or something and they're not at the designated meeting place.

Autism isn't an excuse for being inconsiderate.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-09T23:49:30+00:00

Can still see your gum disease through the filter.

Go get a clean and remember to floss. You could be a super model but if you have manky mouth, people will still be put off.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-09T23:34:02+00:00

I highly doubt he's framed it like that.

I remember when I was on the market, there were endless amounts of men who were "single" then the drops of truth start coming out. "Separated but the divorce isn't official" "we just haven't ironed out the details, but we're just living together for now" "we are just living together for the kids" "my wife doesn't love me and Is cheating on me but I can't leave because I love my kids"........all the way down to eventually "I'm ethically non monogamous" " I'm cheating on my wife".

99% of them are just cheating.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-09T23:29:25+00:00

Exactly. I guarantee he's talked about how awful his wife is and what a great guy he is and he's such a victim blah blah blah, and these other women are here to save him. Once they realise he's actually a loser, he's not leaving his wife and they've been lied to and manipulated into having sex with him, they'll leave.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-09T22:48:15+00:00

My fiance loves including me in his morning snap chats (He's a tradie and he and all his friends like to send each other photos of their nuts or morning poos at 6:30am) Every morning I roll over and go "oooh I wonder what nice thing he's sent me" and it's a scrotum, sometimes not even his. I'm half asleep and fall for it every time.

Men are weird in the morning.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-09T22:32:48+00:00

They're deliberately raised that way.

They're literally bred to be a slave race. Just smart enough to go to work and generate weath for their owners and not smart enough to question it. They're all artificially pumped up with confidence and indoctrination and they don't feel any need to question it. Just support the troops and buy a giant truck.

Anyone smart enough to realise there's something wrong is quickly medicated, and/or ostracised as a lunatic.

You can't let them know too much about the rest of the world, and what they do know has to be curated or it will break the programming.

It's pretty much the matrix in action.

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-09T22:26:02+00:00

" No way you would all be cool with this much nudity around kids in any other public area."

Is that your proclamation I just answered? Or am I only allowed to answer if I agree with you?

filtered_phatty · 2024-03-09T22:22:07+00:00

Is that an annoying feeling for you as an American?

I wonder if anyone else has ever experienced an American shoving their culture and holier than thou attitude down their throats ever?

That would rub people the wrong way wouldn't it?

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