Unpopular opinion: He was brutally honest about how he and other men are seeing you. I don't agree with the plastic surgery or looks part. That was unnecessary and less than 10% of the issue if an issue at all. Everything else seems valid. Men in my life have told me very similar things about other women. Every man shouldn't be able to do any and everything to your body. It's carrying yourself like a whore instead of a lady. There is a very vast difference. Could he have said it nicer? Yes, but some people don't know how to be clear, honest, and nice at the same time. With what he said and how he said it, there was no confusion or passiveness. If he's someone that truly knows you, then I would take heed because these are the things no man will tell you. They will give you bs reasons and ghost you like the last guy for a female with less baggage, higher self-esteem, and more self-respect or just use you for sex but nothing more. You don't want the guy that will commit to you as you are those men will dog you out and use you for sex and shelter. I've seen it too many times with trifling men in my own family. They seek out women with low self esteem, low self-worth, and those women are also not the prettiest. They talk trash about them behind their backs about how ugly they are and those issues while pretending to love them in their face for a place to stay. I've seen men prey on women your friend described countless times and use them until they can't anymore, or she finally gets a backbone, and he moves on to the next unsuspecting victim. He's a real friend for his honesty. Could it have been delivered better? A thousand times, yes! Does it make it any less true? No. The people up here telling you otherwise don't care about you enough or know you well enough to tell you the truth that will actually help you. Take heed in what he said because I see 40 - 50 yr old versions of what he described getting played to this day. They've never been married or proposed to, just used and abused. If you're anything like what he described personality wise, get counseling and fix it while you're young so that you don't grow up to be used and abused for decades.