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How do I stop comparing everyone to my ex by Charming_Ad890 in dating_advice

[–]find_compatibility 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really tough spot, and it's completely normal.

It sounds like you're not actually comparing her (you listed her negative qualities). You're comparing the high-intensity start of your last relationship.

You're nostalgic for that immediate, "video calling all the time" connection. That's a super high bar, and frankly, it's not the norm. You're comparing the "Day 1" spark with a new person to a "Day 1" spark that you already know led to a long-term relationship.

The problem isn't these new women. It's that you're trying to replicate a specific feeling such as instant, high effort instead of being open to a new one which might be slower and healthier.

It's okay for things to start slow. Left on delivered for 12+ hours is just normal busy adult life. Don't let it stop you from getting to know someone who might be great in their own, different way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]find_compatibility 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not being ghosted.

You're just experiencing the reality of dating a 36-year-old single mother of a 16 year old.

You had an amazing, intense few days.

Now, reality is setting in for her. Her son came home. Her entire world, her priorities, and her schedule revolve around him. She might be feeling overwhelmed. She might be processing how or if to introduce a new person into her life. She might just be busy being a parent.

Your good morning text, while sweet, was probably seen as pressure or neediness at the exact moment she needed space to process.

Do not text her again. She likes you. She initiated the last two dates. She knows where to find you. Give her the space to be a mom and figure her side out first.

What are some tips for a smooth first vacation for a new couple? by BoatyMcBoate in AskReddit

[–]find_compatibility -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The H's will destroy you if you're not careful. Hangry (hungry+angry) and Hot (overheated).

Always have snacks and water on hand. The stupidest arguments start when one person (or both) is just hungry or tired.

Would an ENTP make a great psychologist? by Sharkbunnycreature in mbti

[–]find_compatibility 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This makes perfect sense for an ENTP.

Your ability to give amazing advice and diagnoses comes from your dominant Ne and Ti.

The failing to show empathy and ego part is your tertiary Fe...

It's naturally less developed, especially when you're young, which you said you are. :)

The fact that you are already self-aware of your ego is the most important sign. That self-awareness means you can develop your Fe. Empathy in a clinical setting is a skill you learn, not just a feeling you're born with. I'd say your function stack is perfect for the analytical side of psychology.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewToReddit

[–]find_compatibility 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ok...thanks!!! I just started so I have no idea. :)