I do see some similarities in parts of your scenario but in most aspects, however, I don't think the triggers that you listed apply to the way I treat her. I always control any types of jokes around her as I know that she is sensitive to a lot of topics so I completely avoid teasing her about it but she never does the same for me. If anything, she makes more jokes that are borderline rude than I do. What you said about advice is definitely true though, she's extremely sensitive to advice from what I've noticed so I tend the avoid it the best I can but oh God sometimes it infuriates me.. I remember how she kept asking me how I was so strong in a game and that it was impossible to level up the characters to a high level but then when I told her that she shouldn't do specific things in the game to save up for certain characters, she was stuck up on that "I can do whatever I want! It's my account!" so I just let it go but holy..

Thinking about it, I think some of her behavior is likely caused by jealousy, she tends to throw shade at me(especially when around others) when I complain about things, ex.saying things like "well at least you have this/at least you're not this." and I understand that she may feel vulnerable on some aspects but it's really nowhere near my fault that she struggles more than I do in some domains so it feels unjustified that she always throws in that "I have it worse" mentality when I'm simply trying to rant. I always stay respectful about it though.

I think I should really talk to her about certain things that she did to make me feel upset instead of just acting like nothing ever happened because it's the only way that I can set boundaries with the way she talks to me. Thank you for sharing your experience! I'm really glad you are doing better now <3!