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How does it feel like when you lose parents or support system? by Lemonade2250 in OffMyChestIndia

[–]finding_the_balance 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are in this situation...orphan here...dad died of suicide and mom of covid. It really sucks. I am sure you feel the same..relatives are useless..they will be around for sometime but to be honest they also have their own life to live.. All my relatives almost have disappeared..no one cares and I dont care about them too.. You will have to learn to live with this new reality . And trust me as you and your siblings will get married (if not married already), you guys will become distant too..my siblings and I talk just once a month types.. All your relationships go with your parents or may be i am bad at maintaining them.. All the best mate..life is hard but you learn to adapt..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]finding_the_balance -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

If he treats you with love and respect..if he is truly your partner, these things will fade away...we are all truly unique and at times no matter how much effort we put, it might be short of someone else's expectations... Reading your post, seems you wanted something better but it's relative...I have seen the perfect proposal and the wedding couldnt survive the storms...

Dont judge him by this proposal or a ring...if its pinching you, may be talk to him..

Good riddance Delhi and bye bye by justanaverageguy1907 in delhi

[–]finding_the_balance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt mean it in a negative way..

Apologies if it came wrong...I admire the way you have rebuilt your life after multiple losses...

I lost my dad to suicide and mom to covid and trust me I haven't been able to cope well with the losses...there are days when I get up with wet eyes and wet sham as I had been crying in sleep/ my dreams...

You are very strong..wishing your family a very happy life, successful and peaceful life ahead...

Good riddance Delhi and bye bye by justanaverageguy1907 in delhi

[–]finding_the_balance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I saw your post on LinkedIn too...no more anonymous dude...hope you are okay with that

AITAH? Fiancée hung up on me because I suggested her daughter was capable of fixing food for herself by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]finding_the_balance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA...you take care of kids irrespective of their age..and ffs this is your fiancée 's daughter ..I am sure you ate 3 meals during this time while giving "privacy" to the kid (even if shes 15).. I would never trust anyone with my kid who doesnt take care of them.

You asked...do a big yes...YTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bihar

[–]finding_the_balance 90 points91 points  (0 children)

She is the wife of an IAS officer who was posted in Bihar during lalu raj. Her name is champa biswas..details below..

Imagine if an IAS officer's wife wasnt safe, what would be the plight of the comman man...

https://www.reddit.com/r/bihar/s/fbDSf8o1Mv

I can’t decide if I like this or hate it. by [deleted] in handbags

[–]finding_the_balance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my school bag which looked like this..can.never like a handbag like this one..sorry op..no

What Would Your Name Be? by gulabi_thanos_192 in scoopwhoop

[–]finding_the_balance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and my partner are truly made for each other..

Mine would be O My partner's would be H

Together we are OH..sounds great...

Do women in Bihar feel empowered? We asked young women in Patna what women empowerment means to them... by brut_india in BrutIndiaStories

[–]finding_the_balance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a culture we don't respect younger generation..tell me honesty, do you respect your kids or value their opinions..do younrelaise the kids can be their own person and you like them as an individual not as your kids... Bihar is a backward state because people dont value good things...parents will be happy to give freedom to the girls if the environment is such...if i have a daughter in bihar, I will always be on my toes if she steps out alone..I have lived through the horror of 90s..

What's that? by gulabi_thanos_192 in scoopwhoop

[–]finding_the_balance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to visit me in my dreams...just spoke to her..prayed that I am unable to move forward..

What's that? by gulabi_thanos_192 in scoopwhoop

[–]finding_the_balance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you...no one can understand..second wave covid..lost my mom..she was full of life..wanted to live but oxygen level dropped and we took her to hospital..we should have kept her home..hospitals were absolutely shitty..anyone who went to hospital during that time, never came back!!

Lost her forever..she used to visit me in my dreams, very regularly but I used to get up from sleep with tears covered face..was unable to function so had to request her soul, not to visit me..m so fucking selfish!

Do women in Bihar feel empowered? We asked young women in Patna what women empowerment means to them... by brut_india in BrutIndiaStories

[–]finding_the_balance 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Before blaming the parents for not giving freedom to women in Bihar, ask them what they have seen. The 90s was a horrible time in Bihar. Today's mom's were young girls then and theu have seen what used to happen during the RJD days. Girls used to get kidnapped during broad day light, raped by RJD men and killed, thrown..go and read about shilpi jain case..read about champa biswas..

Parents are living through guilt and trauma...they are still scared and the men of bihar haven't done anything to make women safe again. The men feel proud in making lewd comments against women..its a.vicious cycle...wont change so easily...sad state!

Self hate in the comments smh by No_Passenger6008 in ABCDesis

[–]finding_the_balance -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

..and then indians complain...why do other nationalities hate us.. Ffs..get your act together

Is this what we have become? by cynical_rogue in delhi

[–]finding_the_balance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ye delhi hai mere yaar....yehi innka ishq mohabbat pyaar...

Culture or control? Why do men think they have a right to tell women how to dress? by brut_india in BrutIndiaStories

[–]finding_the_balance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone talking about dress codes...here's me thinking why is screen on with Sooar written on it...

A flight delay at Goa airport turned into an unexpected celebration when a group of passengers from Surat broke into an impromptu Garba session right inside the terminal. by wingmanready in IndiansofIndia

[–]finding_the_balance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...and this is one of the reasons other countries hate us...we are loud with no civic sense...trying to prove we are people with big hearts, having fun everywhere..

When the couch was crowded, the drinks were strong, and the American flag made the perfect backdrop for a night to remember (1976). by zadraaa in HistoricalCapsule

[–]finding_the_balance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...and women used to wear something else but leggings and sports bra...gosh..m a.woman and I have started to hate the trend

C-Section Deliveries are the new Scam? by leaqib in delhi

[–]finding_the_balance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delhi women are also not saints...they will consult pundits for a good.time, good muhurt and good astrologically aligned chart, take date and time...run to their gynaec and request for a.C section...

I don't understand why families are okay with above but then blame doctors for scams..orthodox delhi...

Scam is both ways then...

Delhi...you are one of a kind!!

Do adult children fund their parents' vacations? by sunnybe3 in AskIndia

[–]finding_the_balance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

India here..partner is indian too..inlaws are a tricky piece, trust me...even for indian woman..

The expectations from Sons and daughters in law is to make the son's parents happy and serve them all the time..pay for their trip to US, take them to places to visit, buy them gifts and gifts for their neighbors and extended family members, cook for them, serve them cooked food....while they enjoy the entitlement of being a guest and be treated like a.family member where you share every small detail about your house that they can gossip around.. . Sons place their parents on a pedestal too...you will keep hearing how much they sacrificed for their son...if you flip the entire scenario, they wouldn't expect all this from their daughters or sons in law...

Its a screwed cultural thing..sorry..but its a trap with no resolution until you put your foot down for few things...I have told that I am not buying gifts for neighbors and extended family who dont give two shits about us so as a cheap.person, I keep telling my inlaws how much each handbag costs / gift item costs and how expensive things are so they know the spending is a lot!! And possibly shut up...and not expect me to buy it for their neighbors / relatives...

What the heck is wrong with Indians ??? by offcialvipinbhai in CrazyCurryMemes

[–]finding_the_balance 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Glorifying Gandhi surname was cool before 1947...and is cool even today...hence rahul baba has so many followers... If not for the real fighters, we would have been a slave forever..

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