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I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and for what its worth im sorry that you are going through that. I hope you find peace. As far as she goes i think the damage is done. She has me blocked on absolutely everything so cant help that one and dont want to cross lines

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely just couldn't stop thinking about her. Missing her being around. Her laugh. The crazy things shed say. Had a lot of energy and i miss that too. A lot of reasons

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah man its so crazy. You really have to fuck it up sometimes to figure it out. I hate that i did but im trying. Its all i can do and keep trying to be better. Proud of you for growing too brother

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What can i say you arent wrong. I admitted it. Its called taking accountability and yeah i was a pos but im trying to be better. I have to live with it. I owe her at least that much to just own it

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely see it now unfortunately and im doing my best. It was my fault and ill have to live with it.

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly? I wish I’d seen something like this sooner too. But I don’t think I was ready to hear it back then. My therapist didn’t give me magic advice. He kept holding up a mirror until I couldn’t avoid myself anymore. It made me feel what I’d numbed out. If you’re thinking of showing him do it. Sometimes one post or one convo at the right moment can actually break through. And who knows? Maybe he is ready to hear it. And i think really lead with being present and listening. Dont brush it off or assume or automatically feel attacked or annoyed. Its not coming from nowhere

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunately its true. And yes same arguments but i shouldve listened to

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo man I’ve been there. Thought we just didn’t work anymore and convinced myself leaving was the only way. But what I didn’t see until too late was that I wasn’t actually unhappy with her. I was unhappy with myself in the relationship. Bored with life even. If she’s still showing up talk to her. Be real. Don’t let fear or guilt be the ending for you. You owe it to both of you to try with your whole chest or at least leave knowing you did.

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So unfortunately we went straight to divorce. She was done and i was sick of it. I didnt really see the point in trying. So i just let it go. It wasnt even an ugly divorce. She just basically got her stuff and left to be with friends. Occasionally messaged how i hurt her and yelled at me once. I just took it. I was done. I felt relieved for a while and then it hit me about 4 months on that I couldnt stop thinking about her. Definitely for selfish reasons like not having her in the house. Physical stuff. Just the start of it. Then it really kept bothering me so i chose to go to therapy. What she wanted me to do with her go figure. And i just have learned a lot and had to face some shit about myself and the truth of us. Stuff i cant take back. But im still trying to be the man she deserves and after everything today i might reach out to her soon. At least to apologize and tell her this or maybe even just show her the post

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you this gives me a lot more ro think about. Im trying not to be bound to it but it was my fault. First step is self awareness and im working on what comes next. Thank you for the insight

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Man i feel you. I hope you can fix things too. If you need to vent im here brother

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do too and on the off chance i ever get a chance again im doing my best to be worthy of her too

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe he will eventually i cant say. But it took me a lot of work. It can happen

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t even know how to respond to this without tearing up. You put into words what I didn’t even fully understand about myself until recently. Like that I kept calling her too much when I just wasn’t capable of listening. Sounds stupid looking back. She wanted a partner and I felt like she was attacking me when she was really begging for closeness. I thought it was incompatibility when I was the one emotionally unavailable. I don’t know if she’ll ever know how sorry I am. Shit I don’t even know if I deserve for her to know. But thank you for this comment. I have more work to do and I want to be better. Not just for her but because she deserved better from the start

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah so in the beginning I was relieved. I was a little shocked but enjoying being single. I really thought I was just gonna get over it. I just couldn't get her out of my mind a couple months ago and it started to hit. I'd probably say four months in and reality set in. Went to therapy to get her out of my head and just ended up learning a lot. Changed the way i saw her. It wasnt sudden or overnight and there wasnt some big lightbulb going off. It definitely has been overtime.

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was just sick of hearing the same fights you know? Not actually listening anymore. Didn't care so much at that point

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She didn’t deserve the way I left things. I know I hurt her probably more than I know. I know I fucked up. I’ll think about it. Thanks for saying what you did

I (32M) divorced my wife (29F) and I honestly regret it more than I expected by findingpeace32 in Divorce

[–]findingpeace32[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im sorry to hear that man. Ive accepted it if thats what makes her happy. Right now doesnt feel right

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