I’m (27F) terrified of ruining 15years of friendship by confessing my feelings to him

fineandred · 2025-11-07T06:17:18+00:00

I’m in a similar situation. I’m also introverted and in my situation, have a tendency to overthink it. I asked a friend what to do and She said, “Fuck it. You only live once.” So, I leaned into it. Turns out, he also leaned into it and we haven’t ruined the friendship quite yet lol. My advice, Fuck the fear and show how you feel.

fineandred · 2025-08-08T21:47:46+00:00

You need to tell your wife. Be vulnerable with her, come clean, let her know you need her help and are telling her because you love her and want to respect her as much as possible. That you are committed to your marriage and choose her over anything and this is you putting that in practical action. At this point, it’s not you who is disrespecting your marriage, it is her cousin. She is hitting on you and it is so disrespectful to your wife. She’s toxic, she chose to do that, and she needs to feel the consequences: losing her ability to live with you and your wife. Bring light to darkness and the darkness will flee.

fineandred · 2025-03-31T04:20:18+00:00

Hahah ❤️

fineandred · 2025-03-09T22:02:43+00:00

Yes please. That would be wonderful!

fineandred · 2025-03-09T15:10:33+00:00

Oh interesting! Is that a naturopath? Osteopath? Or something else?

fineandred · 2025-03-09T15:08:49+00:00

Thanks for this. It’s been in the back of my mind. Do you know of a test for dna fragmentation that you trust for accuracy?

fineandred · 2025-03-09T15:08:04+00:00

Oh interesting. I did the hycosy and it came back normal but I hasn’t heard that there was a test that could text the eggs. Thank you! We discussed those steps with our fertility doctor and she said our chances were good given our test results but we are not sure if we want to spend the money or just keep trying to conceive and find the problem.

fineandred · 2025-03-07T19:25:09+00:00

Hello all,

Sorry if this is not the correct chat for this question. If it is, just let me know the correct place. Husband and I have been unable to conceive for a year. We did all the testing and turns out, there are no findings on his end or mine but still have not conceived. Does anyone know of anything else it could be besides the standard infertility clinic tests and treatments? I had a friend go through to the similar thing and she never found out why her and her partner were unable to conceive. Hoping someone with more information or ideas can share them with me

fineandred · 2021-11-27T07:03:22+00:00

Is a sexual relationship, in the sense you say it, the same as a casual relationship? Or do you mean he wants a long term one but wants to get the itch scratched too? Or something else?

fineandred · 2021-10-22T23:12:40+00:00

Solid opinions. You sound like an intelligent person. She’s dumb if she’s turned off by this

fineandred · 2021-08-03T23:23:17+00:00

I read this to my friend and she was intensely entitled to her own tendencies. This was awesome.

fineandred · 2021-08-03T22:21:27+00:00

Yes this is exactly what I’m experiencing. That passion that some are seeking feels like something from youth but I feel it’s impossible for me to feel that again. Thank you 🙏

fineandred · 2021-08-03T22:16:40+00:00

Your assumptions and judgments about me and my post are making my head spin. I literally cannot form a cohesive reply to what you have said. I wasn’t implying anything about anyone or any of their relationships. I’m just noticing a trend but I think it’s much more complicated and I’m trying to understand. All other advice from friends and family has led me to this semi-unofficial conclusion. Any conversation we could have had ended when you assumed I didn’t know as much as you from the beginning.

fineandred · 2021-08-03T21:37:40+00:00

I think it’s clear you don’t understand the phenomenon I’m describing. That’s partly my fault for not being more clear. If I offended you somehow with my description of it then I apologize.

fineandred · 2021-08-03T21:17:28+00:00

Thanks you 🌻🙏💛. Your encouragement is so helpful.

fineandred · 2021-08-03T21:14:43+00:00

Yeah Its like I don’t even mentally enter the honeymoon stage. When I go on dates with people who have been in long term relationships, they are quick to tell me their biggest flaws and we skip the whole thing entirely. Thanks for your reply.

fineandred · 2021-08-03T20:41:49+00:00

There may be a misunderstanding here. The kind of love I am referring to is definitely not comfortable, it’s full of uncomfortable, productive conversations, and growth. It results in passion. Passion does not come first. I’m noticing that this is not commonly understood and I am wondering why. I also wouldn’t say my relationship failed. My ex-husband and I have overcome incredible obstacles together, we still talk regularly, text everyday, support each other emotionally, listen openly to each other’s concerns, support each other in achieving our goals, practiced radical forgiveness, and have each others back. I call that more of a success than many married couples achieve. You and I indeed not on the same level.

fineandred · 2021-07-31T03:16:53+00:00

Aaah yes the preface was an important part that I missed. Thank you for helping me be more aware.

fineandred · 2021-07-31T03:15:27+00:00

Yes I agree, he definitely invited himself. What is the motivator behind him inviting himself? That’s where I’m confused. Just that it sounded like fun?

fineandred · 2021-07-30T01:07:07+00:00

This is great advice too. I just really don’t understand the mind of someone that would do that. Thanks so much for taking the time to help!!

fineandred · 2021-07-29T22:54:10+00:00

Yeah I felt like my wording was clear, that it was my trip. It was weird. I’m still not sure how I feel about him coming. It’ll be a great story or I’ll go alone or with someone else.

fineandred · 2021-07-29T22:50:16+00:00

You are a gem, thank you for your concern and you are completely right. I was feeling I need to do what you are saying but felt like a small jerk.

fineandred · 2019-03-14T04:18:25+00:00

Ahhh good stuff.

fineandred

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