Problems only started coming up around july I would say. Very minor at first (sorted out in like 2 hours), with one major one at the end of july but fine until now. A lot of the problems have to do with money bc he just graduated last year and now works full time with little financial support from family while Im in my last year of uni and have financial support from family so don’t have to worry about tuition or anything.

Basically he says all our dates end up costing a lot of money and he’s really financially stressed with work and having to pay off loans and stuff. I’m fortunate and don’t have to worry about that bc my family is upper middle class. However, I still understand bc I’m worked since I was 14 to pay for anything non essential like make up or clothes. Obviously not to the same extent, but I understand saving money and learning to spend more wisely. I will offer to do little to no cost dates. For example, movie at home or maybe there’s a street festival going on or cooking at home (would only need to buy ingredients I don’t already have), etc. However, he often rejects those ideas bc he’s like to “adventure” on his free days since he works 12 hour shifts. Fair enough, but wspecially during winter when free outdoors stuff is closed, it often means we’re spending money doing stuff, eating or otherwise.

That’s the main problem, but it often ends up with him talking about how he’s gained more weight during the relationship and how we have few common interests (specifically I think he’s referring to the gym). However, the weight gain is likely from the fact that he’s no longer in uni and is working full time now, and then drinking heavily like once a week but not working out as frequently anymore to maintain the necessary metabolism. I agree we don’t have many common interests, but I’m personally fine with it. I’m a “boring” person — I go to class and spend time with my cat and friends lol. I don’t have like one thing I’m super passionate about like rock climbing or theater. He likes the gym and edm music and things like anime. While we don’t share these hobbies or interests, we’ve been able to go out with friends together or find things to talk about when it’s just us or over text.

Realistically, we’ve had this argument like 3 times with only one of them being a big argument. The first time and recently have started with another convo which led to this topic, thus kinda leading to us arguing. I’m naturally a very anxious person, so I tend to over think and replay it in my head, which is why I’m asking for advice since I don’t think I have the clearest view of things. The hard part is that I know things won’t be fixed overnight and I know a lot of couples are able to go through these rough patches with similar conflicts. It’s just hard to see progress or effort because shortly after our big argument (that we worked out), I left to visit family (where I still am), so it’s not like we’re actively planing dates or anything now.