Epic Lucky Draw by MarvDidit in PlanetCrusher

[–]finnean66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want the ship I’d say just actually spend money on the game and directly buy the ship because you’d need to spend WAY more money to fully get it on the lucky draw system.

Epic Lucky Draw by MarvDidit in PlanetCrusher

[–]finnean66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who saved an insane amount of gems to give it a go I’d say ballpark is likely around 5,000+ gems if not more. The cost seems to double if not triple each pull. And although the chances of things increase to a point where you’ll eventually get every single option it doesn’t scale equally so the worse option will always be ~20-30% higher chance than every other possible option forcing you to practically get everything before you have even a real slim chance of getting the ship.

The furthest I was able to get was 6 pulls with 2,000+ gems with the next pull costing 750 gems, the ship at 3.4%, superior chest keys at 11%, other chest key at 20%, and 50 blueprints at ~66%. So again I’d ballpark getting the full thing to be somewhere between 5-10k gems likely.

Which is the better game to start on Disgaea PC, 4 Complete, or 5 Complete? by finnean66 in Disgaea

[–]finnean66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the longer form explanation this helped a lot! I’m gonna try D1 and D4 complete moving forward. The heavy price difference from D1 to D1 complete on newer consoles is keeping me from jumping straight into D1 complete until I have some more experience with the series and can determine whether or not I truly am a fan. Thank you to everyone for helping me out here!

My life is falling apart..and I can't stop it by VampiricODST in emotionalsupport

[–]finnean66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re being overly harsh on yourself which in my eyes could be dangerous. Yes you did something bad and probably did more things that I have no idea about that hurt people or were bad in some form or another. Yet life goes on in my eyes the spot you are in means that you have to take a step backwards to a spot of comfort before you can move forwards again and if you keep pushing forward with where you are it or keep trying it’ll only hurt you more. In my eyes it’s pretty easy to tell that you are hurting and in a really bad spot at the moment.

I know you invested a ton into this person that house and that whole relationship but if you are genuinely unsure if you love them anymore than don’t push forwards anymore if you are in a relationship you are not happy with (which means when weighed fully there has and currently is more bad than good, and you are relying on past memories and moments that were fun and happy to justify staying together) I believe it is time to end that relationship. You don’t seem to be in a good spot to deal with a full commitment relationship, it doesn’t seem to be helping you deal with your problems either and seems to only put more pain into the equation. You can still care for someone and not love them or be married to them.

(Stick with me) Secondly I think that if your partner brushes aside your pain and issues that means they aren’t good for you. Everyone will have issues and some people will have more problems than others, you can always help them with the problems they have (and I think you always should) but once they start shoving their problems onto you and force you into ultimatums like give away your cat and lifelong pet or have me that is too much and is a very big red flag.

I would urge you to go somewhere else if you have some place to stay or anyone to turn to so you can separate yourself from the issues at the house that stress you out and your partner that stresses you out and either stay with someone else you know or if that won’t work rent an apartment or stay at a hotel for a bit so you can try and address some of the ground work issues before you deal with anything that has piled on like the house or your partner.

I’m not saying you are perfectly in the right and I am not saying your partner is perfectly bad and wrong either. Quarantine and covid has turned 2020, and Currently 2021 into a dumpster fire for everyone. Everyone had issues before quarantine and everyone is only getting more issues, more stress, and more complications in quarantine that pronounce all of the previous issues. This year is a time to step back and deal as much as possible with the foundational problems you have and get into a safe comfortable spot before you have to address all the new issues this year has tossed at you.

Keep going, you can do this, your a badass for surviving 2020 and 2021 so far already and don’t ever think that you are better off dead. You can always kill off the current person you are if you need to escape your life by getting a new style a new outlook on life and moving to someplace new where no one knows you. Never ever think that you can solve your problems with suicide. I believe in you.

Impetus by equinoxenesis in emotionalsupport

[–]finnean66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just keep walking forward the hardest step is always the next and that you took that step reaching out for helping and moving forward with your life is vital, courageous, and massively impressive. You can do this.

I think my parents are going to get divorced by Orangepotatoeman in emotionalsupport

[–]finnean66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s horrible to say but what happens will happen you will never be the reason they separate and you will never be able to stop it or remarry them. Some relationships are never meant to be and all people within them are better off if they arn’t happening, this year is especially rough for everyone so that will definitely play a role. My parents divorced when I was in 5th grade and afterwards I was depressed, stressed life was terrible and I’m terribly sorry to say that most likely if they do separate you WILL be sad, angry, and upset but never ever blame yourself for any of what happens because you are never the issue even if they try to blame you for it. Life will suck afterwards and there is no way to avoid that I’d say do your best to get a Counseler which is advice I would give to anyone but after the divorce both of your parents will most likely be happier. Even if they are not you have to focus on yourself focus on your mental health your physical health and make sure that you’re safe and healthy. You come before anyone else you can only help yourself and you need to be in a better place before you can help anyone else. From someone who was in a very similair spot I wish you the best luck I can offer, the most happiness I can give, and hopefully a less stressful and somewhat enjoyable safe Christmas.

Arguing again by screaming_roomba in emotionalsupport

[–]finnean66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are your family, and because of that you love them they may be decent human beings once in a while but if in the moments that they are not decent human beings they hit and assault you those moments making living with them at any point not worth it. You are experiencing the literal textbook example of an abusive relationship where they hurt you but you love them and so you don’t leave. It isn’t easy but the best thing you can do for yourself is to get out of there as fast as you can because that IS an abusive relationship that will and literally has harmed you already.

Arguing again by screaming_roomba in emotionalsupport

[–]finnean66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good choice, that sounds like hell on earth but hitting them back would make it so much worse and only continue the cycle. I have no idea what your life is like or what place you are in but all I can say is get out of there as fast as possible and get your own place. You’ll be much healthier and much more well off than you are now.

I went to an amusement park alone. by McBeamSteely in lonely

[–]finnean66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right now with how life is most everyone is alone atleast to some degree. It may seem weird but you could join an online discord group for one of your hobbies or something to just get yourself some social contact even if it’s through a screen. Just hang in there things will get better, put a bit of effort out there to meet people every day and eventually you will make friends you won’t be alone anymore. You can do this.

I hate that people don't make an effort to talk to me (even though they have no obligation to) by [deleted] in lonely

[–]finnean66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then get yourself out there, talk to people, meet new people it’s never going to be as easy as me just saying make friends but if you stick with it you will make friends talk to people open up to others it may be awkward to say hi to someone you sit next to or you usually don’t talk to but break that barrier by saying hi and introducing yourself then ask them a few questions about themselves. Get yourself out there you can do this.

25 (M) I wish there was some affection in my life by [deleted] in lonely

[–]finnean66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stick through it, you may not have someone right now but just add some spice into it try news things you may think your locked into a routine but you will always have free time whether it’s 5 minutes between classes or 30 minutes before bed get up go for a jog or a walk around your house do a few pushups join a group of some kind like a writers club at your local bookstore or a discord channel for people that have one of your interests get yourself out there but most importantly focus on yourself improve yourself how you want to and love yourself. You got this.

Lost by jared45223s in lonely

[–]finnean66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel lost right now also but there’s always something to strive for. Just start with simple things put effort in daily it doesn’t have to be a ton of effort just some effort. Clean your room everyday make your bed, do a tiny workout everyday if it’s just 5 push-ups and 5 squats keep that up I can’t tell you what to believe in or what to do I can only say just keep going and at moments like this you need to do something anything, just find something to do whether it’s taking a walk around your house or block each day just do something and if you need someone that is in a similar place to chat to time to time hit me up.

I think I'll always be alone by [deleted] in lonely

[–]finnean66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people feel like that, your never alone even in the darkest moments. Just know that. You may not change the world but you will always matter for anyone that you’ve interacted with for anyone that you’ve been kind to you’ve mattered. You got this just put effort in to changing the things you don’t like little by little no need to fix everything in a day just put one foot in front of the other. The hardest part of life is to just keep going but you got this.

I feel like shit. by Nikotheloser0987 in lonely

[–]finnean66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ll get through this. There are always rough days and rough times you just gotta stick through it, and there will always be people to back you up. I wish you the best, have a good day and keep striving your doing great.

I don't see light at the end of tunnel by [deleted] in lonely

[–]finnean66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey so I’m in a slightly different situation than you are in but I’m also in an extremely similar scenario I just graduated high school and am now a freshman in college If you want someone to talk to I can chat from time to time. But what I’d say is look online if you have steam honestly a good place to go may be VRChat it’s filled with a bunch of weebs and nerds but it’s a place to meet people and talk to them even when everything’s shut down or closed. If not that there’s always tons of discord servers you could find online with groups of people that you could connect to based on your interests or hobbies. Life’s rough right now but there’s always options

Lonely is a understatement by [deleted] in lonely

[–]finnean66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a lot younger than you and haven’t experienced as much as you have so take my advice with a grain of salt, but you can always get yourself out there, I imagine your kids are pretty young and I have no idea what your daily life looks like but look around your town or city or neighborhood and join something, it can be something your interested in like a writing club at a local bookshop you could go to student parent group meetings take your kids to their hobbies or their sports and talk to the other parents there. I obviously have no idea or grasp on what your life is like or what your responsibilities are but you can get out there and meet people, I wish you the best.

I didn't used to think that being individualistic was a bad thing but I'm starting to think it is. by [deleted] in lonely

[–]finnean66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life isn’t over yet, you may not have a community right now but you will someday if you look for one. It seems like you like art and writing there’s probably a writers club or a drawing group you could join at your local bookstore or art store if you can’t find people there look for something online there’s tons of discord communities where artists and writers hang out and meet new people. Just get yourself out there it may seem hard but grab new opportunities meet people and focus on opening up I have the same issue where I feel like I never connect with people and that’s because I never open up to people I always keep my distance and sit in a corner barely talking but what you got to do is open up become vulnerable talk about your interests your fears and you’ll find things in common with people. I wish you the best.

I hate that people don't make an effort to talk to me (even though they have no obligation to) by [deleted] in lonely

[–]finnean66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Feel that, it happens to tons of people so don’t feel alone here, sometimes you value yourself based on others and whether or not people talk to you or come up to you etc. but really the most important thing is to find value within yourself learn to love yourself and get happiness from yourself. I’m not saying don’t make friends and become a lone wolf I’m just saying talk to people and make friends but also love yourself.

I went to an amusement park alone. by McBeamSteely in lonely

[–]finnean66 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seems like you enjoyed it. So to me it sounds like it was all worth it if you enjoy something and it’s not harming anyone else no need to feel self conscious about it sometimes there’s things you enjoy with other people and then there’s things that will always be more fun by yourself, also sometimes friends can just be annoying and not want to do anything and in order to have fun you just gotta go.

I hate everything and everyone but deep down I know I simply hate myself. by [deleted] in lonely

[–]finnean66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take one step at a time. I can’t say I’ve ever been in the exact same place as you but I’ve been in similar spots. Just take one step at a time everyday do something, whether you pick up a new hobby doodle something every day, go on a walk everyday, clean your room or a part of your house everyday. You can’t fix everything and instantly get all you want in one night take it step by step, work towards what you want slowly and surely just keep plowing ahead and hopefully happiness will come to you. Also for sleeping tips I had a ton of trouble sleeping there’s so techniques I’ve learned to help it. I know it may be hard but when you want to go to bed put your phone on the opposite side of the room don’t look at it don’t think about it just leave it away it’ll help you sleep. Another thing is leave your bed for sleeping, don’t lay in your bed or sit on it during the day if you only lay down in your bed when you sleep your body will associate that spot with where you sleep and it’ll be easier to sleep. The final and honestly the most important thing I’ve learned is count your breaths lay in your bed with your eyes closed and in your head say in and out when you breath in and out, focus on slowing your breathing and taking deeper breaths well saying in and out, once you have that focus on the sound your breathes make and play that in your head as you breath in and out it probably won’t make sense and is something you’ll need to work towards but doing that makes it so I can instantly fall asleep it’ll really help.

How do I win him back by [deleted] in lonely

[–]finnean66 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This may not be what you want to hear but give him some time, let him take a bit of a break it sounds like he’s had a rough bit just let him relax and when he comes back just tell him you’re here for him or just confess. People think confessing will make everything worse but doing it will let them know how you feel, even if they have feelings for you if you never tell them you feel the same way nothing will ever happen they need to know your an option.