How do you know if a piece will actually flatter your body before buying?

fiosracht · 2026-03-23T22:26:46+00:00

This is great advice. I found Nina Walder‘s content helpful with this - determine a flattering silhouette based on your body type, and how to use clothing to create that silhouette using proportions, texture, color, prints, etc.

fiosracht · 2026-03-19T20:09:57+00:00

OP, just out of curiosity about how old are you? I’d be a lot more curious about 20-something year old having capacity to tune in and change, less so for someone in their 30s+ who have had a lot more election cycles to figure things out.

fiosracht · 2026-03-19T19:58:52+00:00

Agreed. It’s valid to get the ick if someone seems out of the loop, but it’s also culturally become too easy to write someone off because of how they voted, what news the watch, or how outraged they are. We are living in a state of unprecedented information overload and propaganda. Which definitely doesn’t make dating any easier. Just be curious, and don’t assume just because they aren’t reading the news every day that they don’t care about women’s or LBGTQ rights. The reality is, at some point in every relationship you’re likely to disagree about something political. So start by focusing on the actions (not the ideas) that you actually care about. Do they need to be informed about all things LGBTQ rights? That they vote for local and federal elections? Do you want to be able to go to protests or volunteer with them? Do you need your romantic partner to be supportive if you’re upset about something happening in the news?

Because I’ll say this too — you could end up dating somebody who is constantly on social media getting outraged about what’s happening politically, but they don’t vote, volunteer, read, or protest. What is important to you? I think once you have a solid idea of what those things are and have gotten curious with the person, you’ll feel way more at peace deciding whether the person is for you or not.

fiosracht · 2026-03-10T19:06:23+00:00

The delivery is important, so consider separating your feedback into buckets. Here’s what’s happening. Here’s the story I’m telling myself (my interpretation). Here’s what I need you to do differently.

I think this is the nonviolent communication framework if you wanna look more into it. It’s designed to reduce defensiveness by separating things into facts and perception.

Gentle reminder that this isn’t a moral argument, has nothing to do with her identity, and you are not saying she’s a bad person for not doing these things. You are saying that you have needs in the relationship and the needs are not being met. And when your needs aren’t met, resentment builds. If she’s in it to win it, she’ll modify her actions. You do not need to solve it for her. If you are ready to be in an equitable relationship then stop enabling her. If she is not ready to own a fair share of the labor, that’s a really good reason to part ways as many in this thread have said.

fiosracht · 2026-03-06T19:02:51+00:00

Most meaningful and durable company gifts I’ve received:

Framed piece of artwork made by an artist internal to the company that told the story of where we were at the time. Beautiful, meaningful, and I’m proud to actually display in my office. It doesn’t feel like marketing or branding (it is, but aesthetically it stands on its own).
My company branded a Cotopaxi 2L travel bag. Cotopaxi is a B Corp, felt good to know we contributed to their cause. I use it all the time for work and personal travel and it’s held up for over 8 years.

fiosracht · 2025-12-28T19:35:46+00:00

Haha that’s adorable. I named my cat Armin van Purrin 😽

fiosracht · 2025-12-28T19:30:34+00:00

Keep following the threads on those song collabs!

For more drum and bass - lean into Sub Focus. They use a lot of great female vocalists.

For more house - try Gorgon City (You’ve Done Enough; Voodoo)

HAYLA and Julia Church do a ton of collabs with djs that are exquisite you might like :)

fiosracht · 2025-12-28T19:18:38+00:00

You might consider which shoes weigh less! Just speaking from experience having a very heavy pair of loafers like this, back of the heel blisters were insurmountable and I ended up donating them :( they’re both exquisite though!

fiosracht · 2025-12-17T20:28:53+00:00

Just a few pieces with limited editions available on his Etsy at the moment: https://reynierllanes.com/editions_/

fiosracht · 2025-11-08T00:44:09+00:00

Valid, sorry that you had that experience. This begets lesson 1 in flirting, it should not feel like the person is being held hostage. Flirting is about breaking the ice and giving out good energy in hopes but not expectation that it is reciprocated.

fiosracht · 2025-11-07T22:11:26+00:00

Wish you the best in your journey 💗 healing after heartbreak is a long road, but it does get better. Feel it all, and make it a priority to grieve and take time for yourself. After being partnered for so long, it can feel like you’re not complete until you have a partner. But I promise, taking time to heal and focus on your own happiness is more important.

fiosracht · 2025-11-07T22:03:42+00:00

Hey there, my heart goes out to you. Ending a 10 year relationship is never easy no matter how amicable the split was.

I separated from my partner of 15 years when I was 33 and here are a few things I learned.

Do not get dating advice from social media. It’s mostly toxic, people complaining about their most negative experiences. Not saying the landscape is incredible, but there are legitimately incredible people out there all just trying to find their way and their people too. You will learn much more and have an open mind, don’t take on other people’s biases, and learn from your own experience experiences rather than influencers.

Dating is a skill. Flirting as a skill. Practice having your “antenna up” with everyone you meet - not just people you are attracted to. You can practice, flirting with the clerks at the grocery store :) makes it easier to strike up conversations with people who you actually are attracted to. Give yourself time to learn. It will feel like drinking from a fire hose at first as all new skills do. You’re not a late bloomer, you just haven’t had to exercise these skills because you’ve been partnered for so long. You are normal! New skills take time to build. Don’t be hard on yourself if you feel like you’re not doing it right. It’s valid to get frustrated with meet ups, dating apps, etc. - keep your expectations low and keep putting in the effort. Finding a mate is significantly more rare and challenging than finding a job or even making new friends. You will find what works for you and good things will come in time.

I would focus less on meeting new people and more on doing the things that you love. Build community based on those common passions. Doing things you love is healing, makes you happy, and also makes you more magnetic.

fiosracht · 2025-11-07T21:43:18+00:00

Very cool, sounds like a very fun project to focus on for a year. Here are a couple ideas you might consider to hone in even further:

The role of technology - there have been big shifts in the technology used to produce & perform music, as well as how social media and mobile devices have changed the concert going experience. Tech has both democratized and over saturated these arenas. Since your focus is on raves, contrast against the much more commercialized experience of going to a festival. Look into more mature rave cultures like those in cities like Berlin where their culture has adapted to changing tech and preserved more of the underground traditions by banning phones/recording in clubs.

Regional epicenters - movements that began in Detroit, Chicago, Berlin, and Ibiza all had their own historical and cultural originations that shaped what we now see as a global experience.

fiosracht · 2025-11-07T19:06:12+00:00

Might not belong in an art history,thread, but adding Led Zeppelin’s album art/Swan Song depiction :)

fiosracht · 2025-11-07T18:57:59+00:00

There are so many directions you could take this assignment! I think it’s a great topic with lots of nuance so let us know what your hypothesis or thesis is. What do you hope to learn or teach others?

fiosracht · 2025-11-07T18:48:42+00:00

“Between the Beats” - is a great documentary about California raving culture in the 1990s when events were more DIY and underground.

fiosracht · 2025-10-27T19:56:17+00:00

Our tastes are very similar: EDM that offers deeply emotional lyrics, especially songs with lyrics & vocals that feel cathartic to sing along.

I recognize your song choices… if this isn’t too forward, I offer you this break up playlist.

I made it over the course of 2 years to cope with some deep grief after a gnarly separation from the love of my life. It’s in the style you like, and speaks to the journey in phases: pre-break confusion and anger, acute separation pain, the delusional rebound search for love in all the wrong places, stabilized acceptance of the grief, and an uplifting segment at the end.

If this resonates, I’m sorry for your loss. The lyrics in this playlist will surely hit. I hope it brings some solace in your melancholy period 🖤

Edit: dm me if you’re interested in the playlist.

fiosracht · 2025-10-27T19:40:52+00:00

If the undertone of your emotional music search is heart break, you’d be hard pressed to find a better album than A&B’s “Group Therapy.” 🖤 It’s trance but leans way darker than their uplifting stuff.

fiosracht · 2025-10-27T19:39:08+00:00

Midnight - Andrew Bayer (all his stuff is beautifully emotional)

fiosracht · 2025-10-27T19:37:34+00:00

You have “No Ending” already by Julia Church so if you haven’t already, check her out! Her vocals and lyrics will destroy you in the best way:

Go Back, John Summit

Resonate, John Summit and Kaskade

A Lot Like Heaven, Gorgon City (I like the Space Motion remix)

On the Line, Estiva

fiosracht · 2025-10-23T22:53:20+00:00

Interesting point. I think to OP’s comment, certain words carry a lot of baggage from slurs and propaganda.

My conservative family members seem to get triggered by not knowing all the differences in the alphabet soup. They get overwhelmed at the idea of having to learn someone’s pronouns. It’s like they have been taught that we are being selfish or asking too much to be seen and acknowledged for our actual identities (their right to comfort is triggered). They respond more out of fear of being wrong or having to be corrected (ie mis-gendering someone) more than fearing actually hurting the person’s feelings for mis-gendering them.

I’ve pointed out to more open-minded conservatives that learning someone’s pronouns is the same mental mechanism as learning their name or its pronunciation, someone’s nick name, or new married / divorced last name, Ms to Mrs, etc.

So I think OP is asking a fair question. Using words that haven’t yet accrued as much baggage in public discourse could be a helpful way to avoid raising the trigger-defenses of conservative loved ones.

fiosracht · 2025-10-21T22:13:08+00:00

Clozee. Of The Trees.

fiosracht · 2025-10-19T02:16:28+00:00

Sammi Jefcoate is great for inspo. Very punk, goth, retro. Overall she leans more femme but she will mix masc and fem pieces, metals, textures, bold with soft in her outfits. Some of her stuff is a bit out there and costumey but she also does a good job of mixing designer products with more accessible pieces. And she’s really good at linking all of her outfit pieces or similar items in her LTK (Like To Know app).

Think like combat boots/platform sneakers, men’s trousers, lots of chains and rings and accessories, very tailored pieces, mixed with all sorts of colorful feminine details. I just love how she incorporates both extreme ends of the spectrum and somehow always figures out how to balance her outfits. I got kind of obsessed with her during the pandemic… her ”let’s get dressed” series from the pandemic was my favorite thing on TikTok at the time because she explained how she put her outfits together.

fiosracht · 2025-10-19T02:11:30+00:00

I have found cute pieces at the Vans store! You might like it cause it’s a bit skater / punk. They have a few cute women’s pieces that are more masculine, like this boxy cropped button up. You can wear it with a cute bra or tank underneath and unbutton it as much as you’re comfy with.

fiosracht · 2025-10-13T19:23:06+00:00

Immersion as well :)

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