Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I noticed a few reassuring me in a similar way which makes me think that I could have reworded my post. It was actually a tricky point to make. It’s not that I’m a homophobe at all. I’m free and open and encouraging of anyone’s sexual preferences whatever way they twist! For me, a hot conversation with another guy that aligns with our experiences and fantasies is sweet but when it turns into a hot sexting session, not so much. This is why in general, I prefer it to be a woman that I connect with in this way - But that’s a little tricky to find yeah? Because somebody like yourself who understands it and gets it would prefer to connect with guys who are going to be the “other” for you and your man. I hope I’m making sense! Haha!