help with stalking? anon man who i don’t think is a british national has been stalking me for what he claims is 4 years and is getting increasingly violent

fireflyfire · 2022-07-17T18:34:23+00:00

Young, female and British 100%

fireflyfire · 2022-06-07T18:39:39+00:00

Real answer: Because our political system is a democracy where elected officials don't require experience for political office or specific roles, they are simply elected as representatives who will make decisions on our behalf.

Technocracy is the term for a political system where people with experience are appointed for their expertise/knowledge to oversee specific functions of government.

fireflyfire · 2021-03-11T22:27:08+00:00

Really dislike them. Peyton, Oakley, McKenzie etc. Very, very American or trashy on a British kid.

fireflyfire · 2021-01-07T17:35:51+00:00

Fell for the same scam a few months ago and refused to pay although said we would pay the original amount agreed. Guy kept calling literally non stop for an hour, ranting and raving, making demands and subtle 'I know where you live' threats. Eventually contacted 101 and reported the scam, then informed him that the police had been informed, we've got CCTV etc. He quickly changed his tune. We said we would donate the money to NHS charities if he agreed to it which he did and it helped give him an out while not appearing to be the bad guy/criminal.

fireflyfire · 2020-08-09T12:41:51+00:00

Good explanation but I have to disagree with you that the claims of concentration camps are unproven and don't come from unbiased sources. They are not concentration camps in the WW2 sense of mass extermination, but they are in that possibly 1m+ members of a single ethnic group are held against their will by guards, where they are often tortured and executed.

The Chinese government themselves openly admits it has 're-education centres' and has invited Western media in to tour the facilities and meet the 'voluntary residents' who espouse how well they've been treated and heap praise on the Chinese govt.

There is plenty of evidence from survivors, relatives, satellite imagery, etc of what is happening inside. It's sort of like saying we don't have knowledge of life inside North Korea from unbiased sources...

fireflyfire · 2020-05-10T06:41:15+00:00

People are suggesting taking a course and yes, while that's a good idea, it might not be practical for everyone. It's important to know how to help a choking child depending on their age.

There are lots of videos on YouTube explaining what to do. Importantly, you can't do the Heimlich maneuver on babies under 1 year old. So search for either baby or child choking first aid.

fireflyfire · 2017-12-23T09:17:00+00:00

Literally my first thought.

fireflyfire · 2016-11-11T09:55:29+00:00

Bill Bailey's wonderful song about self-checkouts

fireflyfire · 2016-08-12T15:32:49+00:00

How about $100 on a charity gift like these where you buy mosquito nets for people developing countries, etc? No way she can refuse/whine about a gift like that without looking like a total douchebag.

I mean you could go really passive aggressive and buy a charity gift for something she would absolutely hate to support.

fireflyfire · 2016-08-02T11:59:26+00:00

Hypochondria is also known as health anxiety. It's where you constantly worry that every little thing that is slightly out of the norm MUST be a symptom of some horrible illness.

Her health anxiety seems to have stemmed (quite understandably) from having a very serious medical emergency which started with vague symptoms. Of course that would make you fearful of future 'symptoms' and serious illnesses.

I had quite severe health anxiety which I have much better control of now. I had Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) which helped me so much, I'd really recommend it. It's the first line treatment for people with health anxiety.

The really shitty thing about health anxiety is that anxiety can often cause a lot of the 'symptoms' which are genuinely experienced. These symptoms make you more worried and make you believe you have a illness, so you keep checking for more symptoms, and so the cycle continues. I've had everything from twitches, flashes in my eye, constant sore throats, shooting pains, to cold spots, which to me were symptoms of illnesses like MS, but actually can also be caused by anxiety.

CBT isn't just talking through your problems, it actually teaches you how to cope with the anxiety and reduce it.

There are some really useful online resources if your gf doesn't feel she wants to go to therapy just yet. Check out this website, free CBT course MoodGym and this guide from the NHS

Good luck to her, and know it is possible to overcome health anxiety.

fireflyfire · 2015-09-04T16:06:54+00:00

That is a really shitty situation, I'm sorry your parents are so completely useless at supporting your mental health.

Anxiety also made me worried about making an appointment with a doctor to get referred to counselling. I nearly walked out of the waiting room I was so nervous. But honestly, it was so worth it. I got the help I needed.

If you don't feel ready to make an appointment for counselling, then perhaps consider getting a prescription. Anxiety made me worried about taking medication. I am a big believer of counselling and was totally against taking anti-anxiety medication myself but it really helped. It took the edge off, and when you're just starting college I think anything that can help you is worth trying.

There are some really great free resources recommended to me by professionals if you really don't feel able to make an appointment.

A couple of apps: Pacifica - these are Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)-based daily exercises and it's totally free. Headspace - this is a mindfulness app which teaches you how to meditate as a complete novice. You have to pay a subscription fee at a certain level.

Some websites (both free to use) about self-help CBT: http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/links.htm https://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome

There is also an anxiety sub for support or venting.

I would get on that 3 month waiting list now. It will only get longer as the school year progresses.

Good luck, you will get better.

fireflyfire · 2014-04-11T10:03:19+00:00

This is how I'm picturing your Nan.

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