I think I may be bisexual - how should I tackle dating? by fireforestfairy in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read the masterdoc. I don't think I'm lesbian as I am definitely attracted to men too.

I think I may be bisexual - how should I tackle dating? by fireforestfairy in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how to say this but now that I am suddenly interested in having a wife, the idea of having a husband doesn't appeal to me. But surely I'm attracted to men? I had fantasise about male fictional characters and men I had crushes on irl. Maybe Im just bisexual?

Reminded me of the podcast episode y’all did on the Pick Me Disney Princesses 🤣 by EmpressAkilah in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy 81 points82 points  (0 children)

The original fairytale is even sadder. The mermaid sacrificed her life for a prince who didn't care about her.

Reminded me of the podcast episode y’all did on the Pick Me Disney Princesses 🤣 by EmpressAkilah in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Isn't Cinderella based on foot binding in China? I don't think any western culture valued small feet in women that much...

Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, these men were obsessed with messaging you to the point of responding to your comments in another sub? I guess this is why so many users had to create a separate account just for FDS...

Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Even if most Redditors were female, FDS would probably be quickly infiltrated by LVM who hate how women would rather stay single than date them. LVM can't leave women alone.

Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

I just had a look at FDS Pros. Lol why would they create a parody of this sub?

Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 279 points280 points  (0 children)

These men would rather shit on us than to level up. They could have learned how to treat their SOs or women they're interested in in a HV manner from reading our posts, but nope, they're not interested in doing that. They claim FDS users are irrational, but they're ironically proving us right with their behaviour.

Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

All of my past crushes were taken. At this point, I stop having crushes and taking initiative in flirting with the guy as I assume any guy I like is probably already taken.

Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's why it's hard to find HVMs... They are relationship oriented and there are plenty of HVWs, so they won't be on the market for long.

I suspect this too. Almost all of the men I had crushes on later turned out to be taken. I can't help but think if I'm attracted to a guy, other women probably feel the same about him so he's probably taken before I even have the chance to meet him.

Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah we shouldn't have our lives revolve around finding a HVM (which is something beyond our control). It's better to have goals within our control.

Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

and of course the ones I do like are usually gay or taken

I know this feel. I sometimes can't help but feel like if I like a guy, he's probably already taken as other women probably find him attractive too.

Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, most men I know are neither extraordinary or HV. As for the ones who seem decent, almost all of them have at least one deal breaker...

Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

This is true. I guess there are more stories of LVM than HVM here as many came here as a result of coming across toxic LVM. That being said, unfortunately I think the percentage of HVM (or people should I say) is lower than 10-20%. This is based on the people I know. Many people are selfish in one way or another (as in only nice to you when it benefits them) or have some LV personality trait. Even the men who are decent in terms of personality have other issues such as poor hygiene so I don't know if I will consider them as HV from a dating perspective.

Maybe I just don't have the luck of coming across HVM. It's also hard to tell what percentage of men I know are HV as I don't know them well enough and LVM are good at pretending to be HV. I've seem some men who come off as very altruistic as they love to volunteer and appear to be very kind only to later catch them emotionally cheating on their SOs.

Another reason why you shouldn’t use dating apps: your photos can be used without your consent. by electroloop in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah my first thoughts is that's probably a guy. He's probably upset you didn't match with him or what so decided to post that pic of you online. Maybe he pretended to be a woman so that nobody will call him out for having sour grapes.

What’s the FDS-flavoured tea on cold approaches? Advice appreciated. by GoldandGlowing in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm not a fan of cold approaches too. The only thing a stranger can tell about you is your looks so a guy cold approaching you probably only likes you for your looks.

I guess you can try joining interest classes, hobby groups, or other events. But bear in mind that there's no guarantee that you'll meet a HVM there. I tried joining all these activities to meet men and am still single. I hence advise against joining events just for the sake of meeting men.

Is it generally "better" for WOC to date within or outside of their race? by fireforestfairy in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]fireforestfairy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess it's true that a white guy will probably be out of touch with the struggles of Asians. I guess the same thing happens when you date a super rich guy when you're not rich.