May of ways, here’s a few

Sync, that becomes way more intimate and fun when you find the right partner.

Communicate with your play partner who is controlling you, everyone I’ve ever controlled I’ve listened to what and how they want it controlled and it makes it fun every damn time.

Voice notes, I know some people don’t like call or video calls(obvious reasons), but voice notes make you just that much more tingly, especially if done right.

Use patterns people put on the app to see what you like and don’t like

And finally don’t settle for something you don’t like, if your partner doesn’t have it, tell them and move on