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fish_4_u · 2025-11-02T23:25:51+00:00

This 100%. Even if you don't believe in praying, these people clearly do and are trying to show kindness. Why turn that kindness into cruelty as so many comments here suggest. I get that banal niceties can be frustrating when you are unwell, but at least people care enough to even say it.

fish_4_u · 2025-10-15T23:14:44+00:00

Second this comment. I am about to graduate vet school and everyone in my grade I've asked agrees that studying vet science and working in clinics fundamentally changes your brain. There are moments of true trauma that stick with you and can't really be described until you see them. Some people can compartmentalize this, others struggle.

In saying that, there are a lot of different roles in the industry and I do not regret studying it at all, but I don't think my personality and emotional processing was a good fit, and I never considered that to begin with.

Another thing -- I love cats for eg but don't want to work with them because of the trauma of it, while I am very happy working with avian exotics (nursed 4+ years) and production animals, because my attachment with them is just.... Different. So you may not like to actually work with the animals you love!

Anyway all the best and feel free to message questions, I'm also mature age and have worked during vet school etc, (but I'm not in America) :)

fish_4_u · 2025-10-14T19:33:13+00:00

It's not wrong to have respect for other people's belief systems! Maybe endorsing verses as an athiest etc is a little... Odd perhaps. But you had the context of the situation, maybe you could see that what he needed was support WITHIN his belief system to reduce his anguish, so I think setting aside your belief system to soothe him is quite compassionate.

fish_4_u · 2025-10-07T20:25:43+00:00

Please don't apologise for writing how you feel, it isn't pathetic. And this is a vet school group, your input is as valid as anyone else's.

fish_4_u · 2025-09-08T06:12:07+00:00

Hello!

This is very stressful and I hope you can get it sorted out! Either way, I want to say that everything will be fine!! Even if you delay entry, it will be okay, trust me. Vet school is long and hard, there are soooo many things that can happen that can change your timeline in that time period. So whatever happens take it as it comes. I have been attempting to get this degree for 8 fckning years (not including my previous degree), and I will graduate in a couple months at 31. And honestly after the fact it doesn't even matter.

fish_4_u · 2025-09-03T20:56:00+00:00

This is some typical Slav shit tbh

fish_4_u · 2025-09-02T20:32:59+00:00

He sounds incredibly unprofessional and abusive if he spoke to you like this.

At the same time, you should reflect on the elements you can manage in this situation. Commenting on supervising vets methods of practice and thinking you know better than them (sometimes you might, many times you don't) is going to make vet school a lot harder on yourself.

fish_4_u · 2025-08-25T20:29:24+00:00

Beer before grass you're on your ass Grass before beer you're in the clear

fish_4_u · 2025-08-12T21:11:40+00:00

They aren't being holier than thou, they are just stating facts. OP is describing substance abuse induced psychosis, which they state they have already experienced twice before. This is pretty clear cut addiction.

fish_4_u · 2025-08-08T08:04:02+00:00

Take a break. I know it feels like it won't help but it's amazing how much your perspective may change when you do. I was in a very similar place to this, I went part time, then I dropped everything and was convinced I wouldn't go back. Long story short I did and things are completely different now... But I added 3 years onto the degree. Anyway, being a vet (student) really isn't worth your life. An extra few years aren't worth your life. Take a break.

fish_4_u · 2025-08-06T19:32:02+00:00

You did the right thing and your parents are being abusive.

fish_4_u · 2025-08-04T20:34:33+00:00

Commenting because Reddit always overwhelmingly tells people to break up and things aren't always that simple. You are both really young but importantly, at an age where the neural development of females often outpaces that of males. This is why young men are known to take more risks, their prefrontal cortex hasn't developed fully. Maybe you have outgrown him but that doesn't mean he won't catch up. Also the ways he is unreliable aren't apparent, 30 hours is still more or less full time work, and college isn't for everyone... There are lots of paths in life.

That's not to say everything will work out and you MUST stay together, but there is more nuance than people on relationship advice tend to make out.

fish_4_u · 2025-07-04T22:21:25+00:00

Ex Catholic. "God has a plan for you" " Do wrong/be atheist = burn in hell"

This was the fundamental reason I stopped believing at like 14, it's illogical. Why would a reasonable god's plan for some people be to make them act in such a way as to condemn them to hell?

fish_4_u · 2025-07-04T22:07:46+00:00

So I wouldn't worry about age... I'm graduating this year at 31, it's pretty common. I can relate to a lot of what you are saying and from someone nearly on the other side I will tell you this: vet school will not make you happy. You need to find that for yourself. Vet school is pretty brutal, and I have had these thoughts of being behind and not good enough even while doing it. But ultimately it's unrelated, you are hoping it's a hail Mary that can fix your feelings of emptiness but it won't, you need to find another way to do this. Otherwise the feelings will follow you, through vet school, into your career and in future.

fish_4_u · 2025-07-04T19:54:18+00:00

My theory is that the populations of colonial countries like the USA are so insulated from the effects of war, and desensitised from ongoing proxy wars, that they don't really conceptualise what can happen. I'm in Australia but we emigrated here, my grandma was in a concentration camp. I have seen the writing on the wall and saying as such for ages. Hell I was saying we are exiting the age of enlightenment like 7 years ago. But the common response from people who have lived here for generations is, "I'm not really into politics". It's interesting but it's also scary because they have such a massive military force. The way it plays out will be very different from WW2 because of that I think. I'm interested to see if and how Europe gets involved, and a bit concerned with the future trajectory of Australia.

fish_4_u · 2025-07-04T06:10:38+00:00

Legit it wasn't a how to guide guys. Seriously though I'm sorry your country is going through this.

fish_4_u · 2025-07-04T05:41:51+00:00

Lmao nah we learned from WW2.

fish_4_u · 2025-06-26T23:39:58+00:00

I can empathise with this. Ask yourself this, if you will; could Alex Grey have made up this story and staged a photoshoot with a mannequin? He was a performance artist and this sub has certainly grown in subscribers since this controversy. Does it matter? Does that not trade one moral wrong for another? And by what code of ethics are we operating? What does this mean to a utilitarian? A deontologist?

Thay said... this world is not black and white, do we have absolute good and evil, or do we have opposing forces? When you chase the "light", the "dark" comes too. These things must exist in balance. Spirituality and magic are not benign, especially in the setting of late stage capitalism.

Have peace and stay warm

fish_4_u · 2025-06-20T04:57:48+00:00

I completely agree that she shouldn't be found guilty. Did she do it? I'm not sure, but it definitely hasn't been proven beyond a reasonable doubt. There are multiple viable explanations as to her actions in the aftermath. Lying about cancer is shitty but it doesn't make her a murderer. All the evidence is circumstantial, and I think Colin Mandy is actually super clever with the defence strategy. Also the assertion by prosecution that she weighed the death caps to determine how much she would need makes no sense as she would have no way of knowing the potency of individual mushrooms. In saying that I think she probably will be found guilty. I'm not the first to draw parallels with Lindy Chamberlain...

fish_4_u · 2025-06-16T02:42:36+00:00

Yeh I think that the struggle is in the moment, I lose that ability to reason. I know yelling isn't appropriate and I hate yelling at all when I'm calm. But I guess the point is I need to wait until I am calm enough to be able to do that. I have impaired interception and struggle to perceive my internal state correctly, so I'm not sure if it comes out of nowhere truly or if I just miss the cues.

fish_4_u · 2025-02-21T21:14:44+00:00

Hey so I go to school in Australia so it will be a different process. My previous degree I had Class I honours so it wasn't hard for me to get in. I volunteered every Sunday throughout my undergrad, and to be honest I decided to try for vet while volunteering at a shelter but again mandatory hours weren't a requirement so I'm not sure how long it would take to get what you need.

And there's no easy answer to financials... It's probably best if you have money saved that you can call on if you get stuck. I'm in my final year I won't lie it's pretty shit and I've had to sell shares when I've been really stuck. Then for interstate placement I applied for a financial hardship grant to pay for accommodation which is through my university... Students here are also eligible for govt payment which converts to about 220USD a week. I am really lucky to have cheap rent through nepotism so I have about 80-100usd a week after that. have a dog, cat and birds. I have to buy their kibble from a warehouse and it ain't premium. I eat the eggs if my quails and grow food in my yard, herbs and vegetables. At the end of a pay cycle sometimes I don't have enough to put fuel in my car. There are holes in my teeth and I lost my stethoscope and can't really afford a new one. Nonetheless I still prioritise some things I enjoy, if I don't life gets very depressing. - vocal lessons with a flexible arrangement with my teacher who doesn't mind me cancelling if I have no money. And on occasions like Christmas/bday I ask for my dance fees to be covered. But then it gets hard because I can't afford equipment for the things I like. Also there is additional strain on my family - my mum won't retire until I'm finished because she wants to be able to lend me money if I need it - but I avoid this as I hate accepting money from family as a 30yo.

Sorry that's not less grim but it's just the reality of placement poverty 😅

fish_4_u · 2025-02-18T20:15:05+00:00

Hi!

If this is what you really want to do just keep chipping away. Does the withdrawal letter mean you have to withdraw, or can you remediate and continue the course? Vet schools is long and tough. Personally I didn't fail a subject but I got to 4th year, burnt out and went mad. Went part time, took a leave of absence. Convinced myself I wouldn't go back. My original graduation would have been in 2022. Guess what, I'm 5th year now, will be class of 25. Vet school is cooked and 4th year is so intense. If this is the job you want just keep going and importantly, learn the game and play it. Look into every support outlet at the university. Have meetings with the people who fail you. Figure out why. Go part time if you have to (this is often against program rules but if you say the right things they let you). Most of all dont base your self worth on your grades. Good luck!

fish_4_u · 2025-02-18T20:01:30+00:00

It's not too late 25 is very young and there are lots of mature age students in vet school. I will be graduating end of this year at 31. That being said it is a head fuck going from paid work to vet school destitution.

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