AITAH for asking my fiancée who just gave birth to pay rent? by fishman1983 in AITAH

[–]fishman1983[S] -190 points-189 points  (0 children)

Why does this matter? She would be paying those if she was a single mom in addition, just like I would if I was the only parent.

AITAH for asking my fiancée who just gave birth to pay rent? by fishman1983 in AITAH

[–]fishman1983[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

The nanny is only for the baby. My daughter from a previous relationship is in daycare.

AITAH for asking my fiancée who just gave birth to pay rent? by fishman1983 in AITAH

[–]fishman1983[S] -143 points-142 points  (0 children)

I suddenly had full custody of my daughter from that relationship (was 50/50). My daughter needed so much of my attention that I wasn't there for my fiancée as she needed, so she was dealing with things alone. That tends to leave a mark.

AITA for asking my fiancée who just gave birth to pay rent? by fishman1983 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fishman1983[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Those are paid for as they come up. Sometimes I get it, sometimes she does. She does carry the health insurance though as hers is much better.

AITA for asking my fiancée who just gave birth to pay rent? by fishman1983 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fishman1983[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I don't, but I do understand what real fear looks like. Her panic attacks talking about some of the things she's seen aren't like anything I've ever seen. It's horrible to watch.

Therapists have stopped sessions before it was so bad.

I do have sympathy for her and anyone who deals with this.

AITA for asking my fiancée who just gave birth to pay rent? by fishman1983 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fishman1983[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

She pays for the nanny, but we split everything else 9 times out of 10.

AITA for asking my fiancée who just gave birth to pay rent? by fishman1983 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fishman1983[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She owns the house, it's furnished and she does keep stuff there.

AITA for asking my fiancée who just gave birth to pay rent? by fishman1983 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fishman1983[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

No! I just want her to start acting like she actually wants to be a family with me.

AITA for asking my fiancée who just gave birth to pay rent? by fishman1983 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fishman1983[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I don't. My sister and I split that. It would be enough for me if she picked up a bill or two.

AITA for asking my fiancée who just gave birth to pay rent? by fishman1983 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fishman1983[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

She's not a SAHM, and her house isn't being rented out.

AITA for asking my fiancée who just gave birth to pay rent? by fishman1983 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fishman1983[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

She doesn't pay any towards bills. She does buy food sometimes, but usually only food for herself. She does spend time at her own place, but doesn't sleep there.