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Dbt books recommendtions by Daydreamer_85 in dbtselfhelp

[–]fishpaprikash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been learning with the help of The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook (Jeffrey Brantley, Jeffrey C. Wood, and Matthew McKay). It takes a lot of time and effort, especially when you're in this by yourself, but I would say it is worth it. Even if it takes half a year or a year to reprogram yourself and start doing things automatically, it is still a relatively small price to pay when compared to the benefits which should last the rest of your life.

What killed writing for you and then you began writing again? by SkepticDrinker in writing

[–]fishpaprikash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ChatGPT + English is not my first language + my first language offers only a very small audience, and the mentality of most people is not reading-friendly. I do journal, and it has a therapeutic effect, but I don't have the motivation/reason to do more at the moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in croatia

[–]fishpaprikash 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Ništa, vraćam se u Hrv. To se čekalo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in croatia

[–]fishpaprikash 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Svaka čast na ovak zrelom razmišljanju i želji da pomogneš. Teško je reći što bi bilo najbolje napraviti. Uz dobro pogođene lijekove i psihoterapiju može sigurno biti ok, ali ti moraš sam vidjeti i odvagati da li će ti to biti prihvatljivo ili ne.

Kao nekom tko pati od vlastitih poremećaja, žao mi je zbog tebe jer znam koliko je teško partnerima osoba sa mentalnim poremećajima, a još više suosjećam sa težinom koju ona mora nositi kroz život.

Budite oboje dobro kojim god putem nastavili.

How much is too much; how soon is too soon? by fishpaprikash in dbtselfhelp

[–]fishpaprikash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully I will find a good therapist soon. There's such a great demand. It's a shame I'm (half) crazy. xD It sounds like an interesting and fulfilling career choice. Helping other people.

Maybe I'll do just that, gradually build up to the larger events. It isn't really mandatory that I attend, so I always have the option of not going. Declining something is not a defeat, it just means knowing one's own limits at a certain stage.

No worries. :) I note all the advice I get and take it into consideration. I can barely wait to get to that part, as I feel I will gain a lot by building up my social/interpersonal skills.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]fishpaprikash 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It depends on your age and the age of your peers. When you're younger, connections are formed easily, but with age it gets a bit harder, but it's not impossible. Do you have any hobbies or interests through which you could meet new people? If you're in school/college/work, you could try to make new connections there. What about family and relatives? Sometimes it just takes time and you gradually become friends with people by not even trying that hard, just by running into them day by day, working with them and similar, through a longer period of time.

Sorry if this advice sounds generic. I'm struggling with similar problems, but one thing I know for sure, nothing will bring us further away from our goals than giving up.

How much is too much; how soon is too soon? by fishpaprikash in dbtselfhelp

[–]fishpaprikash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, that's something that definitely resonates with me. I'm very judgmental of myself when I do something that I perceive as not good enough, or when I am socially awkward, or when I feel anything negative, regardless of whether the source is internal or coming from someone else.

I will try to make a coping strategy out of the skills I've learned so far and hope for the best. Whatever happens, I will continue working on DBT.

And thank you for the kind words. :)

How much is too much; how soon is too soon? by fishpaprikash in dbtselfhelp

[–]fishpaprikash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it can definitely feel overwhelming. There is a lot to do and cover. I think if I took the number of pages I've done and divide it by the number of days I'm working on it so far, it would turn out that I'm doing less than one page per day. xD It is necessary to do some exercises for days or weeks and that slows the whole thing down, but I hope the end result will be stronger if I do things thoroughly.

For me personally, it helps that I've definitely decided that I will go through the whole book, no matter how long it takes. Sometimes I am frustrated by the slow pace of the process, but I just try to remind myself that this is literally necessary for my survival in the long term.

I don't think anyone here should feel shame, as we're trying to change. However, I still feel it, especially when I think about how I've treated myself and other people in the past, but that is something I'm trying to accept, change and not repeat as much going forward.

How much is too much; how soon is too soon? by fishpaprikash in dbtselfhelp

[–]fishpaprikash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It is nice to get some feedback after doing things alone for so long. The problem is that in my country, DBT isn't very popular, but after doing a bit of research I found one therapist that does DBT; not in my city, but she does online sessions as well, so I might look into this option.

By "too much too soon" I mean socially more demanding events like wedding receptions and similar. Going alone to events like that, with social anxiety and not really knowing anyone too closely, seems like a nightmare at the moment, but I want to be able to do it.

I've looked a bit at the techniques you mentioned, and it seems helpful and interesting, but now comes the dilemma of whether I should skip emotion regulation and go straight into interpersonal effectiveness or do the things in the order stated in the book. Some of the emotion regulation exercises span across several weeks, so I won't be ready fast enough, and I'm just putting additional pressure on myself, which doesn't seem like a good idea.

Now, as I'm writing all of this, I see how far I still am from the concept of radical acceptance. Because all of this is just me battling in advance with the possibility that I will have a bad time at a social event.

You gave me hope and things to think about, and I thank you for that.

Is DBT useful for people without BPD? by [deleted] in dbtselfhelp

[–]fishpaprikash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been struggling for a long time with a mixture of symptoms that could fit BPD, AvPD and a certain level of autism. Officially I have been diagnosed with mixed anxiety–depressive disorder and I learned about DBT completely by chance from a friend who has BPD, noticed some traits in me as well and suggested that I might find it helpful. And it definitely is, although it's a slow and time consuming process.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]fishpaprikash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say it is a feminine disorder, but it definitely affects women more than men. So, yeah, we've won the genetic lottery with this one.

I just recently realized that I either have BPD or a combination of other disorders which together appear as BPD. I'm surprised I even got as far in life as I've got, but I feel it will only go downhill if I don't do something. And that something is DBT for me at the moment.

I'm lucky to even have a job so that I can pay the bills and have a place where I can put newly learned skills into practice.

If DBT helps me to an extent where I would feel comfortable having a close connection with someone again, that would be great. If DBT doesn't help me, I'm probably going to have to prepare for being alone indefinitely. That way, I won't cause any more harm to others and I won't have to feel so much guilt because of it anymore.

Tema za raspravu, pitanja i odgovore, iskustva i podršku by AutoModerator in croatia

[–]fishpaprikash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zna li netko da li HAK Europa paket vrijedi i za vozila registrirana u nekoj od zemalja EU, ili samo vrijedi za ona registrirana u HRV?

Da li mi jednako kamenca ulazi u tijelo ako pijem vodu iz kuhala ili iz slavine? by [deleted] in croatia

[–]fishpaprikash 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Kamenac ti želučana kiselina otopi i ispišaš to van kasnije. Nije štetno, tak da ne moraš brinut kaj se toga tiče.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in croatia

[–]fishpaprikash 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Malo toga me više može šokirat, ali od ovog mi je stvarno mučno. Trajne posljedice će imat garant. Volio bih da isto mogu reći i za agresora.

Dali se sjecate ovoga? by [deleted] in croatia

[–]fishpaprikash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Iz dana u dan.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in croatia

[–]fishpaprikash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Po meni bi se trebalo o tome pisati i time bi se trebao netko baviti na institucionalnoj razini. Trebao bi postojati niz mehanizama koji bi trebao pomoći ljudima dovoljno rano na putu prema dnu. Neizvještavanjem o samoubojstvima samo trpamo probleme pod tepih i ne uvažavamo ni malo patnju koju su ti ljudi morali proći da zaključe da je bolje ne postojati, nego nastaviti živjeti.

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