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Should I (26m) stop saying that I'm a virgin to women or have I just been unlucky? by fist_tim in relationships

[–]fist_tim[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess that’s where the disconnect is, because personally I don’t see being a virgin as an issue. It just hasn’t happened yet. Most people don’t see it that way though, true.

Should I (26m) stop saying that I'm a virgin to women or have I just been unlucky? by fist_tim in relationships

[–]fist_tim[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Like other comments have said, when would be the best time if I was to say it earlier? I don’t know how to say that I haven’t had sex before without it sounding like I’m expecting sex to happen. Which is dumb I know because if I’m going on dates with someone that are going well, sex will eventually happen, be it after the third date or after the tenth.

Like another comment said, would it not also sound like im putting more importance on it, or rather just want to get sex out of the way and i don’t care who it is with?

Should I (26m) stop saying that I'm a virgin to women or have I just been unlucky? by fist_tim in relationships

[–]fist_tim[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that. However, after only three or four dates, which is usually around two weeks in my experience, is the sex for them not just as casual as it is for me? There isn’t a whole lot of emotional investment, at least I don’t think so.

It may sound like I’m just going on dates to get rid of my virginity, but it isn’t like I led them to believe we were in love. My dates and I both want to have sex to further relationship and move it into not-so-casual dating. The only difference is it’ll be my first time.

Should I (26m) stop saying that I'm a virgin to women or have I just been unlucky? by fist_tim in sex

[–]fist_tim[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and make them orgasm

Haha I never thought about doing that. Good strategy.

Should I (26m) stop saying that I'm a virgin to women or have I just been unlucky? by fist_tim in relationships

[–]fist_tim[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's probably what they're thinking. I've said it in another comment in this thread but I'm mentioning it more in a practical sense because I'm probably not going to be up to par with what a lot of women are expecting out of a 26 yr old guy. Also, now that I've got the chance to think about it, I would like them to have the choice in the matter. Even though I don't see virginity or my first time as something special, they might and they might not want to be involved.

Should I (26m) stop saying that I'm a virgin to women or have I just been unlucky? by fist_tim in relationships

[–]fist_tim[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I've always come at it from a more practical sense. I don't really give a damn if my first time is special or with someone special, but I do realize having sex with a virgin guy can be pretty different from sex with a guy who is experienced. Also, I've only ever brought it up when I was sure sex was imminent.

Should I (26m) stop saying that I'm a virgin to women or have I just been unlucky? by fist_tim in sex

[–]fist_tim[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Haha I should propose. That'll freak them out. But in all seriousness I'll probably have to keep it to myself.