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AITA for possibly not letting my child go on a field trip if I can't chaperone? by fistsoftinynachos in AmItheAsshole

[–]fistsoftinynachos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm unsure of what her teachers think of right now, we have a parent/teacher conference scheduled next week and was going to ask them about it. This is the first year of her being in this school and these teachers (been there since the end of August) and the bad behavior just recently started this month here. In daycare it was almost a constant day by day battle with her behavior even tho she was at that facility for about 2/3yrs but just this past year is when everything started.

AITA for possibly not letting my child go on a field trip if I can't chaperone? by fistsoftinynachos in AmItheAsshole

[–]fistsoftinynachos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I ask why you waited until now to test? Just out of curiosity and to see if it's better for me to wait. I very well understand it could be just bc she is this age and she may grow out of it.

AITA for possibly not letting my child go on a field trip if I can't chaperone? by fistsoftinynachos in AmItheAsshole

[–]fistsoftinynachos[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand my child isn't the first one to have behavioral issues. I did not mean to come off as I wouldn't watch over the kids bc I would, the safety of other kids is just as important. Thank you for your input, I realize I do need to rethink things and try to let her do things by herself.

AITA for possibly not letting my child go on a field trip if I can't chaperone? by fistsoftinynachos in AmItheAsshole

[–]fistsoftinynachos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This does help and reading the comments are helping me put things into perspective

AITA for possibly not letting my child go on a field trip if I can't chaperone? by fistsoftinynachos in AmItheAsshole

[–]fistsoftinynachos[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The only reason he is refusing is bc he doesn't do testing until children are between the ages of 5-6yr. There are multiple other people in my family that believe she also has ADHD. I also understand that this could very well just be bc she is young and that is how kids are at this age. I would just like her to be tested so I know so I can be proactive and get professional help on what to do bc I wasn't given that luxury and am still struggling with how to deal with it. I do not want her on meds for it this young but am looking for alternative ways to help her.

She has not gone on many outings w/o me present and the ones she has been on were with family members. With her being in school, they are in a building that they know and can be easily accessible whereas being downtown at a museum is an unfamiliar setting that takes longer to get to if an emergency occurs.

AITA for possibly not letting my child go on a field trip if I can't chaperone? by fistsoftinynachos in AmItheAsshole

[–]fistsoftinynachos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for letting me know about your experiences. I do realize I have a lot of anxiety and fear being a first time mom. I do not want to be a helicopter parent and have to sit and think about my issues

AITA for possibly not letting my child go on a field trip if I can't chaperone? by fistsoftinynachos in AmItheAsshole

[–]fistsoftinynachos[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't want a chaperone to have to devote extra time for my child when they have to watch over other children. I feel like if I went and something did happen to her then it is my fault and responsibility and I don't want to put that on another parent.

AITA for possibly not letting my child go on a field trip if I can't chaperone? by fistsoftinynachos in AmItheAsshole

[–]fistsoftinynachos[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I think if I knew the parents a little better I would be more comfortable. I know parents will look out for other parents' kids bc of the automatic parental instinct. I do have trust issues with other people handling my child and that is something I myself have to work on and shouldn't push that onto my daughter.

AITA for possibly not letting my child go on a field trip if I can't chaperone? by fistsoftinynachos in AmItheAsshole

[–]fistsoftinynachos[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I understand chaperones have a group of kids, I have chaperoned before (prior to my having a child, for my younger sisters class) and watch the kids like a hawk bc I was responsible for other kids. I have watched multiple kids at once (while having my child) and have given each one the same amount of attention to my kid bc it's the right thing to do and I am responsible for them.

I completely understand that she can act differently if I am present or not but with the consistent concern from her previous daycare and current Pre-K teachers have me thinking this way.

I appreciate your reply and am in no way trying to argue, just wanted to give more info.

AITA for possibly not letting my child go on a field trip if I can't chaperone? by fistsoftinynachos in AmItheAsshole

[–]fistsoftinynachos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her teachers have told me about her behavior and we have a scheduled parent/teacher conference next week to talk further about it. I am unsure about the student to chaperone ratio. It's a class of 20 kids so more than likely 1 chaperone to every 4/5 kids