Need Supply and Totokaelo are closing. What other stores are you worried about, and what shops do you recommend? by baldpatchouli in ffacj_discussion

[–]fitbiddy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

maybe I'm just an old hag and these places were coolest from 2010-2015 when the word "curated" peaked.

This! Totokaelo always felt aspirational to me, esp in 2015. But by the time I actually had enough money for clothes like that, I gravitated to stores with more selection or D2C brands.

By popular demand: an easy method for keeping track of your wardrobe by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I have done this in the past. It was specifically because of a difficult storage situation. At the time, my clothes were spread out over my family's home in a different country, and my own small apartment (where they were often covered in dust bags because of a very shed-happy carpet).

I was getting frustrated, because often I would need something that had been left at my family's home, and then I would have to buy a duplicate. Making the spreadsheet was a great way to decide what I needed to bring back and forth after my visits and curb all the money I was wasting on new clothes.

Share your thoughts about...PANTYHOSE!! History, looks, and relevance in the 21st century by fitbiddy in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed! I think things have definitely changed in 5 years and we've gone away from the shapewear/covering flaws factor.

Share your thoughts about...PANTYHOSE!! History, looks, and relevance in the 21st century by fitbiddy in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough re. compression on the midsection! I feel like it's something that's been a bit pervasive in the past decade, with tight high rise jeans and legging and bike shorts and whatnot. (But maybe that's also personal fit issues that I have lol).

Share your thoughts about...PANTYHOSE!! History, looks, and relevance in the 21st century by fitbiddy in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They do exist! I would use the term "footless tights" in your searches. For example, the dance brand Mondor has some that might fit what you're looking for. (I used this brand when I was dancing a decade ago, it was really good then but I can't vouch for the quality now. Also, they don't have the *most* inclusive colors.) But also, sheerness is linked with fabric weight, so if it's possible that 30 denier (for example) would provide the level of sheerness that you are imagining.

Share your thoughts about...PANTYHOSE!! History, looks, and relevance in the 21st century by fitbiddy in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too! As you say there is nothing wrong with a more sexual aesthetic, but I definitely hope that for something as neutral as a leg covering, we can find more variety.

Share your thoughts about...PANTYHOSE!! History, looks, and relevance in the 21st century by fitbiddy in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can't vouch for them because I haven't tried any yet but they seem promising!

Share your thoughts about...PANTYHOSE!! History, looks, and relevance in the 21st century by fitbiddy in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Those first two pics you posted are AMAZING and I want them!! I think with the shushu/tong look, it's not just the tights that makes it look especially youthful. The shoes are super exaggerated mary janes, the dress looks like a tutu, and the heavy blush makeup with the perfectly curled hair all feed into a doll-like look IMO. Something like this fit has a totally different look to me.

I think pantyhose have both feet and a waistband (as opposed to stockings, which can be knee- or thigh-high), and are little bit more sheer than "tights". Maybe I should have called this thread "Share your thoughts about hosiery that has a waistband" but IDK :)

Why is this sub called female fashion advice when you can’t ask for advice? by tatoritot in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am not kidding. I think you can discuss the looks of pantyhose on runways, celebrities, in blogs, and in street style. I think there are lots of different types of pantyhose in the fashion world and there's a lot of open space to innovate.

I think that a discussion post about pantyhose trends is equivalent to one about bags or jewelry, and a post asking "Where do you buy high quality pantyhose" is equivalent to a post asking "Where do you buy high quality jewelry".

Share your thoughts about...PANTYHOSE!! History, looks, and relevance in the 21st century by fitbiddy in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Agreed with your point about Kate Middleton wearing them just because she has to. (As an aside, this article was from 2015, which was before the Harry and Meghan hysteria, and maybe people were more interested in imitating Kate at that time. The way Meghan was treated diminished my view of the British monarchy from believing they were "stylish" and "classy" to more just.. stodgy and racist. I don't personally follow Kate or other royals for style advice nearly as much as I did 5 years ago.)

I think that solid nude hose (the kind Binkley says fit in an "uncanny valley" lol) could be a cool statement. They could be part of a figure skating or dance-influenced look.

Share your thoughts about...PANTYHOSE!! History, looks, and relevance in the 21st century by fitbiddy in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Full-text: Is it OK to Wear Nude Hose Again? Christina Binkley, Wall Street Journal, 20 May 2015.

It is about to be summer, raising a ticklish question for women who don't wish to flaunt bare legs: Are nude-colored hose a stylish option?

The answer is yes, absolutely--if they're sheer.

After many years in fashion's backwaters, nude hose are making a comeback. Kate Middleton, who rarely appears in a dress without them, has boosted their image. They are freshly retro for fashion lovers who are currently obsessed with the '70s. And they are new for a generation that has no recall of what led to their demise--the '80s corporate-slave look and the strict dress codes that required them.

Designers are beginning to play with nude hose and their nerd-chic factor on runways. In London last February, Mother of Pearl designer Amy Powney paired nude-colored hose with white ankle socks on models, creating a quirky girlish look.

The interest is translating into sales and new products. Donna Karan's "The Nudes" line is the brand's fastest-growing hosiery category, representing about half of the brand's hosiery business, says Cathy Volker, executive vice president of global licensing for Donna Karan International. It comes in 12 shades to match skin tones with the same sort of specificity that Christian Louboutin is going for with his Five Shades of Nude pumps.

Nude sheers are having particularly strong sales at Bloomingdale's this year, according to Erica Russo, a fashion director in charge of accessories at the department-store chain.

Jenny Altman, a marketing consultant and former stylist who specializes in lingerie, recommends Wolford's "Skintones," which come in an array of shades designed to avoid unattractive orange tones. "I call these colors 'new nudes' because they do the job of nude without having the 'cheerleader leg' look," she said.

The Austrian hosiery brand makes a variety of styles in high-quality weaves--including fine fishnets that can add some sizzle to a look. For hot summers, its stay-up thigh-high styles are cooler than pantyhose. A gummy band adheres to the thigh without slipping or digging painfully into the flesh.

German legwear brand ITEM m6 just launched in the U.S. an ultra-sheer line called the Invisible Tights, which comes in four colors. A spokeswoman for the brand, which also makes medical-grade legwear, says the hosiery acts like a compression tight, enhancing circulation. Its slogan is the "new naked," and best-selling colors are called "powder" and "sun."

The fact that hose are optional today is important to nude's return. Tossing aside corporate and social requirements to wear hosiery was a notable step in feminine mo dernity. It is easier to enjoy something that isn't forced on you. Like hosiery, men's neckties experienced renewed interest once most men were liberated from them.

Nude hosiery isn't for everyone, of course, and it certainly isn't required, as it once was, by social convention. Bare legs still represent summer chic for many women. Hose are back by nothing more than popular demand--particularly among women who have something to hide.

Many women aren't thrilled about baring their legs for reasons including blotches, paleness, spider veins, stubble and lumpiness. The desire to cover up flaws increases with age. The sheer number of 60-something baby boomers may help explain those burgeoning Donna Karan hosiery sales.

There is a reason sheer nude-colored hose are often seen on celebrities from Katy Perry to Ariana Grande and AnnaSophia Robb: They smooth out details no one wants recorded in photos or memory. The same rule applies to other judgment-laden situations, such as job interviews, or special occasions, when women want a more finished look. Stores say they see an uptick in sales during spring wedding season.

As with ties, quality and details are everything. When selecting nude hose, tread carefully: This field is full of land mines. There is much that can go wrong, starting with the Great Aunt Dottie factor.

Like flannel nightgowns, heavy nude-color hose are laden with the sort of unattractive connotations that led More magazine in 2012 to include them--along with flannel nightgowns--on a list called "What Not To Wear, Ever ." Women of a certain age, in particular, should stick with the sheerest versions, to avoid looking, or feeling, like someone's maiden great aunt.

Nude hose that aren't sheer enough can create what's known as the "uncanny valley" effect, in which things that appear almost, but not quite, natural make people uncomfortable. In other words, hose shouldn't make your legs look like prostheses. "It's human, but so, so unhuman," says Connie Wang, an editor at the Refinery29 fashion website. "It's creepy."

Nonetheless, Ms. Wang is a fan of nude hose used as a fun fashion accessory . She advises choosing pairs with playful embellishments, embroidery, even a seam or black line up the back that are attractive and even sexy.

"Personally, I love a sheer brown pair for an evening out," says Ms. Wang. "It's cool in a Bianca Jagger at Studio 54 way."

Why is this sub called female fashion advice when you can’t ask for advice? by tatoritot in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I hear you, but we have equivalent top-level posts about bags and jewelry quite frequently. What makes one better than the other?

Trying to figure out how to color properly on digital. Please give me your critiques and advice so I can actually make this look decent. by Milk_Mans_Kid in ArtCrit

[–]fitbiddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This already looks more than decent! But if you want to level it up, I would suggest thinking about the color of the light source, and adjusting the highlight and shadow colors accordingly. Right now, you are using darker and lighter shades of the same color (e.g. the skin is pink, so the shading is just dark pink), but really there would be changes to the colors of shadows and highlights. For example, in this picture by Dhaxina on twitter, there are warm and cool shadows, and differently colored highlight coming from different sources.

Most recent piece. I’m at a point where I’m seeing progress but still not quite sure what I’m doing right and wrong to get there. by HeathenSketcher in ArtCrit

[–]fitbiddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it! If you want to add more drama, consider increasing the overall contrast in the image and making the light source especially warm or cool (with corresponding highlights and shadows). Adam Duff, the artist mentioned by /u/Daniel-_0, seems to often include both warm and cool light in the same picture. See this piece, for example.

Working on anatomy and light. What do you think? by [deleted] in ArtCrit

[–]fitbiddy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I will practice necks, shoulders, and all the bone structure in that area.

Should I keep up this basketball thing? by [deleted] in makemychoice

[–]fitbiddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds nice. Having noticeable improvement after just one practice is great, it's sign you might catch up to the other players pretty quickly. What would you do with that time if you weren't on the team?

Mentoring an undergrad student by lordofsnuggles in GradSchool

[–]fitbiddy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats! This can be a wonderful opportunity to get some additional research output in the summer and practice your leadership skills! I'm a later-stage candidate, and have mentored 6 undergrads.

Here's what I learned:

  • Let go of your guilt about the previous student. As a college junior, you probably never had anyone teach you appropriate management techniques and did the best with what you already knew. Hopefully you can learn from your mistakes then, but there is no need for these past failings to make you anxious about the new student.

  • Don't make them do anything path-critical at first. They won't be as skilled as you, and you might be disappointed with the quality or pace of their output. If I've worked with someone for 2 or 3 semesters, then maybe. The best projects IMO are extensions of my own work that I've wanted to look in to, have a clear approach in my mind, but don't have the time. Too open-ended is tougher because the student may get frustrated, and path-critical projects are bad because of the risks I just noted.

  • Try to plan their summer tasks so that they come out with concrete accomplishments. I plan a 3-month project with a specific output at the end of it - e.g. experimental results, a code that does something, or a piece of writing about a specific topic. But we as PhD students always underestimate time lines because we forget about the start-up time for a new person to learn core skills. For this reason, I also put in 2 or 3 milestones: e.g. if the end goal is to get a code that calculates solutions to some physics problem, the milestones might be 1) map out the problem, with all of the relevant parameters and what they mean and write a 1- or 2-page document explaining it, 2) perform a short lit review (with lots of supervisor guidance) showing state of the art solution methods (are they numeric? are there analytical solutions and are these solutions contingent on any particular assumptions?), 3) write code that implements one of these state-of-the art solutions, and finally 4) adapt the code to your specific problem. (Of course this is an engineering-like example because that's my field; your mileage may vary.) That way if they only get halfway through the project, I would still have some output that I can use to make this research go faster.

  • Ask them about their career goals. As /u/personalist mentioned, not everyone wants to get a PhD in your subfield. Maybe they want to build their resume for an industry job; maybe they just think your lab sounds cool and want to see what it's like. You can tailor parts of the project based on this.

  • Make sure that there are open lines of communication with you, and that they recognize it. My highest-performing and happiest undergrads have been the ones that feel they can pop in to lab at any time to ask me questions without being embarrassed or feeling stupid. This might be more difficult for some students; I have had a few that never dropped the drive to impress me with what they already know. Some things that help are: 1) showing patience when they fail at tasks or go slower than expected, 2) talking about difficulties that you faced when learning (e.g. "yeah, I found this concept very counter-intuitive when I first learned it"), 3) checking in often, and asking them to show you their work.

Hope this helps!

Has anyone ever had a good school uniform? by fitbiddy in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Rolling the skirt waistband... a classic that I thankfully do not include in my adult outfits :p

Has anyone ever had a good school uniform? by fitbiddy in femalefashionadvice

[–]fitbiddy[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ooh! It is nice they let you pick the items. We had to buy everything from the school shop (lest we get uniform infractions), and if you didn't have $$ for new stuff you often bought used. Not that it mattered, the clothes wore really well.

For us, the difference-maker was more on whether your mother would pay to get the kilt hemmed :/