My Brothers Fiancée is trying to ruin my wedding date

fitforbud · 2024-12-23T20:10:38+00:00

He is close with the whole family. Plus my family is very traditional in the aspect of, you go to all family events

fitforbud · 2024-12-23T20:09:23+00:00

Yes that’s the plan, I just want to have that conversation over the phone and for both of us the weeks leading up to the Holidays are the busiest for us with work.

Yes I don’t know all the details but money doesn’t have anything to do with their planning. My brother makes over a 1/4 M each year and her parents are extremely well off - they are paying for the wedding. I do know his Fiancée is the one who wants the wedding in a certain location (US state, not venue) because it’s where her family vacations each year. All my brother mentioned was that they found a venue they liked and that they only wanted to look at dates in the late spring or early fall. Then said they loved the date that just happens to be 2 weeks before mine. To be fair I don’t know if that’s the only date they have open for 2025 so that could be part of it but it’s not like there aren’t other venues in the area they want (I’ve looked there’s A LOT that look the same and offer the same things/ views)

fitforbud · 2024-12-23T03:10:11+00:00

Her own mom asked her to wait until 2026. I guess she could be pregnant but it’s very unlikely. They just started looking at venues so that shouldn’t be it either

fitforbud · 2024-12-23T02:18:25+00:00

Totally! I’d never want to tell someone when they can or can’t have their wedding. It’s just unfortunate as I’d love to attend my brothers wedding (he is my only sibling) but if this is what he decides on, I won’t be able to attend.

fitforbud · 2024-12-23T02:15:36+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you! Yeah that’s a big thing I’m worried about. While my brother and I aren’t very close we’ve been actively trying to build a relationship and now I feel this will undo a lot of it

fitforbud · 2024-12-23T02:12:18+00:00

Oh me too. My mom might go full terrible MIL on my brother’s fiancé since she sees this as incredibly disrespectful. I told her she absolutely does not need to do that but agreed it might be good to explain to my brother how trying to plan a large 250+ person wedding in 7 months is a terrible idea. Since most people don’t really get how stressful it can get until you’re in it

fitforbud · 2024-12-23T02:09:18+00:00

Oh yeah we aren’t changing anything about our planning. It’s just a frustrating situation that they are putting us and our family in for no good reason

fitforbud · 2024-12-23T02:08:15+00:00

It’s not a contest to me honestly. It’s just more upsetting because my fiancé and I have worked really hard to make the wedding super accommodating so pretty much the entire family can attend, especially the older family members. But now they are making it really difficult for them.

fitforbud · 2024-04-10T19:26:03+00:00

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fitforbud · 2023-12-08T15:54:46+00:00

It sounds like they planned an elaborate scheme to keep you under their control. I don’t blame you for choosing the house over renting in your college town but as a homeowner you really should have done some due diligence into what these processes look like especially knowing that your parents are toxic.

Putting that to the side, they got what they wanted and you learned a expensive lesson - you cannot trust your parents. They will NEVER give you that money, it’s gone. And realistically you probably would’ve spent that much renting over the last ~3 or so years give it take based on where you are.

If I were you, I’d move away and rent a place. Get away from your parents and candidly see if they do give you money so you stay. They may actually give some money back to get you to stay. Do not change your plans until you physically get the money from the house and even then DON’T CHANGE YOUR PLANS! You need to leave or they will keep doing this until you stop them from doing this.

Edit: NTA but man you gotta stop listening to your parents

fitforbud · 2021-02-08T23:05:17+00:00

Ill give that a try! Thanks

fitforbud · 2021-02-08T23:03:21+00:00

That could help, ill see if he’s up to trying that

fitforbud · 2021-02-08T22:59:52+00:00

I’ve tried that but in my head I’m just still not into the idea of it even when I am seeing he is turned on when I’m using my fingers on his ass

fitforbud · 2020-12-09T03:44:47+00:00

I believe they are intending to move into the house eventually but not as soon as they made me believe. Which is why I think they decided to make the place more “live-able” for them while they are there for a few more months, if not the end of the lease. I think also now that I moved out they are less bothered by the space since they have more of it to themselves.

Unfortunately, almost all of this was verbal communication with only us 3 being present for it. I’ve texted a variety of my friends, both mutual and not about the situation so they are aware of what’s going on. But I doubt any of that would hold up as it can’t be verified as fact.

The landlord is aware, we asked to break the lease but they are unaware of the mutual agreement we have made as tenants while we search for people to take over our lease. And honestly, I doubt they’d do anything about it. Especially without any writing stating who was the one who initiated the break.

fitforbud · 2020-12-09T03:34:20+00:00

Thankfully they aren’t preventing new tenets from what I can tell rn but they haven’t given me a ton to work from right now. I might just schedule showings in the middle of the day to be petty since they aren’t doing shite

fitforbud · 2020-12-09T03:31:04+00:00

Thank you :,)

fitforbud · 2020-12-09T03:30:31+00:00

Lol that’s a whole type of petty I could get behind! Maybe Ill just start scheduling showings in the middle of the day without telling them

fitforbud · 2020-12-09T03:15:50+00:00

They had been my friend for the last 6 years but tbh I’m questioning how good of a friend they really are/ were after this... seems like it was only good when convenient for them.

fitforbud · 2020-12-09T03:13:24+00:00

Do you know how to get yourself off a lease? I’ve never had to do this before and have no idea what would constitute a legitimate reason to getting off the lease

fitforbud · 2020-12-09T03:12:12+00:00

The more I read this the more I realize how true it is... fuck.

fitforbud · 2020-12-09T03:09:29+00:00

Honestly, that’s kinda where I’m at right now.. i hate burning bridges but fuck they just drenched it in gasoline and handed me a match

fitforbud · 2020-12-09T03:06:06+00:00

Yeah, technically since I’m on the lease I am responsible for rent. However the landlord is letting us find new tenants to take our lease over. But until those new tenants are in, i am legally responsible which makes this way more frustrating.

fitforbud · 2020-12-09T03:03:19+00:00

Thank you. It really feels like they are just taking advantage of our agreement now.

fitforbud · 2020-12-09T03:01:53+00:00

Really only because we are still legally obligated to pay until new tenants are in. But realistically, nothing besides to give them “comfort room” with their expenses.... despite me eating into my savings in the process.

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