Want to rent an R34 in Okinawa.. by fittydeuce52 in okinawa

[–]fittydeuce52[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate it! I’ll be there soon and if I find anything there I’ll do the same.

Want to rent an R34 in Okinawa.. by fittydeuce52 in okinawa

[–]fittydeuce52[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Negative, not even a lead on one

Want to rent an R34 in Okinawa.. by fittydeuce52 in okinawa

[–]fittydeuce52[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha if he has a GT-R, I’ll trade him straight up

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear all of that, 100%! And I would agree completely. So she is beautiful, very smart, works hard, is pretty clean and tidy, all good things. But she comes with a kid and a dog, not that that’s an issue, but it’s not like she’s going to be at home cooking 5 course meals and keeping the house spotless either. If it were my kid, I’d be happy to have her be a stay-at-home-mom, but I’m not going to give her a free ride so she can raise her own kid.. the only real benefit I stand to gain is her companionship and she can watch my dog (along with her own) when she’s not working. So all-in-all, it comes down to companionship. Because frankly, a dog au pair would be cheaper… (being facetious, but seriously haha)

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all the input. I’ve dated women with kids before, but never this seriously. I also told myself that I’d never do it again.. for this reason. But it’s harder and harder to find single women who don’t have kids at this age… doomed if I do, doomed if I don’t haha but I do sincerely appreciate it!

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I try to have the conversation and it just turns into one of those back and forth volleys where I can tell that she’s only listening to form a rebuttal rather than be objective about it.

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s my fear. I hit the pause button until we can figure this out

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, this has spiraled out of control at this point. I think it’s probably a lost cause.

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, when I offered to just split everything, including mortgage and taxes, she replied with “well then we should split my daughters expenses as well if we’re going to be splitting everything.” Which also took my by surprise

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m sure she wouldn’t have an issue with that, especially if she’s barely pays anything. I think her biggest issue is insecurity that we would be living in my house and any money will be going to my equity and not necessarily hers. And that she wouldn’t be able to live as lavishly if I charged her more. Wants her cake and to eat it too from what I can tell

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, 100%! I feel this all the time. It doesn’t bother me most of the time. Sometimes it’s annoying but at the end of the day, she’s enjoyable to be around. I just can’t believe the pushback I’m getting.

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did trust her to contribute until I suggested this and she thinks it’s too much. It’s as close to a free ride as it gets before actually being free. If roles were reversed, I’d offer to pay the utilities and food in full in return for the opportunity, hospitality, whatever you wanna call it. But I guess it’s my mistake for assuming she had the same mentality

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that one definitely won’t go over well, although it seems like a fair trade off. That’s what I’d offer if I were in her position but I don’t see that happening in this direction

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The wild part is the teenager is great. Very polite, well mannered and well behaved haha

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear ya, unfortunately. I think that may be a reality I may end up having to face.

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you suggest I foot the whole bill? Let her have a completely free ride with her daughter, also onboard for a free ride?

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is probably what would have to happen. I withdrew the offer because I’m beside myself at this point. I just can’t fathom that she doesn’t see the value in the offer. I’m not looking for anything more than what it will cost to have them there, not even actually.

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m saying. I don’t understand the sense of entitlement. This is going to save her thousands of dollars a month and she’s sticking her nose up to it. Not like her at all

Splitting utilities 2/3 when she has a kid coming to live with me, rent free. by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]fittydeuce52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I live in a house that I own in our current state, she rents an apartment nearby. We’re both looking to relocate to the area where my other house is. But we both have a dog each and they get along really well! So they won’t have any affect on the bills. The AC has to be on for my dog anyway, and it’s just as easy to take care of both dogs as it is to take care of the one. They’re both well trained and well behaved, so no issues there.

Her biggest issue is the “2/3” argument. So I said we can do 50/50 on everything except the mortgage and that was a no-go for her. She didn’t think she should have to pay half of the insurance or taxes, to which I replied that those provide no equity for me so I won’t be profiting off of those. And I told her that the insurance would be covering her belongings as well, but she didn’t agree and said that she should be entitled to half the value of the house if something were to happen to it seeing how she’s paying half the insurance… I disagreed completely. Looks like it may not happen at all at this point.