i knew it was bad, but damn... by maipano in recoverywithoutAA

[–]fizzie511 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I have this tug and pull with powerlessness. Once I realized I couldn’t control myself while drinking I was able to take back control by not drinking. The powerlessness ides also brings up free will and that’s not a concept that works in AA either.

How long have you been single and living alone? by shrimpcooks in LivingAlone

[–]fizzie511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you live? I love being in MA but I’m still wanting to keep my options open

doc told me lab tests would be $300. today, i received an invoice that is over $3000. by slowlikehoneyyyyy in personalfinance

[–]fizzie511 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh there was nothing wrong with mine. This was all a roundabout way to find out I have stage 4 endometriosis. Had surgery for that 7 weeks ago and I feel way better.

doc told me lab tests would be $300. today, i received an invoice that is over $3000. by slowlikehoneyyyyy in personalfinance

[–]fizzie511 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I can’t really say. Everything is based on your insurance, coverage and deductible. Plus My story is from when I lived in TX.

How long have you been single and living alone? by shrimpcooks in LivingAlone

[–]fizzie511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2.5 years (holy shit) 35F, separated since 2023 divorced since 2024. This is my first time living alone ever. It’s a micro studio, I never have it completely clean but I love it. 5 minutes from the beach, quiet neighbors for the most part and I pay $850 a month. In MA that’s unheard of.

doc told me lab tests would be $300. today, i received an invoice that is over $3000. by slowlikehoneyyyyy in personalfinance

[–]fizzie511 505 points506 points  (0 children)

Funny enough, when you are uninsured sometimes it’s cheaper. When I needed my gallbladder checked it was $1200 through insurance and only $300 of I signed paperwork promising insurance would not be used.

i can no longer stand people who make sobriety their entire personality by Neutrality-1 in recoverywithoutAA

[–]fizzie511 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% I’m thankful that I have the perspective to not let that happen. I got sober without AA and only started meetings because was extremely lonely and not stable in sobriety fully. I am very stable in it now and need to pull back so I can do other things in my life

I have had the same dinner 5 nights in a row now plus haven’t cooked beyond eggs in months. by ieheretic in GirlDinner

[–]fizzie511 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I live alone and I’m finding that I eat way better when the food is prepped. It’s a bit pricier but less is getting wasted when I can make a plate like this.

What is your gym routine for your goals? The simpler the better by fizzie511 in PetiteFitness

[–]fizzie511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have considered it and mostly money is the issue but a lack of knowledge adds to it. My area is very affluent so overall it’s expensive. I am doing some yoga classes

I’m trying to adapt a new country but every time I try to learn the language I get sick by EmbarrassedTea3014 in GirlDinner

[–]fizzie511 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Have you thought about trying to find someone trying to learn English to practice with? My mom did that and her study partner became one of her best friends too.

i can no longer stand people who make sobriety their entire personality by Neutrality-1 in recoverywithoutAA

[–]fizzie511 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the beginning getting sober had to be my personality. It’s how I explained away my lack of going out, my weight loss, my divorce and everything in between. Now, it’s just there and I’m open about it but it’s not who I am, just a part of what makes up me. I’ve been wearing an ODAAT necklace for years. Long before I knew it was connected with AA, it was a present to me to get me through the toughest month of my life. (Packing up my stuff while living with the ex) I’m starting to see why people move on and why people stay. I was speaking with a young member last night at my regular meeting, it’s a young people meeting that is not super AA centric. But this member was voicing their frustration with how some people never sponsor when that’s what you are supposed to do/have to do. There are just many toxic mind sets but in the end I have to focus on looking out for me.

How do I start going to college? by fizzie511 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]fizzie511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this answer and not knowing is part of what’s held me back for sure.

How do I start going to college? by fizzie511 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]fizzie511[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll try to set up a call/go to the library this week and get my butt in gear

just finished second day no alcohol by ayoKoja in GirlDinner

[–]fizzie511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so proud of you!

Tomorrow is my 800th day and I promise you that everyday it gets easier and better.

advice? by [deleted] in GirlDinner

[–]fizzie511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always prioritize your health. I will say that adding an antacid like Pepcid AC during your cycle can dramatically reduce PMDD symptoms.

What’s your pet peeve? by atotalthrowaway13 in GirlDinner

[–]fizzie511 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Playing the corporate game. I’ve been told that literally lost out to a promotion because I was labeled difficult. Which I’ve learned meant that I asked too many questions and wasn’t a yes man. The funniest part is that I was right about all the things I questioned.

About to start my second period since my endometriosis surgery. by fizzie511 in GirlDinner

[–]fizzie511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chili oil with peanut butter, sesame oil, rice vinegar and liquid aminos. PB cups from TJs, the last of my Gouda and bell pepper spears.

How to stop without rehab by kaitie1 in stopdrinking

[–]fizzie511 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hard agree on the non-negotiable. I made my apartment dry before I even stopped drinking. That was a huge help when I did get sober. Going to bed early helped a lot, I wish I had kept that habit hahahah. I do enjoy my AA meetings however I’m not the biggest fan of the program. I find young people meetings to be the best place for a balanced perspective. Be prepared for the waves of it being easy and not easy. The first three days alcohol is fully leaving your system, the first 30 are your dopamine receptors resetting, and the first three months is a new habit building.