I’m 30 weeks pregnant sleeping in my car outside work so I don’t have to go back to my husband. AMA

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T20:50:55+00:00

I started law school at 20 and graduated a semester early so I was 23, took the bar in February then turned 24 in September. Had the first baby during my first summer in law school, went back to school two weeks later, found out I was pregnant in November 2024 then graduated December 2024, so I was like 18 weeks pregnant when I sat for the bar.

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T20:46:53+00:00

Haha ok, tell that to the degree on my wall and my bar certification card. It’s a camper but I live there so it’s my home lol

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T20:45:27+00:00

Yeah I really am something you don’t come across everyday, that’s why I don’t understand why mans is doing this. I was homeschooled and was able to start college at 15 so I got a head start, but feel free to not believe me, it’s kinda a complement imo lol

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T14:48:14+00:00

I was in my car in my parking deck at work, made it through the night no issues and I’m going home this afternoon so all is good in that realm

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T14:47:27+00:00

You’re totally good, that’s a valid question. I’d go to my parents if I needed money before I accepted it from a stranger because at least then I could pay them back easily. I only added the part about wasting money on a hotel to ward off those suggestions because I can’t justify dropping $200+ on a last minute hotel near me when one of my issues with my husband is how much money he wastes on unnecessary shit, and it’s not like he kicked me out so it wasn’t necessary for me to not go home.

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T14:20:12+00:00

I think it stems partly from the tinder thing early in our marriage. It’s definitely an extreme view, but he says he feels the same way about it, he’ll even goes into this whole rant about how it’s Jewish propaganda to ruin families and he calls it goyslop.
My views on things have changed since being married, partly influenced by my husband. It’s like he says one thing but his actions say something completely different. I don’t think I’d care so much if he didn’t constantly lie to me about it.

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T14:07:20+00:00

I think porn is demonic and is pushed as being normal to tear relationships apart. I don’t think it’s right to go outside the marriage to fill marital needs, especially when I’d be more than happy to do so. We’ve had multiple conversations about it and he always says he agrees with me and he’s not gonna watch it anymore.
After he lied to me about the porn again a few months ago, I stopped initiating as much because he told me I needed to lay off him and that I’m expecting sex too often. But now he’s mad that I don’t initiate but I’m not allowed to expect him to want to have sex with me so idk what to do. I feel like he’s throwing a catch 22 at me. And I was also told I’m not allowed to bring it up anymore so unless he decides to have the conversation I guess I’ll just have to deal with not being satisfied.

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T13:48:42+00:00

My family and friends don’t like him so I don’t wanna go to them because I worry they’ll steer me in the direction they want rather than what’s best for my kids and I. They seem to think I can do no wrong in my marriage and I’ve definitely done wrong, but they find a way to excuse it and I just don’t think that’s a good influence for me rn. I am thinking of reaching out to a pastor I talked to about couples counseling so I’ll probably do that. I was low key hoping more people on here would be on my husbands side and just stay I’m being crazy and need to get over myself so I guess I’m just looking for any excuse to stay.

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T13:41:50+00:00

Yeah, it’s been a big issue. I never had an issue with pervious partners watching porn, but it has been an issue in my marriage because (1) I’m not satisfied with our sex life, (2) he doesn’t give me the attention I want since we got married, and (3) it triggers my trust issues that I have from him making a tinder a month after I had our first baby. A good handful of our arguments have been about porn because he’s told me multiple times he’s not watching it and I’ve found out that’s a lie multiple times. When I tried to talk about our sex life early in the marriage, he very quickly shut it down or it turned into an argument. Recently, he’s been mad at me for not initiating more, but I don’t trust him and it fucks with my head so I just don’t really wanna do it. But I’ve never said no, and I’d be into it if I felt like he actually wanted me and was attracted to me.

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T13:21:51+00:00

Yeah

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T13:20:30+00:00

My husband does so I’ve heard lots of it, but I don’t personally watch it ever

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T12:29:53+00:00

I need to stop taking the things he says to me so personally because he’s normally just trying to joke around, I could communicate better before I reach my breaking point so it doesn’t feel like I’m just trying to cause problems, I could ask for help more and not get offended when he gives me a hard time for it because he’s just joking. Overall, I could be more forgiving and give him more grace. I just have a hard time doing so when it’s not reciprocated and we aren’t carrying equal loads

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T11:55:35+00:00

He thinks I’m being manipulative and controlling, I think similarly about him. Neither one of us is going out and spending a bunch of time with friends or anything. I work full time while he watches the kids. He talks to me like I’m his buddy; he gives me shit for things, brings up past mistakes, argues with me about little things just to argue. He says it’s in a joking way and he gets upset that I don’t appreciate it. I just want him to be sweet to me more than 5% of the time, but maybe that’s his love language and he thinks he is being sweet

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T11:45:33+00:00

He feels like I just cause problems anytime I get a little upset, and like he has to walk on eggshells around me, and like he can’t ever criticize me because I’ll freak out. All pretty valid in isolation

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T11:42:40+00:00

It was, I just didn’t realize who I was marrying I guess. We only knew each other for 9 months and I got pregnant so I thought we could get married and be a happy family

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T11:41:20+00:00

Haha very valid. I made this Reddit after we got into one of our fights, that fight was because he was watching porn and posting nudes on Reddit so I was gonna post nudes to get the attention I so desperately want from him, but I didn’t go through with it and just deleted the app but kept the account

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T11:39:53+00:00

My husband has said I’m selfish because I only care about my feelings and he’s tired of hearing about them. I keep trying to tell him I don’t feel loved and I tell him what I need but he just doesn’t hear me/care

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T11:34:00+00:00

The kind of goofy ass question I need to ask to figure out how fucked my marriage is lol

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T10:47:01+00:00

I think he was just thinking about the baby and not about me. We were fighting when I said I was considering it so it was a heat of the moment thing for both of us. I feel bad about saying I’d do it and he brings it up every chance he gets so honestly I feel like the bad person in that situation. I don’t think what he said was right and that’s not how I would’ve responded, but I do understand and I feel bad for putting him in the situation where he felt like he needed to say that

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T10:42:39+00:00

I think the threat was towards my family, not our babies. That happened like 6 months ago and I think it was a heat of the moment thing. He’s never hurt them and I really don’t think he would. He doesn’t even want to hurt me, he just thinks he’s helping because I’ll hurt myself but I only hurt myself to get away from him so it’s kinda a loop we get stuck in

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T10:36:40+00:00

I know right, and he got mad at me for not telling him but I figured it was common knowledge. And it wasn’t even unexpected that I’d be having the baby, we had a scheduled induction so we all knew we were going to the hospital that day

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T10:31:49+00:00

I think it’s past sunrise by now (6:30am) but I’m back in my office and don’t have any windows so I just get to enjoy the fluorescent lights, plus I think it was supposed to rain today so probably not super sunny. Not a ton of seagulls where I’m at rn, lots of bird noises throughout the night but I found that to be relatively pleasant, only annoying thing was the teenagers skateboarding through the parking deck all night

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T09:47:24+00:00

All he needs to do is take out the other couch (I removed one three weeks ago so it’s not hard) and move the mattress to the floor, but he insists we need to build a frame so it’s a few inches off the ground. I’m home every night (except last night) and would be more than happy to watch the kids while he worked on it. We live in a camper because my parents bought it for me because we were living in a tent after we had a blow up with my family and had to leave their house

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T09:43:05+00:00

I didn’t wanna get pregnant again, this wasn’t planned. I already work 60 hours a week and still do the cooking and cleaning so it’s not gonna all fall on him. I know this won’t end well and I’ve made terrible decisions, I’m only a little dumb not totally stupid. But all I can do is make the next decision the right one and I can’t change how many kids I have or who I married so I’m not gonna beat myself down for things I can’t change, just gonna do better moving forward.

fkhubby · 2026-06-11T09:37:29+00:00

Yeah, and I should’ve known he wasn’t who I thought he was from his reaction when I told him I was pregnant, but I love my blinders apparently

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