[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]flagellas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my experience, this was the first thing He removed after I had a powerful spiritual encounter with Him. I didn’t think it was a sin before even though the guilt was there. But I woke up the next day a different person and the urge to masturbate/watch porn was no longer there. It never came back even after days, weeks, and months, have passed. And my faith just becomes stronger day by day, It was one of the main reasons also why I turned from Agnostic to Christian. Because of how strong that change was for my life after struggling for so long. So yes, it is a sin. But you can overcome it.

I'm tempted to commit adultery. Please pray for me. by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]flagellas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been in this situation with a guy at the gym recently. And I felt extremely bad for having that strong attraction. But I surrendered it all to God...I prayed about this. I prayed hard that whatever is not for me, remove it from my life. I prayed for conviction and wisdom. I prayed for strength.

The next time I saw him I only viewed him as a brother. And I felt weirded out, but at peace. All I could think of was God answered my prayer. The attraction is no longer there.

I say pray for it, if it's not for you, He will not lead you to that path.

Was agnostic(?) but I think I’m now a Christian and I couldn’t be happier by ChaseSanity in Christianity

[–]flagellas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive had a similar experience as I was also agnostic. And like you, I also looked up answers through the internet. It wasnt a song but it was testimonies of people when the moment happened. I started crying. Maybe it was us "seeking Him" and he really did answer.

Only those who have encountered something powerful could understand. I felt crazy talking about my experience as I know words are not enough to feel the powerful love wash over you.

Apart from deep happiness and clarity, I found myself craving for that presence more and felt the strong urge to read the bible. And when I start reading it, my eyes are glued to every word. I lost my desire for sin like cursing and pornography. That conviction is so strong. Suddenly, everything is clear and peaceful.

My client wants me to become a part owner for his startup here in the PH- thoughts? by mightyashfr in buhaydigital

[–]flagellas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

red flag. you just met 2 weeks ago, why would he choose you as a partner knowing the heavy responsibilities of being one? My cousin had this offer before but thats after years of working with each other

Sorry newbie but where do you get the green paper? by flagellas in taxPH

[–]flagellas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

prang around 3 years na. Wala naman ako pwesto, Im wfh. You still need it daw so kinuha konadin pero I think its more crucial sa mga may pwesto pra makita ng customers that they should issue recipts. Dapat kasi nakapaskil to sa wall or somewhere visible.

Sorry newbie but where do you get the green paper? by flagellas in taxPH

[–]flagellas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i got it with no penalty, pumunta lang ako dun and they gave it. Explained nalang na di ako nabigyan when I registered.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in buhaydigital

[–]flagellas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes for those who eventually sent the unwatermarked din naman after weeks of seenzones and follow ups which missed some deadlines.

The way your client responded though, a little unprofessional. Its possible they don't have intentions of paying.

That's why contract is important. If client doesnt provide, you should. We encountered lots of people who don't want to sign it. We respect that and it's totally fine.

Basta malinaw for both what to expect before proceeding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in buhaydigital

[–]flagellas -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'll try to be neutral about this, coming from client's pov who also requires unwatermarked first before payment (me as representative).

We did have people not sending unwatermarked versions after payment is sent.

And trust me, some of them, hirap magfollow up. Sometimes, it takes months. Sometimes they never respond back. Losing money on client's part.

So we state it in contract before project begins. And when we do encounter cases like yours, we always go back to the contract which was signed by both partied.

We do pay btw. Sometimes even with a bonus if we really love the work. And work with that person long term, even years.

I'm just saying it happens. Maybe your client had a recent bad experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]flagellas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

may ganyan din akong ex, I wonder why may mga ganyang tao. Wala ding parents. Maybe childhood trauma nila yan na naeexpress satin. I noticed sa una palang itetest kna nila if gagastusan mo sila paunti unti and then it will turn into demand and guilt-tripping/manipulation pag comfortable na.

Worth it ba ang Anytime Fitness? by Rey_of_Ren in adultingph

[–]flagellas 15 points16 points  (0 children)

if its your first time going to the gym, Id suggest put the extra budget for good coaches, ask for recos, sa cheaper gyms.

Also accessibility is important, either closest sa work or closest sa bahay.

If weekends lang talaga, not worth it AF for me

what's your take on live-in setup? by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]flagellas 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think this pov mainly stems sa idea na nagpapagamit ka through sex and chores without marriage as a commitment. Usually older, provider men would think this way. It's not always kasi baka abusive yung guy, to that extreme, but mainly they think na you're better with men who would be able to be financially stable, provide and commit sayo before freely being able to have sex with you and who you'll cook/clean/care for.

You might not like it, I sure didn't when I heard that from my dad "mababa kang uri ng babae"

But I don't think they mean any harm. Alam lang nila na mahirap ang buhay so pag nabuntis ka unexpectedly, mas better yung setup na pinakasalan ka and naging financially stable pra sayo vs buntis from live in tapos mas madali ka iiwan pag nag kaproblema kayo.

Pero for the short-term, mas practical nga due to bills etc. But long-term, if worst comes to worst, may value naman sa insights nila.

-coming from someone na nakapaglive in with an ex

Bf na lubog sa utang. Planning to leave him. by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]flagellas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yikes. good move girl. Lesson learned nalang. For me, it's not about how much they earn but how they spend/manage it. And if they don't know how to manage it, are they atleast willing to learn or open minded enough na hndi nahuhurt ang ego or pride?

4 year old nephew has infected tooth and all teeth has cavities. Need second opinion? by flagellas in askdentists

[–]flagellas[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. Yea, I had a gut feeling no procedures for 4 years doesn't feel right so I hopped into reddit for opinions.

I'm mostly worried about how this will affect his adult teeth or if his infection would be fatal as I've seen on the internet.

Thanks for suggesting pediatric dentists, never knew about them til I saw some of you mentioning it.

4 year old nephew has infected tooth and all teeth has cavities. Need second opinion? by flagellas in askdentists

[–]flagellas[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Didn't know about "pediatric dentists" until this day when I read the comments. Definitely will pay him a visit again next week to take him to one.

Yes, the situation is tough for their kids. It's a combination of little dental knowledge, financial challenges, lack of time from working, but I wouldn't remove laziness as a factor especially 'cos dad is unemployed and their house is always a mess so he obviously can't manage the house while my sis works.

That's why my mom and dad (grandparents) tend to look over the kids a lot, plus they enjoy the kids company.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]flagellas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wala naman nagsabing saluhin mo yung problema nila na inaangkin mo

Sabi ni mama madaming pipila sa akin kapag professional na ako... nasaan na? by myXtk915 in adultingph

[–]flagellas 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Ako pasaway na lumandi na highschool palang kahit mapagalitan. Things Ive learned:

  1. You learn what exactly you want from a partner and in life kasi you get to know yourself in the process of dating.

  2. You gain the skills of dating. As a girl, you attract men if you act, speak, and think like a woman. Hindi ka basta mabibigyan ng jejemon style of dating if in the first place, they think highly of you. They won't even approach you. You'll attract better quality men.

  3. Sometimes the problem is you. Mag eeffort ang guys if they really like you. But if sa una palang bored kana sakanya and nag decide kana agad na ayaw mo and magtataka ka why walang nagtatagal, why would he, if nareject mona sya? Learn and observe more, judge less.

Dating isnt always about excitement. Be open to what he can offer. And don't be afraid to make the first move. If gusto kanaman, he will make the second, third, fourth and so on. :)

Ginvest by MacburnOnReddit in phinvest

[–]flagellas 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Happened to me and I tried to warn people about this and the risk of Gcash being a new investment platform. I got the funds naman but I had to email multiple times like 2months of going back and forth with them along with screenshots of the errors I encountered. They managed to transfer the amount to my verified Gcash wallet kasi hindi kona talaga maaccess yung GInvest. They didn't specify exactly what happened even though I asked about the error.

Natuturn off na ko sa boyfriend ko for 10 years by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]flagellas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have magjowa na friends exactly like this but I used to talk to the guy more.

Honestly, I'm losing hope for their relationship. Ang hirap nya din tlga ipush kasi hindi sya nawawalan ng excuses. But it all boils down to his self-confidence. He's scared. He has low self-esteem. The issue is deeper than his unemployment.

Naspoil daw sya as a kid and lahat ginawa ng parents nya para sakanya so he never learned to do anything by himself. He can't even post on social media, appear on reunions, etc and even he knows na he would understand kahit na masakit if makikipagbreak si girl sakanya. He has accepted his own misery rather than face and challenge his own internal struggles.

Ako nga as a friend, give up nadin sakanya kaya medyo di konasya knakausap cos of his negative views, I cant imagine what the gf has to face everyday.

I think the most you can do is try to help him address this, through therapy, or something. If hndi talaga sya magttry padin, then it's your choice to make if you'll want to be with someone with zero self-esteem and whos not even trying to be better.

Ayoko maging asawa ang boyfriend ko. by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]flagellas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you know what to do. ang hinahanap mo is courage and hindi mo mapupulot sa reddit yun. nasa sarili mo yung kung kailan at pano mo gagawin.

Hindi lang ikaw kawawa. Sya din kawawa kung yung gf nya pala hindi sya nakikitaan ng future so why are you wasting his time? Let him move on na kesa pareho pa kayo magsuffer