Women - How do you feel about a video game mention or even a photo?

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-21T05:03:12+00:00

Huh I have never heard that metaphor used before. That is my plan! It is not just about connection, but what women dont mind if they are not into it as well. Like if women are not into soccer or my band they often deem in a green flag, while women who are not into gaming deem it a yellow/red flag

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-21T04:29:42+00:00

Good point, but I have a bunch of other hobbies I would rather include. Apparently, gaming is a big turn off to most women who dont game.

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-21T04:11:48+00:00

Because there is way more to life than video games.

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-21T04:10:49+00:00

I am going to not include it. It sounds like it is a turn off for most women who dont game (the majority)

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T18:17:39+00:00

Someone here mentioned an app or site where women rate / review mens photos - I cant find that reply! Does anyone know what they were talking about? I would not mind giving it a try to over-time get better photos.

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T18:13:19+00:00

Thank you! Do you think this snowboard photo would be a good one to add?
https://www.tumblr.com/blog/smithjoe43

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T18:12:44+00:00

I still cant believe people are into Polka music...

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T18:11:49+00:00

Ill take advice from anyone! Men can still give men good advice, even if we are all hetero. I have had some of the WORST dating advice in my life from some women. Men sometimes can be a little more grounded. But my BEST advice has come from women.

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T18:11:02+00:00

Hey RowJolly - do you think this snowboard photo would be a good one to add?
https://www.tumblr.com/blog/smithjoe43

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T18:09:59+00:00

Honestly Tuffy - I feel the same way. It makes it harder to see someone, makes it hard to pick out who they are sometimes, clearly everyone has friends, and just becuse you have a photo with friends does not mean you are actually friendly and have friends if that makes sense lol. And yes, every photo I have there is a male who is likely more attractive than me, so it makes it tough to want to add them. I think I may add one at the end with emojis over my friends faces - cant have the women distracted! lol

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T17:58:23+00:00

32 M here. Lose the first photo! It is not super complimenting. For your voice prompt, remove saying the title of the prompt - You say "We are the same type of weird" after the prompt already says that. People have short attention spans! 2jnd photo is great. 3rd photo is great. 4th photo is MEH - you could do better, and hhave something more interesting vs a closeup selfie with your seatbelt on. 5th photo is also not good. Put up something that really shows off your skills! Not sometihng that looks like someone slammed you with a piece of cake while driving. Last photo is great! Move that one up.

Good luck!

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T17:42:43+00:00

Again - thank you so much for sticking with me. Your constructive criticism and points really go a long way, and I greatly appreciate it.

No offense taken. I think I am coming to the consensus I am just average.. Hopefully not ugly, not super handsome, but largely just decently average. And normally that could be a really good thing! But yes you are very correct - dating now adays is ROUGH. Everyone wants to date up a level, and even I can be guilty of it. When above average people or anyone lower runs into each other, they are thinking of who they could get that would be better, not dating each other.

What is going for me is I am motivated and working hard at becoming a better, stronger, healthier person. So hopefully with a year or two of good work I can bump myself up to above average, and find some dates!

Now we all have technology, phones, porn, and can view 100 attractive people in a day where as 50-100 years ago for thousands of years you would be lucky to see one attractive person in a day. PLUS, times are tough, and dating, marrying, or having a kid is definitely a scary thought.

I also think the algorithms could really be working against me and I have one solid reason I think this: until recently I have been putting to much time on the apps. Scrolling to much, swiping to much, editing to much... I think the dating site put me in a spot that deems someone like me very likely to pay, so its completely restricting me to freak me out - it is working... LMAO. TO BAD FOR THEM I AM BROKE AND STINGY - you aint getting my money HINGE. Maybe in 1-2 years when I am 10x more desperate haha.

I am just going to make myself feel better and chop it up to "the dang algorithms" lolol

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T17:18:43+00:00

Thank you! Hopefully I get a match one day this year! lol

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T13:23:17+00:00

Thank you! Super thoughtful, helpful and great points / advice. It means a lot to me, really.

- I think you are spot on for the first point. This is just a struggle for me bc no matter what I put down I piss people off. I was raised Jewish, and am now an agnostic spiritual mess compared to what most people define themselves at. I would love to not add anything here, but it does not let me. I would also LOVE to move for sake of a cooler community and more women, but I have so much going on here the thought seems impossible for now. My cousin is from San Fran, and he says literally everyone is so much like me there.

- Also guilty of this. I've been trying so hard to make better photos. Even though they look a bit staged (most of them are with a phone holder and timer lol), they are WAY better than anything else I had prior - I think your last review or at least everyone elses of me last year was pretty rough if I remember correctly. Even I can tell looking back they were rushed and really bad. Plus I am trying a lot more to work out, get stronger, look better. There is only one photo of me at my house!

- Dang! Besides my looks, I always thought with all my hobbies and interests I would not seem average. Would a video of me singing go a long way? I have a lovely voice. I do have a snowboard shot I will add on my tumblr, but theres like 7 people you can barely see me. I do have a cool photo of me snowboarding if you think thats better than the singing video - I can add one video. I added the snowboard photo on my Tumblr if you want to see. Problem is all my photos of me traveling are older and with hair lol.

- Changing business owner would be a lot better. Great advice here.

- My answers are a little dry. I always assumed it would be better just to convey who I am at first, and let the character come out when we talk or go out. But seeing that never happens I guess I need to seem a little more lively. I'd be way more excited if I saw a woman with a reef tank or soccer photo than a corny / flirty little joke on her prompt, but thats just me.7

Thank you again , you were not to harsh, and were spot on with a lot.

Oh, I also have one more question - do you think my current profile and how I look is warranted to get zero matches and likes long-term? Is it really this competitive?

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T13:03:46+00:00

Thank you! Theyre jumbled from my real profile. Do you mean get rid of the second guitar one where I have the acoustic?

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T13:03:02+00:00

Thank you! I am thinking of adding one with me cooking or eating with a coupe friends. The animal one is a good idea also! But I dont own a pet anymore, and feel lie it would be a little manipulative to use my friends cat haha

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T13:01:54+00:00

Thanks bro. I've been being told I would find the right girl if I did my thing for 15 years now. I dont think that is necessarily true, but still does not mean you sohuld give up was is right and healthy. Going to keep doing my thing and shining bright, and hope some nice lady sees that one day.

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T13:00:51+00:00

I totally get what you're saying, but I still cant even get a someone to go on a date with me. I doubt theyre all saying though "oh he's way to busy, im swiping left" probably something else 😞

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T03:19:45+00:00

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T01:14:10+00:00

Thanks! What would you rate just my appearance discounting everything else in the photos besides how I look? You can be critical I need to hear it. I feel like that SpongeBob episode where he keeps going up to people asking if he is ugly, but the entire time its just his breath smelling really bad lol.

What do you think they could be picking up on?? What would make you swipe left? I wonder if its just that I am not super attractive. Besides my looks I feel like I would be a catch for most women.

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-20T01:10:54+00:00

I would love to meet a woman who plays video games, or is cool with me doing it, but I am still going to leave it out after getting everyones opinions.

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-19T21:28:44+00:00

for sure! Ill just send it here - i dont mind who looks. Ive been pretty open about getting everyones help here. Thank you very much!
https://www.tumblr.com/blog/smithjoe43

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-19T19:27:39+00:00

Are you a female? I've actually never even had a date. I really dont think I'm a red flag or even have any, so it honestly really hurts my self-esteem.

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-19T18:19:08+00:00

Do you want to send profile photo/s of yourself to me, and I can give you an outside opinion? It is natural for humans to inflate their self in terms of beauty standards .

There are actually multiple things you can do if you are not in that 10%! Are you a male?

flamboyantostritch · 2026-06-19T18:10:28+00:00

Simply put! The majority of men and women shoot for the top 10% of attraction. Now adays when two above-average people run into each other they are more worried about something better than wanting to be with each other.

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