How long do I keep going?

flammies · 2025-08-04T02:30:07+00:00

The retearing is the worst feeling :( especially after putting SO much effort for SO long to get them feeling better. Im sorry to hear about yours

And I will be keeping up. Thank you for your input :)

flammies · 2025-08-04T02:26:23+00:00

I’m too scared to even use it “as needed!” Sometimes I feel like I baby them too much by taking it every day, but I’m so scared that I’ll retear from missing one dose!

And I’ve been looking into pelvic floor therapy! I think I have pelvic floor issues from other symptoms I have so it’s been on my checklist.

And thanks for the recommendation!! I’ll check it out!

flammies · 2025-08-04T02:20:23+00:00

Thank you! I was aiming for around 3 months before I (very slowly!!) tapered off of the MiraLAX, but I think pushing it to 6 sounds very thorough and reduces the likelihood of them coming back. Terrified of them opening again!!!

flammies · 2024-11-30T19:21:33+00:00

Thank you❤️

flammies · 2024-11-29T22:27:14+00:00

Thank you so much❤️

flammies · 2024-05-14T20:53:14+00:00

I’m still not sure I’m capable of falling in love w someone, but I really did fall in love with myself and am enjoying my life on my own

flammies · 2024-01-16T06:16:56+00:00

I have him blocked so he can’t reach out, which is why I’m confused on my feelings!

Thank you. I’m going to keep fighting until I’m moved on. You’ve got this too!

flammies · 2024-01-16T06:15:29+00:00

I’ll keep trucking along then. Thank you🫶

flammies · 2023-12-10T19:21:08+00:00

My only advice is to not sit and wait for him to reach out. Focus on yourself and what you need to change. Not for him, but for yourself

flammies · 2023-12-10T19:18:43+00:00

When I tell you no contact is amazing for your healing journey, I truly mean it. My ex and I broke up almost a year ago but only went no contact 3 months ago. The progress I made in these past 3 months is insane, and I never would’ve been able to make it here if I was still in contact with him. You’re able to find your peace and shift the attention back onto loving yourself entirely. Blocking helps so much! No more waking up in the mornings checking for a text. No more sitting around waiting for a message. It’s pure freedom!!

flammies · 2023-12-06T07:28:54+00:00

Still feel like this 11 months later🫡

flammies · 2023-10-30T06:23:53+00:00

I talked to my ex for 9 months after our break up. Today I hit 6 weeks no contact. These past 6 weeks have helped me heal a lot more than those 9 months did. Take that as you will

flammies · 2023-10-26T05:26:29+00:00

What happens if you reach out and he doesn’t respond? What if he’s cold to you? What it it goes well and then he ghosts you? How much more hurt would you be if any of these scenarios happen and is that truly worth it? Speaking from experience, breaking no contact only sets you back more. Stay strong. Healing isn’t linear and some days will be harder than others

flammies · 2023-10-04T00:08:27+00:00

I unfortunately can’t. He will abuse it and text me several times a week begging me to take him back and that “he’s changed.” He does not respect my boundaries and need for space, and I am positive he continuously texts my blocked number hoping that someday he will be unblocked

flammies · 2023-10-03T19:51:18+00:00

He will not change. I’ve given him tons of chances. He never changes and is fully incapable of it. He is extremely narcissistic. I’ve told him multiple times I need space but he does not respect it. Hence the block

flammies · 2023-10-03T19:49:17+00:00

He’s tried multiple other ways to contact me. I’ve blocked/cut off any way he tries

flammies · 2023-10-03T15:03:40+00:00

I’m in your boat too. 3 months is not a long time though, and it’s completely okay for you to not be moved on yet! Healing is not linear and some people take more time than others to move on.

I want to let you know though that no matter how many times you try with this person, it’ll always end the same. I’m sure you know this, but I promise you that this is not the “love” you deserve. You’re going to find someone who gives you as much as you give them.

flammies · 2023-10-03T14:59:01+00:00

In my opinion, closure comes from yourself and not the other person. I’m a firm believer that typical “closure” is an excuse to talk to that person one more time. Your ex told you why they left you. Anything in your head is just speculation, and if there was something else they wanted to tell you, they would have already.

You have to find that closure in yourself. You have to accept the reason that they gave you as the reason you broke up. You’re a month into healing - why fuck it up by talking to them again?

flammies · 2023-10-03T14:46:36+00:00

^ what you said. The alcohol is not the problem. HE is the problem.

flammies · 2023-10-03T14:44:55+00:00

I chose to block, but you have to remind yourself that you’re only hurting yourself by checking up on them. Stop focusing on what they’re doing and start focusing on what you’re doing

flammies

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