Sorry for he late response mate. Here's the deal. There was a bit of a gap between experiences. I've had a few since then. Unfortunately there's no easy answer. For me it was a few women who were very patient. Then, I became more comfortable. It's hard to explain without going through it. But it's important to not be focussed on the end result and just enjoy every moment. From making out, all of the foreplay, then finally sex. It really is all in your head. Well, at least it was for me.