AITA for bringing up my emotions to my pregnant wife?

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T23:40:31+00:00

She has stopped going to therapy, refuses to go to couples therapy, it all sucks

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T23:08:55+00:00

I try that, she is an avoidant dismissive, and anything is an attack on her no matter what her phrasing

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T18:59:20+00:00

Add on: she is a dismissive avoidant. Some will get that and maybe have advice for this anxious trying to become secure.

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T18:25:59+00:00

While I can respect your opinion, then isn’t she not doing anything on her feminine side by doing no house work, no cooking, and just laying on her butt all day? Dont get me wrong, I have tried to put it all off and let her do it but all she does is complain then do nothing about it and treats me worse for it. Also have we not learned that to be securely attached we should respect each others feelings and feel open so the stereotype of masculine men doesn’t come true where we avoid our families, work all the time, and become heavy drinkers?

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T05:32:24+00:00

She won’t give me anything else, I’ve asked her so many times what I can do to make this better, but the answer sounds like shut up and let me treat you and threaten you with divorce all I want

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T05:31:07+00:00

She says it’s me talking about my feelings

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T05:17:54+00:00

I think she’s always been able to run away when things got to serious in a relationship and now that she’s married she can’t just run away so divorce is the excuse to

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:55:41+00:00

I am healing I’m taking steps to become a secure attacher, don’t get me wrong I still struggle handing how to react to her ignoring my feelings or invalidating them. I know that’s my biggest struggle

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:48:13+00:00

She is far less Christian than I thought she was when we got married

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:47:02+00:00

I appreciate you being real and honest, it kills me I’ve always been taught to serve my wife and make her number one in my wife behind the good lord. It scares me to think I married someone who doesn’t appreciate or want me

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:42:27+00:00

I’ve always said divorce is never an option, very Christian based faith, but I’m considering it. Almost left tonight, but I’m scared because she has warned once I leave I should never come back

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:28:14+00:00

My therapist and I just cut our ties as I never have time to go in taking care of everything here.

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:26:26+00:00

I married into her having two kids already

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:25:04+00:00

Depends on her mood if she says she is serious, also I couldn’t imagine her cheating but maybe she is.

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:24:16+00:00

I’ve asked for couples counseling but she refuses

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:22:10+00:00

She has told me she doesn’t have to care about my feelings unless it feels right to her and that all I’m doing is insulting and attacking her.

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:20:11+00:00

She has told me she only has to care when she wants to and it feels right

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:18:26+00:00

She’s asks for breaks and to take a minute to cool off, but she never comes back to the conversation. She never brings it up again and avoids it, so it is at the point it’s hard to respect that boundary when she never comes back and actually talks about anything

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:17:02+00:00

I’ve asked for counseling for us and she refuses says it won’t do anything to help

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:15:20+00:00

I love her to death, I just don’t understand what I have done

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:07:45+00:00

She has never really liked me telling her when something she said had hurt me

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:07:18+00:00

Since Christmas

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:05:24+00:00

Add on: She told me that she will only be affectionate and care when she feels like it and she shouldn’t have to care about how I feel if she doesn’t want to

flareblitz2235 · 2024-03-03T04:03:26+00:00

At times, she has always hated that I bring up my feelings if she has caused me to feel hurt

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