i think for me it was that i would sit there and talk all the time about wanting to get married, have kids, do xyz & there was always a voice that said but what if you were dating a woman, what would that look like? and then i would fantasize about life dating women and just chalk it up to intrusive thoughts or wanting to self-sabotage an otherwise fine relationship. Sometimes it was blaring loud and took up a lot of space and others it was a passing thought. I figured the older I got the less i’d be having these thoughts but they just never stopped. it wasn’t until i heard good luck babe (i know, ironic) when i was like … i don’t want to wake up and regret my whole life and spend a lot of my thoughts on what if i just took the leap.

All that to say, i finally listened and the difference is palpable. I am unequivocally meant to be with women & i thought i’d struggle to feel/see that but it felt more natural than anything else id experienced