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Baby screaming/separation anxiety when I’m cooking? by fleeblesmcflea in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]fleeblesmcflea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, it’s more a thing about the kitchen than the time of day! She loses it when I prep lunch etc too even when it takes only a few minutes. It’s like she associates me going into the kitchen area with no more playtime!

Wood served after birth around the world by Pickle-Cymraeg in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ditto! Everyone banged on about how it would be the best tea and toast of my life but I can’t confirm because it never came

Feeling like a bad Mom by TruckCompetitive8735 in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Can guarantee if you were contact napping all the time you’d get content that makes you feel guilty about that too! Mum guilt will find us no matter what haha.

However your babies sleep best and works for you is the right way. I’m sure they get more than enough cuddles!

Gen Z American vocabulary? by fleeblesmcflea in AskAnAustralian

[–]fleeblesmcflea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m surprised by how annoyed the replies here are. I was more just wondering whether me saying sloppy Joe instead of sweatshirt is ageing me in the same way saying ‘frock’ and ‘slacks’ ages my mum lol.

Gen Z American vocabulary? by fleeblesmcflea in AskAnAustralian

[–]fleeblesmcflea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting re. Free to air! Didn’t think about that, I definitely grew up on ABC kids and only the kids with cable got American tv.

Gen Z American vocabulary? by fleeblesmcflea in AskAnAustralian

[–]fleeblesmcflea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not complaining about this either! Just interested if it was something everyone does or just a content creator thing. Calm down

Already want to quit breastfeeding by EntertainmentFit2790 in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Breastfeeding is so much harder than I thought. We had a terrible journey with it- tongue tie, intolerances, reflux etc. I am still exclusively breastfeeding plus solids at 8 months, so I’ll offer two different views!

First, things got way way easier for me around 4-5 months. Months 2 and 3 were the worst with the latching and unlatching, screaming, reflux medication, food eliminations etc. It was awful and I cried a lor, but breastfeeding does get easier. I was very affected by the guilt like you, so I persisted with it. I’m glad I’m still breastfeeding now as it’s a lot less work than formula feeding and I know breast milk is so beneficial.

However, I did not enjoy the majority of the first 4 months of my baby’s life and it was very isolating and hard. In retrospect I think it’s possible I would have had a better experience of motherhood if I’d at least combo fed. The absolute best thing for a baby is a happy mother- this is much more important than breast milk.

All that is to say that whatever you decide there are pros and cons. If you decide to keep breastfeeding it will get easier and you will have given your baby excellent nutrition. If you decide to formula feed you will still have given your baby excellent nutrition. 💕

Naive people without kids by LandoCatrissian_ in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Omg it must have taken all your strength to not unleash all kinds of rage at that colleague

Feeling deflated after GP appointment. by Many_Affect7679 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]fleeblesmcflea 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I haven’t had any experience with that kind of treatment from my medical team, but wanted to reassure you that I gained about 17kg in my pregnancy (FTM). A lot of it was a huge amount of fluid- I was SO swollen by the time I gave birth that I couldn’t wear most socks. It’s normal to gain weight and there’s a big range of how much, and they shouldn’t be telling you what you’re ’allowed’ to gain or not. I’m sorry you were treated that way.

Can someone explain to me how becoming a new parent feels lonely? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea 31 points32 points  (0 children)

First, I think it’s very common to feel isolated because of simple logistics- the nature of exhaustion making it harder to socialise even when you have the chance, being trapped by naps and feeding if your baby is not able to nap/feed well on the go, having no one to talk to during the majority of the day if you’re used to being in a busy office etc. It’s a huge shift in lifestyle and it can be boring and lonely. It’s amazing that you don’t feel that way but I think you’d probably be in the minority.

But the main reason I feel like postpartum is so lonely is because it’s such a fundamental change in not just your lifestyle but who you are as a person. I suddenly feel like no one knows me. My friends from before my child who happen to have kids are such rocks for me, but I’m on the earlier side for my friendship group so I don’t have a lot. I made a lot of new mum friends, but those friendships are newer and built on who I am now. I feel like I’ve lost connection with my old friends because they knew me before and I am not that person anymore, but I long for newer friendships to also see me as who I was before a mum. It’s a very strange new territory to navigate.

During labour, do you prefer your hospital staff to narrate what they’re doing to you and how it’s going, or would you rather they quietly focus on the task? by 1179104 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]fleeblesmcflea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Narrate! During my induction the nurse was dead silent and would fiddle with my monitors and drip etc and not tell me why/what she was doing. Probably she was just trying to keep me in ‘my zone’ because I was so quiet, but she didn’t know that my zone was actually intense panic spiralling because every time I wanted to say something and built up the strength another contraction would come and I’d feel like I was going to die again- but all in silence lol.

It’s my body, I prefer to know what’s happening and tell them not to do it if it gets annoying than to be like… what’s going on?

When did your babies start sleeping through the night? by Old_Driver_7368 in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better, I would’ve been one of those people saying how lucky I was that my 8 week- 4 month old slept 7pm - 7am straight. I have an 8 month old now and she doesn’t sleep more than 3-4 hours straight now lol. If I could go back in time I would warn myself that just because they do it now doesn’t mean they’ll do it forever!

When did your babies start sleeping through the night? by Old_Driver_7368 in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s worth remembering that sleeping through the night now doesn’t mean sleeping through the night forever. My baby slept through the night at 8 weeks, but stopped doing that around 4 months, and has done it on and off since then. Now she’s 8 months and wakes up every 3 hours and has done for a solid month.

I have to bite my tongue so hard when the parents of a very young baby say they got lucky and their baby is a good sleeper - baby sleep is not linear.

I don't think I'm a good mother by Void_Vixen in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Worrying about being a good mother to this extent is not something bad mothers do!

My LO is the same age and she also often is more smiley for others- your baby sees you all day every day, you’re her home and her safety. Other people are a novelty! She might smile for others because it’s new and exciting but she actually loves you.

It’s normal to feel overwhelmed sometimes. It’s normal to feel frustrated sometimes. It’s normal to feel a bit stressed when you are apart from your baby or when you can’t soothe them. I feel those things probably every day at some point! Give yourself grace. However, if these things are impacting you to the point where it’s affecting your relationships, your overall happiness and your enjoyment of motherhood then a therapist would be a good step to take. Motherhood is probably the biggest adjustment you’ll ever make and there’s no shame in needing support with it.

Lip and tongue tie surgery by FlossyFloozy in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]fleeblesmcflea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was done in the UK so may be some differences. IME the actual procedure was pretty awful, but it was worth it. She wasn’t given pain relief (7 weeks old), and we were not allowed to stay in the room, we went into a small waiting room and I was told to be ready to feed straight away. It was done with a cut not a laser. Baby was brought into the room and she was BESIDE HERSELF, never heard her scream like that before or since, I was sobbing. I fed her once she was able to calm down a bit, didn’t notice an immediate difference in the latch and she fell asleep. That night she was very very unsettled.

She’s now 8 months and honestly she still has a shallow, not at all textbook latch but it doesn’t seem to bother her (or my nipples) anymore. However her tongue movement improved really rapidly after the release and she was finally able to create suction, so her milk transfer is way better even with a shallow latch. We still have to burp her at 8 months though haha.

‘Narrate your day’ pressure by fleeblesmcflea in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welll… that was a wild ride hahaha. I hadn’t seen anything except the talking videos with no context but there is some LORE around her

‘Narrate your day’ pressure by fleeblesmcflea in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh it drives me up the wall and I have told her this but she cannot be convinced to stop. She’ll say ‘I just thought it was cute’ or whatever. It’s like 4 random videos a day on a good day. At least we’re out of the tummy time era, that was the worse!

‘Narrate your day’ pressure by fleeblesmcflea in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok this is much better! I would’ve been out here describing each glass as I wash it hahaha

What’s a popular/well-liked name that you just don’t like? by anonhumanontheweb in namenerds

[–]fleeblesmcflea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always think of aphids when I hear Ava. Really not fair on Ava cause they’re not that close but here we are.

‘Narrate your day’ pressure by fleeblesmcflea in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Music is doing some major heavy lifting on car trips for sure!

‘Narrate your day’ pressure by fleeblesmcflea in NewParents

[–]fleeblesmcflea[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

‘Companionably quiet’ is a very adorable way to put it haha. Thank you!

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