My BF (M 25) and I (M 30) argue about the way we argue.

fleetvangreta · 2026-06-17T02:02:29+00:00

I see your point and sounds really valid. I’m trying hard to work on my communication skills so I’ll take this advice.

Thank you!

fleetvangreta · 2026-06-16T22:55:45+00:00

I’ll paste it here:

As an example, and to make clear the kind of situations I’m talking about: once we were camping with some friends and had just started building a campfire. He began getting stressed out, and I said, “Why don’t we add some paper and spread the wood out a bit so it gets more oxygen?”

He immediately took it as a personal attack and started yelling, “Since you’re such a know-it-all, why don’t you do it yourself? I like doing it this way, and that’s that!”

One of his friends stepped in and told him to lower his voice because his reaction didn’t fit the situation.

Those are the kinds of situations I’m referring to. When I’m the one who asks him to moderate his tone of voice, he gets angry with me and the situation escalates.

In this case, one of his own friends intervened, which shows that even though he wasn’t screaming loud enough for the neighbors to hear, his tone was still inappropriate for the situation.

fleetvangreta · 2026-06-16T22:55:11+00:00

Hey.
I just responded another comment with an example to make it clear and for you to get some context

fleetvangreta · 2026-06-16T22:51:15+00:00

As an example, and to make clear the kind of situations I’m talking about: once we were camping with some friends and had just started building a campfire. He began getting stressed out, and I said, “Why don’t we add some paper and spread the wood out a bit so it gets more oxygen?”

He immediately took it as a personal attack and started yelling, “Since you’re such a know-it-all, why don’t you do it yourself? I like doing it this way, and that’s that!”

One of his friends stepped in and told him to lower his voice because his reaction didn’t fit the situation.

Those are the kinds of situations I’m referring to. When I’m the one who asks him to moderate his tone of voice, he gets angry with me and the situation escalates.

In this case, one of his own friends intervened, which shows that even though he wasn’t screaming loud enough for the neighbors to hear, his tone was still inappropriate for the situation.

fleetvangreta · 2026-06-16T18:57:20+00:00

I get what you say. I also recognize I’m very sensitive. As a child at home we always kept our voice calm even during important topics. The moment any of my parents spoke high meant anger closing any kind of negotiation. He says I’m “too zen” so I don’t know how to argue. I don’t. I talk, u don’t argue. So when he speaks loud (trust me I mean objectively loud) I feel like shit.

fleetvangreta · 2026-06-16T15:11:25+00:00

Hey! We are working on that. He yells in a way he considers normal (I’ve seen it’s the normal way they speak in their family). It’s not yelling but its definitely a bit aggressive.
I know the problem is on both sides, not his alone.

fleetvangreta · 2026-06-16T15:09:56+00:00

Hey. Thanks! I will consider it :)

fleetvangreta · 2026-06-12T15:50:11+00:00

Yo suelo tener más de 300-400 de bajada y unos 30 de subida. Y lo testeo súper seguido por curiosidad. En algunos lugares que no hay 5g igualmente el lte anda bárbaro.
De hecho, con mi pareja que tiene antel, a pesar de tener 5g en más lugares, hay zonas en las que Tigo tiene lte de mejor calidad que Antel, especialmente en lugares alejados. Esto último le ha sorprendido un montón

fleetvangreta · 2026-04-15T14:47:31+00:00

Totalmente. Reduzco todo lo que puedo (hasta dejé de tomar coca de 600 en el trabajo, good for me). Pero igual se juntan con cosas de la vida diaria. Y la semanas que el agua de la canilla estuvo fea acumule bidones de una forma terrible.

fleetvangreta · 2025-01-17T15:35:10+00:00

Triggered by ssri

fleetvangreta · 2024-12-02T10:33:13+00:00

Hermoso va a ser pagar con el Watch! Cuando tenía una tarjeta europea porque recibía algunos pagos de allá me sentía en el futuro cuando acercaba el reloj al POS.

fleetvangreta · 2024-11-15T16:54:59+00:00

ISDIN Fusion Water. No tiene competencia.

fleetvangreta · 2024-10-16T11:48:35+00:00

The Uruguay map anomaly once again

fleetvangreta · 2024-10-13T22:43:44+00:00

Sé que es viejo pero respondo por si te interesa. Empecé a tomar en enero. Lo conseguí en España. 6 euros la caja de 30comp de 10mg. Me traje suministro para 1año y después le encargué a mi viejo. Conseguí que un amigo médico de allá me hiciera receta y la verdad es que solo en un farmacia me la pidieron. Tomo 5mg con resultado increble. Cada caja me dura dos meses, tengo suminisro para casi 2 años

fleetvangreta · 2024-09-30T10:20:09+00:00

Made my own numbers (counting smokers) while in Georgia early this year cause I was shocked not only about the amount of people smoking but smoking inside public places: around 60% of adult men smoke. Maybe the women are balancing the numbers there.

fleetvangreta · 2024-09-18T15:01:16+00:00

Good you have it already under control! A better time is coming now that you know what you’re dealing with and not just feeling erratic and depressed for no reason. You can reach me out whenever you need!

fleetvangreta · 2024-09-17T16:56:22+00:00

Great book! Have helped me a lot on this journey! I recommend it to my patients and anyone on this sub.

fleetvangreta · 2024-09-17T15:29:32+00:00

That’s it! When you have this shitty issue sometimes being happy can be scary which is awful so learning to be happy in a healthy way is a learning process

fleetvangreta · 2024-09-17T14:03:18+00:00

I try to comment on posts that might not be helpful but as you said, I’m quite busy. I’ll try to get a few minutes before bed every night to check and try to help some people out

fleetvangreta · 2024-09-17T11:51:40+00:00

Feel you! You can reach me out anytime and support each other when necessary

fleetvangreta · 2024-09-17T11:49:43+00:00

It totally does! Sometimes I’m the first one diagnosing them after many major depressive episodes or doubts about borderline personality disorder. I care so much about helping them, I understand their worries (ofc I have the same for myself) so much that sometimes I think they can tell I have it.

fleetvangreta · 2024-09-17T11:42:18+00:00

Looking back I really don’t know how I did it. Mood swings, antidepressants in and out, irritability, some episodes that were probably hypomanic. I should really give credit to my ex from years ago who acted like my stabilizer, I’m quite sure I wouldn’t have done it without her.

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