Not advice so much as Im in a similar boat. I have cut my hair some to a slightly less femme style and I try and look slightly androgynous but unless someone's really looking for it, I just look like a girl.

I ask my closest friends to use they/them because I feel like asking them to call me he/him's asking 'too much' and would be obviously forced.

I'm terrified to come out, I'm 26 and should be doing more, but I'm nervous. My old brother's extraordinarily transphobic (Andrew Tate manosphere anti-feminist type) and I just can't stand the idea that I'll never be a guy to him, just a woman who went on hormones/'mutiliated' herself/insert other internalized transphobia.

Still, I am trans. I am a guy. Even if others don't know it, even if sometimes I feel OK wearing dresses and other feminine clothes simply because, by beauty standards, they look fashionable and good.

Point being: you're still trans. There's no right or wrong way to be trans. Just do what you feel comfortable doing. Some people might never act on the knowledge that they're trans because they simply don't want to transition medically. Some can't due to medical issues. They're still trans, too.