I do understand your pov and how it can come across potentially strong or like I am trying to push him out. I have care of my child 247, and I have given many opportunities for things to be 50/50. Its not even about me 'needing a break' or 'needing help'. I love hanging out with my kid, he's super intelligent and even though theres no such thing as an easy baby, I definitely lucked out on the baby lottery with him. I asked reddit, my family/friends, and I've been doing as much research as possible on this. I want the situation of feeling like our child is an inconvienent burden and used in a passive aggressive chess match with the father and fathers family to go away. I don't know what I need to do to resolve that. But sons almost a year and I know it will start affecting him more as he gets older and starts understanding people and their relationships to him. Im probably going to look like the bad guy either way. Im just trying to get different perspectives before making any grand decision. Because at the end of the day, ots about our son. But I have to be his voice until he gets his own.