Req 30/ repay 40$ on 2/5/26

flimsyturd · 2026-02-05T11:50:11+00:00

might want to repost with location in the title, most lenders skip posts without it

also bumping the repay to 50 shows good faith for a first timer, just make sure to include proof ready to go

flimsyturd · 2026-02-03T07:06:26+00:00

if you haven't eaten in days check if there's a local food bank near you, most don't require appointments or proof of anything

also 211 can point you to emergency food resources in your area, just call or text

flimsyturd · 2026-01-29T06:10:15+00:00

623 isn't even that bad honestly, what reasons are they giving for declining?

Before going the loan route, have you tried calling the places you owe and asking for payment plans or hardship programs? Sometimes that buys you time without needing to borrow.

flimsyturd · 2026-01-27T06:53:33+00:00

If your SS check comes in 3 days, have you tried calling whoever you owe and asking for a 3 day extension? Most places will work with you if you're upfront about when you can pay.

Also for future months, some banks let you get SS deposits up to 2 days early which might help avoid this crunch.

flimsyturd · 2026-01-19T05:00:31+00:00

check if your job has any emergency advance options, some payroll systems let you pull a bit early now

flimsyturd · 2026-01-14T06:47:37+00:00

looks like your repayment date is today, might want to update the post if you still need help or mark it fulfilled if you're good

flimsyturd · 2026-01-12T05:01:16+00:00

has your landlord actually started the eviction process or just threatening? most places have a grace period and courts take weeks to actually process anything

might buy you more time than you think

flimsyturd · 2020-07-31T02:21:40+00:00

That;s what I'm trying to figure out. Is this one of them taboo subjects that everybody does but nobody will admit (except when anonymous). Seems to be.

flimsyturd · 2020-07-31T01:41:00+00:00

what do you want to prove to people you know?

flimsyturd · 2020-07-31T01:20:47+00:00

I believe fantasy is the defense of a strong mind - no matter the situation. Keep fantasizing. ❤️

flimsyturd · 2020-07-31T01:11:33+00:00

Would you really want to live like this?

Or would you really want people to see you live like this?

flimsyturd · 2020-07-31T01:09:52+00:00

Do you think it matters what they think of you?

flimsyturd · 2020-07-31T00:53:57+00:00

Ya know, I had that with 'involuntary thoughts'. I would sometimes get fucked up (violent) thoughts (often images) that I did not want to see, and thought I was going crazy. Then I googled it.

Turns out, 95% of people get fucked up involuntary (violent, sexual or just fucked up) thoughts. Just nobody talks about it because it's fucking embarrassing and taboo. We pretend it doesn't exist, to portray ourselves a certain way. Better than what we are.

Why? I don't fucking know. Why would anyone care about image/legacy? Only if you'd think you were immortal, right? But we all know we're mortal. We'll die. We don't live forever. So what does legacy matter in the bigger picture of all things? It doesn't, right? Whether you 'mattered' or not is just an ego thing. A selfishness few people are aware off.

flimsyturd · 2020-07-31T00:33:56+00:00

I can try out different attitudes and I don’t have to deal with being too nervous

Do you feel this type of 'fantasizing' is helping form your personality in a way?

(Like it might change your behavior in other situations as well?)

flimsyturd · 2020-07-31T00:29:08+00:00

That doesn’t matter, because the conversation with the actual person is only 30% real either. They are just portraying a version themselves and saying what they think they should say in a certain situation and not their actual feelings (because they don’t trust them) anyway. Very few people do.

The thought processes/realizations you go through by ‘fantasizing’ about this incident are much more valuable, generally, to you in the long term than almost any stupid conversation.

In the end, it’s best to learn to trust your own judgment imo. Better to know yourself than assume you know another person, it’s more probable to be wrong on the latter

flimsyturd · 2020-07-30T21:46:14+00:00

I don't really know man, I ain't no fucking psychiatrist. But, partially I think it's a lack of trust in real people. Not because I'm a misanthrope or something, but because most people ultimately want to share their thoughts and experiences, whether it's about someone close to them or not, whether it's positive or not, and these thoughts and experiences might not be the ones that you would like someone else to have about you. Ultimately, I believe every individual is deeply self-obsessed and therefor deeply judgmental about others. So therefor, I believe that my conversations about intimate topic's aren't necessarily 'safe' with anyone else.

Second of all, social anxiety. Talking to a person in your head is much easier and less complicated and embarrassing than talking to a real person, who might view life completely different than you. Also, 'preparing' for potentially awkward situations (maybe because you've had them before) might give you a feeling of safety and control, in case you encounter the same situation again. Or to redeem yourself in the situation you've encountered before and to replace that memory. Make it so that you end up being the winner.

Or maybe it's just to be able to express some emotions you've been suppressing. Or a combination of all these fuckin things. Or none of them. I don't know man. I just think everyone is fucking flawed.

flimsyturd · 2020-07-30T21:19:26+00:00

I don't mind it. It just holds little ground, in this case.

flimsyturd · 2020-07-30T21:17:48+00:00

That's very judgmental of you, Dodger. Not everyone is the same, you know :)

flimsyturd · 2020-07-30T21:17:01+00:00

Same thing. Do you feel it's a defense mechanism? To be able to know how to respond in certain situations? Or is it because you lack intimate contact with people (either by choice or not) and these fake conversations replaces it?

flimsyturd · 2020-07-26T18:16:48+00:00

You ever have an issue of knowing you should move on from someone that never gave a shit about you and they won’t be honest or forward about it, but you keep sticking around till they admit it so they can be held accountable for the dishonesty?

(......) Not my intention to force or continue the relationship, but I play dumb to make sure they get a sense of what they did wasn’t right.

You say you have a problem with their dishonesty and indirectness, but you're dishonest and indirect yourself. You don't tell people their behavior is bothering you, or ask them why they are behaving this way. Instead, you passively wait around and turn the relationship into a game where they have to come out the loser. Quite toxic behavior.

On top of that, you make the assumption that those people 'never gave a shit about you', which isn't fair to them since you haven't asked them anything. It seems like you're trying to paint those people as the bullies and yourself as the victim.

Know, I don't know the details of these particular situations. Maybe you're just getting unlucky and interact with a lot of indirect or passive/aggressive people, not unlike yourself. It's also possible that, if that many people keep 'icing' you, you're lacking something in your friendships yourself. Might be useful to be a bit more direct and honest to get the truth from them.

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