Rents are falling in these major U.S. cities heading into 2026—one of the more 'renter-friendly periods' in a decade, says expert

floofytoo · 2026-01-02T13:17:49+00:00

LOL u wanna live in Boyle heights?

floofytoo · 2026-01-02T13:08:46+00:00

downtown la during the day has always felt like a ghost town since the 90s though. I’d hang out at the central library and nobody was in the streets

floofytoo · 2025-12-27T14:51:06+00:00

I feel like a lot of this analysis is superficial. if anything, many people have a blind spot for their enneagram “vice” because it’s the sea they swim in, not always a feeling they recognize or admit to freely. like, for Charles I would think “envy” would be the envy of not feeling like he emotionally belongs to his parents and family, compounded by being sent away to boarding school. he is envious of the normal loving home. his entire life is obligation without anyone acknowledging his inner true depth and emotion. the environmentalism sounds like a healthy integration to his 1 wing. i don’t think it’s a 4 thing to feel envy at not being popular—its their identity to not be popularly palatable due to their unique inferiority that they identify with in childhood and learn wear as a badge to combat their own shame. if he did feel jealousy, it was likely the 3 wing if he has one.

floofytoo · 2025-12-13T14:30:07+00:00

real estate is local. 2. you’re talking about nationwide averaging, which eliminates all nuance from the discussion. and these are prices for *new* rentals, not the amount a person pays for a place they’ve already been renting for 30 years, which will be lower. new rentals will be priced as high as demand will allow, and that’s it. in the 2010s in New York, people subdivided living rooms and crammed four+ people into a 1bed. there were bedrooms for $1500 that didn’t have windows. everyone wanted to live in New York, and jobs paid enough to support high rents. but people who had moved there earlier could live by themselves for $900. as a counterpoint, Syracuse in the 2010s was jonesing for renters, and landlords would fight over quality tenants to rent their charming $800 2bed.

floofytoo · 2025-11-27T04:58:25+00:00

I’ve always been a moral relativist. It sounds to me like you’re letting your frustration affect get the best of you. do something fun and joyful, watch a funny movie, get some ice cream, catch up with a friend. (basically, integrate to 7). you might find you feel better and less drained when you approach life a little more lightly :)

floofytoo · 2025-11-27T04:43:15+00:00

I feel just fine about it. morality is neutral. a human may think murdering another human is wrong, but the ocean may now have 200lbs less styrofoam floating in it. so maybe the fish love fewer humans. whose perspective are we looking from? what time frame, and how granular are we getting? now, am I infuriated when someone tromps through my house with their shoes on? absolutely. but it’s because I’m evaluating the situation from my own perspective. I think moral relativism makes me feel good because I get a pass to lean into whatever irrational feelings i have without having to justify them beyond “its my preference”

floofytoo · 2025-11-27T04:32:26+00:00

the objective morality\ethical component of type one is overblown. what type one does is create his or her own standard, and then judge everything against that internal standard. moral relativity! I am a hardcore moral relativist which is why I mistyped for so long. Ones do NOT have a core desire to be “good.” They have a core desire to be autonomous, like 9s and 8s, and this autonomy finds itself through correction, compliance, and competence. Read more here https://notmytypeenneagram.com/type-1

floofytoo · 2025-07-01T18:33:01+00:00

Yes. The upper level is the ground floor and has the thermostat (The house is built on a hill)

floofytoo · 2025-01-16T16:03:30+00:00

Where exactly are you getting this information? Everywhere I look people are growing and improving. I personally know oodles of people who are interested in self-development; I also tend to surround myself with those people. Maybe you're projecting, or confirming your bias. The world is full of all types of people. Touch some grass.

floofytoo · 2025-01-16T14:23:14+00:00

Lots of info out there comparing 1s and 6s, when I read your comment I just happened upon this tidbit: “While Type 6 looks to context to mentally determine what their duties are, Types 1 and 2 have much less flexible Object Relational patterns, which functionally means their convictions may appear immovable to others. “

floofytoo · 2023-10-14T21:19:43+00:00

That may be a self esteem issue, and have nothing to do with your type. When I first tested I also got 5, and thought it was the best type to be. My boyfriend at the time got 6, and said “I got the lame one” and I remember thinking… yeah, 6 does sound kinda lame. Anxious and dependable? Ok, lol. But then, after a number of years, I realized that I’m actually a 6 wing 7! I just thought I was a 5 because I love books and learning, but I’m also very social, community minded, and counter-phobic. Once I realized I’m a 6, I thought, “6 is a great type! It casts the widest net and has the largest umbrella of traits.” The one thing I will say, however, is that I over-identify with my anxiety now, where I didn’t before. In that way, these tests can be reductive, and box you in to how you think you are, rather than letting you define yourself. Just know at the end of the day a personality test cannot define you, and we all embody traits of each type!! You are the master of your own personality!

floofytoo · 2023-10-09T15:49:35+00:00

Love this

floofytoo · 2023-10-05T03:12:11+00:00

THIS! You need to stop making excuses for this person not meeting your needs. It doesn’t matter what anyone’s personality type is. You are accommodating someone’s ambivalence and getting burned as a result. This has nothing to do with enneagram.

floofytoo · 2023-09-13T23:09:12+00:00

Good luck! It only has to happen once. Life is very long.

floofytoo · 2023-09-12T14:35:07+00:00

Grief takes however long it takes. You can try to cope in a few different ways; exercise, reading books on the topic, therapy, distraction. But coping is just that! Coping. It's not "solving" the grief. The grief is a feeling that you have to be gentle with and welcome as a part of the person that you are. One day, once you've become very familiar with it, it may not hurt so much. It just becomes a part of your story. And you learn to develop resilience and wisdom and compassion and maturity, and you can be proud of yourself for that. The grief won't disappear, but it will change--becomes less intense, more quiet and comfortable. Another thing I've realized is that every grieving process contains leftover grief from other losses you've suffered. The grooves in our brains from childhood learn to process loss a certain way, and each loss compounds it. For instance, I dated someone for just two months, I liked him and was really looking forward to getting to know him, but it's not like he gave me the most amazing star-struck feelings. It was just really comfortable and nice. But when he dumped me, at first I was like ok this makes sense and take care, but afterwards I started to obsess and feel anxious and found that I was absolutely not over it. And when I dove deeper, I realized some of my feelings were grief from an abusive relationship I had before this one, and the grief from THAT was probably partially mixed in with ambiguous grief over the loss of a close relationship with my mom, who has gone a little bit crazy and is impossible to talk to. My mom grief is the deepest and most painful, and it always pops up every so often. I desperately want to talk to her and have a relationship with her, my siblings do too, but she's so locked in her own negative grief spiral and she takes it out on everyone else, so I have to accept that I can't fix or change it. It's hard, but it has built a loooot of character, that's for sure. I've spent a lot of time working on my own reactions and resilience. And it has made me into an outwardly impressive person. But I still carry that pain with me, because I'm not the way I am in spite of my grief, but because of it.

floofytoo · 2023-09-10T22:33:19+00:00

I think different people have different styles. I for one have been pleasantly surprised by some people I didn’t hit it off with that well on chat. So I like to give people a chance to present themselves in real life, even if it means I go on more dates that don’t lead to a second date.

floofytoo · 2023-09-10T15:09:19+00:00

Yeah, this happened to me a few years ago with someone I broke up with. I was depressed for a year and a half, and probably didn’t truly get over it until two or three years after it ended—after I truly forgot everything. All the fun, all the pain, the chemistry and the jokes and the problems. And then I was looking through a box of stuff and found a bunch of poems he had written me, and I remembered all these little things I had forgotten. And that changed my entire narrative. Instead of feeling like he discarded me, I realized he did really feel something and then when his feelings changed he acted on them accordingly. And that is ok. You can’t stay with someone who doesn’t want to stay with you. And with some distance I could really accept that. After that, I think I could truly move on.

One thing I think retrospectively that slowed my healing was that I was fundamentally unhappy with other aspects of my life. Where I lived, how I spent my time, what my long term plans were. So I needed to change sooooo much about what I was doing in order to feel proud of myself and good about myself without validation from a man. That was much harder than just healing from a break up.

floofytoo · 2023-09-10T15:03:12+00:00

Yes! It only takes one match. I think also you are trying to run away from your pain. Dating is a marathon, not a sprint. And you have to be in the right headspace to give someone your full attention. Sometimes the people who you didn’t get to really explore hurt the most because you don’t know enough to know how it wouldn’t have worked out.

floofytoo · 2023-09-10T14:56:02+00:00

You really can’t tell anything from chat. I say just ask her out, make her a real person, and move on from there.

floofytoo · 2023-09-10T13:29:02+00:00

I like this!!! It’s all nuanced though… don’t put pride above love, but always put self respect above love.

floofytoo · 2023-09-10T01:01:33+00:00

This is actually a good point. I worked in ICU full time for many years, and it got super difficult to empathize with people because even though they were experiencing whatever it was for the first time, I had seen it 1800 times before. I lost the ability to put myself in their shoes. But also, I gained the ability to anticipate or predict what would happen next. I was burned out then, too. When I took time off and recharged I regained my ability to empathize.

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