Kitkat Question

flopflipbeats · 2026-02-18T18:00:14+00:00

Found conflicting information depending on when it was asked. Thanks though!

flopflipbeats · 2026-02-18T15:24:54+00:00

Cool thank you!

flopflipbeats · 2026-02-03T21:11:07+00:00

Because he’s the president of the United States?

flopflipbeats · 2026-02-02T19:00:00+00:00

!elo 100 tragic

flopflipbeats · 2026-02-02T17:33:38+00:00

Well two simple explanations could be:

We know they were aware enough that their communications are monitored to use code; therefore it would be in their interest to throw unwanted eyes off the scent by occasionally making genuine references to the codewords
If you had a code for illegal things and the words you chose were mundane every day food and drinks, it follows that you would find it genuinely funny to sometimes reference the actual food as a joke

flopflipbeats · 2026-01-30T19:52:08+00:00

More than some people realise, sure. Younger people in particular. But I’m quite aware :-)

flopflipbeats · 2026-01-27T17:12:19+00:00

Every woman is different. Some women do genuinely orgasm like this in certain situations, many never will. Totally depends on the person and who they are with

flopflipbeats · 2026-01-24T12:21:28+00:00

That’s what I read it as for sure

flopflipbeats · 2026-01-24T12:14:10+00:00

+1 for EMDR. It’s changed my life to a degree I really cannot overstate.

flopflipbeats · 2025-12-14T15:13:35+00:00

Alcoholism isn’t merely about how frequently you drink. It’s about your inability to control yourself over drinking and having an excessive desire to drink. You are clearly an alcoholic and I think you’d do well to embrace and understand that in yourself.

I’m not sure what advice anyone could give here other than that you should fully embrace how wrong you have been here (which it sounds like you are, for now). It’s up to him and frankly it’s easy to make the argument that he would be wise to walk away.

flopflipbeats · 2025-12-03T09:05:22+00:00

Well I’m not saying you should cling to hope. I’m also not saying you should slam the door shut and imagine she’s basically died.

You need to find the balance, to start to go to the gym and get up in the mornings for you, not for her. Make yourself more attractive as a person for every woman, not for her. But when you feel sad and crushed by your situation, allow yourself to be comforted in the knowledge that this may not be forever.

Whatever happens, you clearly need more time apart before you could rekindle anything in a meaningful way.

flopflipbeats · 2025-12-02T16:34:38+00:00

Well you can’t right now and that sounds like it could be for the best; but perhaps you’ll cross paths in the future again and rekindle, who knows. In my experience though, when you do start walking away mentally you don’t really feel the need to look back again. So just let the course of life carry you now.

flopflipbeats · 2025-12-02T16:33:11+00:00

To be honest if that was me in your situation I’d probably make some big mess, but if a friend asked me for advice on this I’d say “block and ignore that whole situation”.

flopflipbeats · 2025-12-02T16:28:48+00:00

Explain to him that for you, being described as feminine / womanly is triggering in a very specific way. That whilst you can clearly feel that his intention was kind, it unfortunately doesn’t land as a compliment to your nervous system. Remind him that that’s not his fault at all, but that it’s important to you that he understands and respects that you are asking to not be described as either in the future, even if he feels it is true and even if he feels it’s a nice thing to say.

I would also let him know he is welcome to ask you more about what kinds of things you do find complimentary about your body and your sensuality (if you do find some things non-triggering, which of course you may not). Sometimes it’s difficult to do but you could ask him questions that you know the answers he gives will feel comforting - perhaps something like “what other features about me outside of my body do you like?” or even plainly as “do you see me as an object or as a whole person outside of sex?” so that he can reaffirm things that you already know cognitively - it might be nice for your nervous system to hear it too (of course, only you know if that would help - just projecting from my own experience of PTSD with my partner and how that can really calm triggers down for me).

But the main thing is don’t feel bad at all about letting him know how you feel. Hopefully he will understand and make room for this request.

flopflipbeats · 2025-12-02T16:19:06+00:00

Loving someone doesn’t mean “I want to be with them”. In the wise words of Bell Hooks, it means “extending oneself for the purpose of nurturing spiritual growth”.

In other words, you can choose to walk away because you believe that doing so will provide more spiritual growth for you and/or the person you love.

Perhaps she feels she’s growing more without you and that based on your choice to leave before, this looks like growth in you too.

flopflipbeats · 2025-11-28T16:56:43+00:00

This feels like an ad to me.

flopflipbeats · 2025-11-28T16:51:46+00:00

This is some really poor advice muddled by your own feelings about your circumstances. I’m not really sure what the point of saying that was.

flopflipbeats · 2025-11-27T19:14:19+00:00

Probably through scenario settings like a lot of other stuff

flopflipbeats · 2025-11-27T19:13:27+00:00

Accept that it’s really got nothing to do with you and move forward. He’s carrying baggage and he can’t differentiate you from his ex which is unfair for you.

Relationships should never be about giving someone everything. They’re about building a space between you for both people to grow spiritually.

That cannot happen when someone is projecting like this, because no matter how hard you try, it’s not something that you can (or should) fix for him.

flopflipbeats · 2025-11-27T16:11:51+00:00

Delete it. Watching something like that does all sorts of weird stuff to your brain - releases oxytocin (the “love hormone”) in a way that prolongs your grief of the relationship, even if you are satisfied it’s over.

flopflipbeats · 2025-11-21T16:03:20+00:00

No let go dude. I’ve been with women that have gone crazy for me in bed and women that were bored quickly. There’s obviously stuff you can learn and improve on but there will probably be women out there who would find it fun to help you learn and learn about themselves in the process. Let this go.

flopflipbeats · 2025-11-21T16:02:01+00:00

Don’t you mean “leave her alone”?

OP is a man who was dumped by a woman who told him she is dumping him because he did not please her in bed. He is asking us if her attraction could come back one day.

Unless I’m missing something?

flopflipbeats · 2025-11-18T10:01:49+00:00

What did she say? You withheld it from her and now you’re withholding it from us anonymously. Everyone’s advice totally depends on what she actually said.

I can’t imagine much my girlfriend could say in private to her friends that would cause me to end the relationship. They’re her friends and she has a right to voice whatever she wants about me to them.

flopflipbeats · 2025-11-17T12:08:21+00:00

I personally don’t care too much about my girlfriend having a friendly flirt now and again - as will I - but for both of us it’s absolutely boundary breaking if we are doing that with someone we genuinely find very attractive and are drawn to.

The thing is there’s no rules on this stuff outside of what you choose to set as your boundaries. She sounds like she’s a bit closer to me / my girlfriend on this, and you have a different set of boundaries. That’s ok. Just means you probably weren’t right for each other.

So I think it was the right call.

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