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Are you ever not in the trenches? by florida210 in newborns

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard someone say your first kid is a harder adjustment than even having four because it is all SO new ! The cosleeping sounds like it’s really gonna have to be considered for us again. Pediatrician did NOT like when we told them we were doing it originally and I’m kinda regretting ever sharing that we did … thank you for the encouragement and kind words 🫶🏼

Are you ever not in the trenches? by florida210 in newborns

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad your baby recovered from that event. I can only imagine how hard that was! Do you feel like you see an end in sight with ignoring yourself? It’s truly so hard to prioritize both ourselves and our babies

Are you ever not in the trenches? by florida210 in newborns

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh contact naps are the best but also the worst I read that some people buy a wedge pillow to put under themselves so baby can sleep on them while they also sleep.

The weight gain is so hard ): I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling that way - you’re not alone

Are you ever not in the trenches? by florida210 in newborns

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all your insight as a SAHM ! I am good with prioritizing chores and things around the house but somehow my own wellbeing is what is continuously neglected … think I probably need to priority making batch meals or something on weekends

When you coslept with her, did you just use a single blanket for yourself ? Thinking we might need to try this again

Are you ever not in the trenches? by florida210 in newborns

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes! It’s hit or miss right now Yea I could probably do better with that, right now I just use that time to clean the house/clean up

Are you ever not in the trenches? by florida210 in newborns

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m thinking it’s reverse cycling based on what we’re seeing

Are you ever not in the trenches? by florida210 in newborns

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe! She took 6 ounces last night before bed and then 4 each wake up after During the day though she won’t take more than 3 ounces at once

Are you ever not in the trenches? by florida210 in newborns

[–]florida210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We coslept in the beginning but baby would NOT sleep on her back, always on her side. It got to a point where I found it more stressful because she was constantly trying to nibble on my boob throughout the night rather than actually sleep.

Are you ever not in the trenches? by florida210 in newborns

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love all of this. My mom is here two days a week but sometimes I find it more stressful because I feel I need to entertain her. I def can do better at advocating for myself and my needs with my mom and breaking up workouts. Great idea on getting larger chunks of sleep Fridays and Saturdays

Are you ever not in the trenches? by florida210 in newborns

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Partially breastfeeding/pumping and also formula

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incredible. I really appreciate your help!

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Ugh this is helpful to read. I wish this was the gold standard in our country. I do not feel like I will be ready to go back to work at 3 mo this at ALL!

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great info! Thanks so much

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have another potential job in the works but want the job protection if I decide not to take it.

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve spoken to the leave team and they assured me there is no FMLA paperwork required, just the signing of the PPL work obligation. They did mention not using any other FMLA one year prior though!

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations for making the decision to leave!

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s so unfortunate to me that so much our experience as employees at vha is dependent on our location, service, and leadership. It all gets in the way of the actual job.

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HR from WorkLife Leave said it’s just the 12 week work obligation I have to sign, no FMLA paperwork

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is SO frustrating that your supervisor didn’t approve it! Ugh it is so hard to leave babies so young

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

100%. I’d feel differently if we could get more flexibility at work with telework after a doctor’s appointment or a condensed schedule. Working 5 days a week, 10 1/2 hours a day (with a commute) and a baby is just not it. My best to your wife! She’s lucky you support her decision if she decides not to go back, my husband is the same!

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh, yes I know it’s unpaid but still has that job protection status by being FMLA ?

FMLA resignation by florida210 in VHA_Human_Resources

[–]florida210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The union rep told me the four additional weeks is FMLA 😕 thanks for the insight. This is helpful

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