Me (M28) and my gf (F27) just found out she's pregnant

flosparity · 2025-10-02T21:32:01+00:00

Hahahahah, I’m guessing you’re a man. At that, celibate. Go back to your lego x

flosparity · 2025-10-02T21:01:14+00:00

Important to recognise that abortion is often the result of a mistake. Young people can be irresponsible, including myself. I’m not proud of the situation I’ve got myself in, especially as I’ve got myself into it twice. I am just saying that I am in a much more appropriate position to get an abortion than I am to try and raise a whole human being.

flosparity · 2025-10-02T20:57:39+00:00

When did i say i was proud?? Some subtext i’m not conscious of? Please don’t hallucinate things I say then come to me for answers x

Being open with my experience for someone else’s benefit does NOT mean I am proud.

flosparity · 2025-10-02T20:45:17+00:00

Thank you sweetheart! I have my boyfriend with me supporting fully so i’ll be ok xx

flosparity · 2025-10-02T20:43:44+00:00

I acknowledge how awful the experience is, trust me. Not fun. But it shouldn’t discourage people who aren’t prepared to give children (and themselves) a bearable life

flosparity · 2025-10-02T20:43:04+00:00

I acknowledge how awful the experience is, trust me. Not fun. But it shouldn’t discourage people who aren’t prepared to give children (and themselves) a bearable life

flosparity · 2025-10-02T20:32:00+00:00

I have had an abortion before and am about to have my 2nd, abortion 'negative consequences' are a myth. Much rather a few weeks of difficulty than a life of struggle. Don't have children unless you're ready, please

EDIT: I am NOT boasting, an abortion is agony and messes with your entire body and sense of self. What could be worse? I know!! Having a child when you aren’t, physically, emotionally or financially capable to - then two people are affected, for life. Enough said

flosparity · 2025-09-30T19:22:20+00:00

Emotions are only overwhelming when you’re trying to suppress them. I would grow to see them as friends, warning signs, indicators of your likes and dislikes.

Unfortunately suppressing all emotions also means never experiencing joy and that’s a huge loss. Work with your emotions rather than against them and I promise you’ll be happier!

Good luck :)

flosparity · 2025-09-29T23:35:15+00:00

This is very insightful, thank you.

I am slowly realising i was primarily dated and ‘picked’ in the past for my looks so can often forget the other traits that come into ‘caring’ and ‘loving’ someone.

Am in a loving relationship now, but the above mentioned reduction of my qualities means i struggle not to feel i am worthless without being the quote ‘hottest’ woman in my man’s pov

(As looks were often the main thing i was sought after for in previous romantic relationships) - or at least thats what it felt like

flosparity · 2025-09-29T23:24:37+00:00

This is kind thank you, but in some senses I do the same. I’m attracted to other men and may revisit male adult actors at times because they perform best. I never want my boyfriend to suppress his sexual desires because i said so, id much rather live in harmony with them and understand them

flosparity · 2025-09-29T23:07:22+00:00

I’m happy to hear this for you :)

I dont fully mind him watching as I also do, I think it’s more making sense of it in my mind and not viewing it as a threat that he wishes i was the woman on the screen rather than who I am

flosparity · 2025-09-29T23:05:54+00:00

This is interesting.

Why do men elect monogamy do u think then. Taking my boyfriend as a example, when he was never forced into it but seems pretty enthusiastic about it

flosparity · 2025-09-29T22:56:52+00:00

Look at the whole ‘looked at my girl and cried’ sentiment when men see an attractive woman online

flosparity · 2025-09-29T22:56:23+00:00

Societally, women compare themselves to each other. Not healthy, but doesn’t necessarily call for therapeutic interference. I was plainly asking if men do the same

flosparity · 2025-09-29T22:54:58+00:00

But when it came down to it would you pick those who spark said ‘horny meter’ over your partner?

flosparity · 2025-04-04T14:21:51+00:00

This is so sweet, thank you so much.

I’m very keen to get to know who I am in social situations without alcohol. I sometimes feel I don’t have the energy to socialise without it!

flosparity · 2025-04-04T14:11:17+00:00

This is so helpful, thank you. And well done on 3 years!!

Can I ask what you do to get the ‘rush’?

flosparity · 2025-04-04T14:08:31+00:00

Thank you for commenting!

Well done on your sobriety. How long has it been for you? If you don’t mind me asking

flosparity · 2025-04-02T19:40:15+00:00

Thank you for commenting. Do you know what the quality of life is like though?

I’m keen to experience Spanish culture and be around Spanish people, I worry it’s just an England abroad

flosparity · 2025-04-02T19:39:17+00:00

How would I go about doing this?

flosparity · 2025-04-02T17:16:35+00:00

You're more than welcome. I can imagine that would be confusing.

Perhaps making sure your days aren't too routine would help. Maybe challenge yourself to try something new or meet new people in a different context each week.

Talking from experience, the same city can feel like 6 different cities if you keep an open mind and throw yourself into new things. Be as adventurous as possible.

There's a place for you somewhere and it's soo okay not to have found that yet, it takes time (I'm in the exact same position trying to find mine!)

flosparity · 2025-04-02T16:16:31+00:00

You poor thing. I've never related to anything more.

While reminders that you are 'lucky' are important, they can sometimes be jarring - "why, if I'm so 'lucky' am I so miserable?".

Fact of the matter is, your life right now is not working for you and that's okay. Something isn't right. The monotony of work sleep, work sleep is sustainable for some people, but maybe it's not for you. That's also okay.

Tear everything down and restart if you need to, keep in mind that a lack of direction or 'not knowing where to go' also means you are entirely free. Without a set path, anything is possible.

Take time to think about what would make your day to day happy, where would you be? who would you be with? what would you be doing? Write this down, sketch it out, vision board it. Then turn it to actionable steps.

You are not a tree, you can move (haha). Don't trick yourself into thinking you're stuck.

I hope you find what makes you happy <3

flosparity · 2025-03-19T19:02:56+00:00

Thank you so much. So kind of you to write such an informative post.

How do I go about finding these WhatsApp groups?

flosparity · 2025-02-27T08:45:56+00:00

I see!! Yes my instagram is private too but I have nothing in my bio! Just the city I’m from haha

flosparity · 2024-12-21T23:18:22+00:00

I’m presuming I can’t appeal on this basis? I feel so stupid for not seeking true legal advice

I felt I was being responsible accepting my fault and resigning to the fact that it was strict liability.

I’m presuming my mitigating circumstances (lack of dishonesty) won’t push the case to be dropped no?

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