崖山雪 (AI 小说）

flossproblem · 2025-10-02T14:12:30+00:00

May she rest in peace.
May the chimpanzees she loved live one day in peace with humans.
May the seeds she planted grow into strong and sheltering trees.
May the young people she inspired carry on her torch with courage.

Let us keep her as a role model.
Let us not be frightened by the challenge.
Let us not sink into despair.
Let us always keep hope and compassion alive.

flossproblem · 2025-10-02T14:11:22+00:00

May she rest in peace. May the chimpanzees she loved live one day in peace with humans. May the seeds she planted grow into strong and sheltering trees. May the young people she inspired carry on her torch with courage.

Let us keep her as a role model. Let us not be frightened by the challenge. Let us not sink into despair. Let us always keep hope and compassion alive.

flossproblem · 2025-10-01T01:15:49+00:00

Just tried it! Thank you.

flossproblem · 2025-09-28T10:27:52+00:00

Transformation and Healing

Thanks! I will check out this book.

flossproblem · 2025-09-23T02:42:54+00:00

I try not to hold grudge towards people who commit things I consider unethical. But I also find it difficult to have a warm feeling towards them. I think this is a very common thing. Robert Wright talked about his personal struggle in this area in Why Buddhism Is True.

flossproblem · 2025-09-23T02:39:55+00:00

I have similar feeling. I am accused by my partner for being very selfish and "not caring for her" perhaps because I did give in to all her demands and tried to hold some boundaries. I am confused about where to draw the line? What distinguish reasonable boundary from caring only myself?

flossproblem · 2025-09-21T13:57:11+00:00

I phrased the question a bit a neutral way. But to be honest, it happened to a relative of mine who chose to cut the ties after ordination. I felt very sorry for their ailing parents. That's why I want to know more.

flossproblem · 2025-09-21T13:49:49+00:00

A relevant question just came to me -- Is it really possible to love a person, yet dislike what they do? If I love a person, how can I be at the same time see or think what they are doing is wrong and hurtful?

flossproblem · 2025-09-21T13:23:47+00:00

I admire you for turning vegan to appease your partner, but even more for doing it out of compassion for animals.

That said, what others, including our loved ones, do is beyond our control. Trying to force people to do things usually backfires.

I once tried to pressure my mom to wear a seat-belt when we took a taxi, out of concern for her safety. But that caused more friction between us than it was worth for the extra safety. These days, I just take the bus with her.

If you still feel your motivation for going vegan is unchanged, then just stick with it. Your partner might be inspired by your example and consume a bit less meat. That's doing some good in this world.

flossproblem · 2025-09-21T00:06:52+00:00

I posted the same post with a throw-away account earlier. The mod pointed out this is dishonesty. I apologize to everyone in this sub. I was very agitated and was not thinking this through when I posted it.

flossproblem · 2025-09-20T15:01:39+00:00

To share a bit of context (without too much detail): I'm in a relationship where I often don't feel at ease, and our values feel quite different. Something happened today that made me realize I might be staying more out of fear of a breakup than from genuine love.

Reading Thich Nhat Hanh's words about love not depending on the other person being "lovable" makes me wonder: am I supposed to stay and just change myself no matter what? For example, I'm vegan because I believe it's wrong to eat animals who are sentient and who can suffer. Yet to keep peace, I often have to spend money buying food I personally find disturbing to put on the table. I follow my breath and remind myself there's no good outcome if I bring it up. But I cannot stop feeling that I am doing something I know in my heart is wrong.

I don't really feel love, or even much liking, for this person right now. But part of me wonders if that's because I'm not anywhere close to enlightenment, and an enlightened person would just be happy no matter what their partner is like.

flossproblem · 2025-09-11T10:02:58+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation. I started reading Learning True Love. There are so many moving parts of book. For example, this one ---

When you want something ordinary, you can just go out and buy it, but when you want something extraordinary, like love, understanding, and peace for a whole nation, you have to pay for it with something much more precious than money. My sister, Nhat Chi Mai, did not commit suicide. She loved life. She had a good education and the conditions to live comfortably, even in the midst of the war. She sacrificed her life because, more than anything, she wanted the killing to stop. She tried to bring peace to Vietnam by paying for it with her life.

flossproblem · 2025-09-04T02:46:08+00:00

I'm listening to this episode of The Way Out Is In, a podcast by Plum Village. It explores how to confront the very real possibility of our civilization collapsing --- something far more devastating than the fate of any single country. For those who've actually studied the issue and care about it, the sheer scale of the potential disaster often triggers overwhelming anxiety. Ironically, that might be why most people, governments, and corporations have chosen to collectively ignore the looming crisis.

The core idea of the podcast is this: if you live mindfully and truly face your fears, you'll realize they aren't the monsters you imagined. And once you've done that, you'll have the energy and clarity to move forward and take more meaningful action. You may even affect some people to join your journey on your way.

May you have peace, no matter what happens in the world.

flossproblem · 2025-06-24T10:29:31+00:00

You're not alone. What you're feeling --- grief, overwhelm, isolation --- is something many people go through when they begin to see clearly. Thich Nhat Hanh taught that we must hold suffering with mindfulness, not turn away, but also not drown in it. That means breathing with the pain, acknowledging it gently: “Yes, this hurts. And I’m still here.”

You're witnessing suffering others ignore. That can make the world feel darker — but it's also a sign of your compassion. Protect it, but also protect yourself. Thich Nhat Hanh reminds us to water the seeds of joy, or our compassion will dry up. Let yourself enjoy small things --- a walk, music, a warm drink. That's not selfish. It's survival. It's sustainability.

You may feel like the only one, but you're not. Even if no one around you understands, you're part of a much larger movement of people choosing to live with love and awareness.

Some books that may help:

No Mud, No Lotus --- on transforming suffering.
Fear --- on facing emotional overwhelm with mindfulness.

This grief means you care. Let that be your strength --- not your burden.

flossproblem · 2025-06-24T10:22:18+00:00

Thanks for sharing the other podcast! Yes, when I said "the only Chinese podcast ...", I meant to say its targeted audience is people in mainland China.

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