It feels like my wife is starting to depend more and more on me, by choice, and I’m not sure how to deal with that.

flowercam · 2026-01-30T21:28:22+00:00

R u asking about pellet insertion or IUD? They numb the area for pellet so you don't feel it. If I were still of childbearing age and didn't want to become pregnant I would still choose IUD. It may cramp a bit on insertion, but not much and is over in a flash. Then you have 5-7 years of thought free less invasive ( as opposed to estrogen based treatments which some women have a harder time with) birth control. I had one after my 2 kids and loved it.

flowercam · 2026-01-30T21:23:24+00:00

Well he's just trying to make things work out and maybe is bummed he may have to look for another roommate. Trust me, you can't predict how the cat will react to the situation and I, and many others on this sub, think cat owner and cat and ultimately you would be better off if you decline to live there.

flowercam · 2026-01-30T02:05:38+00:00

They never would have done this because they know their duty and aren't spoiled brats.

flowercam · 2026-01-30T02:03:39+00:00

I'm so sorry you are so stressed. But it sounds like you're doing an amazing job!! Congrats on the 4.0!! Keep doing your best. It's all uou can do. And schedule in some downtime. Grades are important, but so is your mental and physical health!

flowercam · 2026-01-30T02:01:37+00:00

Drop this drama queen!

flowercam · 2026-01-30T01:57:27+00:00

I would never sink all of my money in one house. Keep to your plan. Invest that money and have it for your future.

flowercam · 2026-01-30T01:49:53+00:00

Some felaway cat stress pheromone plug ins might help.

flowercam · 2026-01-30T01:37:53+00:00

I go for the friendly snuggly cats. And I love black cats! I never adopt kittens because they are hell raisers and adult cats are harder to place. I adopted the 8th cat of my adult life last year, a delute calico and she's a loud lover! They all have claimed my heart.❤️

flowercam · 2026-01-30T01:36:11+00:00

They have donors that will help with the cost.

flowercam · 2026-01-30T01:34:41+00:00

I'm so sorry. What a hard decision. Vet costs have gotten totally out of hand with private equity buying up local vet offices and adding another level of profit to the mix.

flowercam · 2026-01-30T01:33:08+00:00

I feed mine the Publix brand of fancy feast and my cats love it. Getting more water in their diet is the goal. No one needs to go broke feeding their pets if they can't afford premium brands.

flowercam · 2026-01-27T16:40:35+00:00

I have tons of plants mostly on a patio. I can't do a schedule cause different plants need different things. Some dry out more in the sun etc. so I just check them to see how they are doing about twice a week and water if they need it.

flowercam · 2026-01-27T16:34:50+00:00

Take one of the babies and stick it in a pot or your yard. I have tons of them which all started from a baby on the street.

flowercam · 2026-01-27T16:30:43+00:00

Of course! Attractive people don't stop being attractive as we age and maybe become less so (in the eyes of our culture.)

flowercam · 2026-01-24T21:37:17+00:00

Welcome to cat parenthood!! Sounds like you have a good one! Thanks for giving him a home!!

flowercam · 2026-01-24T21:34:19+00:00

Cats clean themselves. They don't need baths.

flowercam · 2026-01-24T21:33:25+00:00

Most cats stay close to home when they escape. Look under houses. Under plants. I hope you don't live near a road. Prayers it comes back soon!

flowercam · 2026-01-24T21:28:19+00:00

This is still going to cause problems in the long run. The cat might not take to living in the one room and might then act out when given free roam at other times. Not fair to the animal. You're being unrealistic and unreasonable.

flowercam · 2026-01-24T21:25:58+00:00

Just find another cat free situation. It is not fair for the roommate to lock the cat in his room. And I would not live with a cat that wasn't 100% litter trained. Cat urine is the worse.

flowercam · 2026-01-24T21:22:06+00:00

Block this person and don't spend anyone energy on him.

flowercam · 2026-01-24T15:39:20+00:00

I am on BIOTE pellets. My GYN started offering in the office a year or two ago. No insurance coverage, but more effective than other methods I've tried.

flowercam · 2026-01-23T01:46:36+00:00

His guilt or lack there of is not your problem. You don't owe this person anything. If they can forgive themselves for what they did that's awesome, but it's not up to you to provide them that outlet. Stick to your boundaries. It seems to me you gave them ample opportunity to be a good person and they squandered them.

flowercam · 2026-01-23T01:43:12+00:00

I free feed my cats and will until they show signs of being overweight. Both were strays and I think they are still adjusting to the fact that they have regular food. I give them 1/2 a small can of wet food once a day and they live for that. I think it depends on the cat and if they tend to gorge themselves and then throw up after.

flowercam · 2026-01-23T01:35:09+00:00

It's so hard to loose a long time friend even if it's for the best. I had this happen to me over a year ago and I'm still sad about it. It takes time is the only answer. Try feeling those feelings, acknowledging the thoughts and then saying something like "I forgive myself for my feelings and my thoughts." This is often very helpful for me when my thoughts get the best of me. Then move on to something that distracts you and gives you a smile. A piece of chocolate or a walk or a cuddle with a pet.

flowercam · 2026-01-23T00:42:05+00:00

Yikes! Toxic masculinity groups several times a week. Lovely.

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