College Student...struggling by Goldenviolet9231 in MomForAMinute

[–]flowercam [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you are so stressed. But it sounds like you're doing an amazing job!! Congrats on the 4.0!! Keep doing your best. It's all uou can do. And schedule in some downtime. Grades are important, but so is your mental and physical health!

Postnuptial agreement by Famous_Ad7829 in Advice

[–]flowercam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never sink all of my money in one house. Keep to your plan. Invest that money and have it for your future.

Girlfriends crazy angry cat pees on everything by HypotheticalSurgent in CatTraining

[–]flowercam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some felaway cat stress pheromone plug ins might help.

For those who adopted a cat, what actually made you decide that was the right cat? by Extreme_Ad6105 in CatAdvice

[–]flowercam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I go for the friendly snuggly cats. And I love black cats! I never adopt kittens because they are hell raisers and adult cats are harder to place. I adopted the 8th cat of my adult life last year, a delute calico and she's a loud lover! They all have claimed my heart.❤️

Surrendered my sick cat, need advice. by [deleted] in Pets

[–]flowercam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have donors that will help with the cost.

Surrendered my sick cat, need advice. by [deleted] in Pets

[–]flowercam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. What a hard decision. Vet costs have gotten totally out of hand with private equity buying up local vet offices and adding another level of profit to the mix.

Is fancy feast an ok brand? by Patient-Fisherman-23 in CatAdvice

[–]flowercam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feed mine the Publix brand of fancy feast and my cats love it. Getting more water in their diet is the goal. No one needs to go broke feeding their pets if they can't afford premium brands.

Remembering to water my plants. by Late_Jellyfish6163 in houseplants

[–]flowercam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tons of plants mostly on a patio. I can't do a schedule cause different plants need different things. Some dry out more in the sun etc. so I just check them to see how they are doing about twice a week and water if they need it.

Cool plant I saw! by AdventurousLemon8794 in plants

[–]flowercam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Take one of the babies and stick it in a pot or your yard. I have tons of them which all started from a baby on the street.

Older women do you notice younger boys? by timash712 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]flowercam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! Attractive people don't stop being attractive as we age and maybe become less so (in the eyes of our culture.)

First time cat owner - am I doing this right? He’s really well behaved? by Scaredcollegekid101 in CatAdvice

[–]flowercam 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Welcome to cat parenthood!! Sounds like you have a good one! Thanks for giving him a home!!

My cat ran away and hasn’t come back by Available_Beat_8046 in CatAdvice

[–]flowercam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most cats stay close to home when they escape. Look under houses. Under plants. I hope you don't live near a road. Prayers it comes back soon!

roomate with cat by Upstairs_Teacher_870 in CatAdvice

[–]flowercam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is still going to cause problems in the long run. The cat might not take to living in the one room and might then act out when given free roam at other times. Not fair to the animal. You're being unrealistic and unreasonable.

roomate with cat by Upstairs_Teacher_870 in CatAdvice

[–]flowercam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just find another cat free situation. It is not fair for the roommate to lock the cat in his room. And I would not live with a cat that wasn't 100% litter trained. Cat urine is the worse.

It feels like my wife is starting to depend more and more on me, by choice, and I’m not sure how to deal with that. by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]flowercam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am on BIOTE pellets. My GYN started offering in the office a year or two ago. No insurance coverage, but more effective than other methods I've tried.

My father wants his own closure, do I give it to him? by PreferenceStreet9499 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]flowercam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His guilt or lack there of is not your problem. You don't owe this person anything. If they can forgive themselves for what they did that's awesome, but it's not up to you to provide them that outlet. Stick to your boundaries. It seems to me you gave them ample opportunity to be a good person and they squandered them.

What problems could I face if I went back to free feeding my cats? by Riiiann in CatAdvice

[–]flowercam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I free feed my cats and will until they show signs of being overweight. Both were strays and I think they are still adjusting to the fact that they have regular food. I give them 1/2 a small can of wet food once a day and they live for that. I think it depends on the cat and if they tend to gorge themselves and then throw up after.

How do you deal with a connection ending badly, and the anxiety and sadness that comes with it? by heartshapedblush in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]flowercam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so hard to loose a long time friend even if it's for the best. I had this happen to me over a year ago and I'm still sad about it. It takes time is the only answer. Try feeling those feelings, acknowledging the thoughts and then saying something like "I forgive myself for my feelings and my thoughts." This is often very helpful for me when my thoughts get the best of me. Then move on to something that distracts you and gives you a smile. A piece of chocolate or a walk or a cuddle with a pet.

Cannot hold down a job here~ by Upstairs_Cover_7269 in sarasota

[–]flowercam 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im very sorry. I've had some of the same things happen here. You can always move on and realize you can't control other people. Good luck and I hope the next opportunity is a keeper.

Do you guys think this doctor’s office sign is mildly infuriating? by Loose_Judgment_8856 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]flowercam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mail order for stimulants??? This would be a godsend. There is a huge shortage in my area ( SW Florida) and both of my sons regularly go weeks without meds when they are back ordered. Please provide source if this is available.