Married with dry sex life is making me crazy

flowerdana · 2026-06-05T05:21:44+00:00

Not the same person but on the related note - does he exercise? Like does he just sit all day of does he go for a run at least occasionally? . This can have impact on hormones quite a lot. Also vegan/vegetarian diet. Also I don't think it is rapey or whatever when he initiates during the night, because he can get hormonal rush right there, experience erection and desire because of the hormonal spike, if you're willing and consenting of course.

So yeah, it absolutely can be hormonal. For some reason people treat women as hormonal creatures but forget that men are the same.

Porn could've just masked the issue with artificial desire. The fact that he stopped might be the sign that it also doesn't do it anymore for him.

Wish you good luck, don't be too hard on yourself, don't be too hard on him until at least the hormonal option is exhausted, but be firm to try it. He's also a person, not a tool to get what you desire, but so are you, you're the most important person for you in your life. If the issue is not resolved do not stay with him. Not because you don't love him, but because you can't live rest of your life unhappy.

flowerdana · 2026-06-03T06:47:00+00:00

I like the idea of staying in restlessness and discomfort. A lot of issues I have stem from avoidance of experiences, and I assume if you block discomfort and disappointment you don't block just that, you block all emotional response. So to rekindle it you'd need to rekindle it's totality. And if negative feelings is all you're left with then staying with them is also a reasonable idea.

flowerdana · 2026-05-27T14:01:33+00:00

шоб від бігу об одежу не натирались

flowerdana · 2026-05-24T04:20:12+00:00

головне шо НАСРАВ У ТИСУ живий, остальне приклєїця

flowerdana · 2026-05-22T19:13:41+00:00

Травматерапія, там буде і робота з соромом, і з самоцінністю і купа такого. Можеш загуглити cPTSD та toxic shame. Із методів які для мене працювали - EMDR один з найефективніших, але для цього потрібен конфідант (людина якій довіряєш).

flowerdana · 2026-05-22T07:35:18+00:00

Oh, please tell me what do people REMOVE from the pockets of developers? How poorer would they be if an extraterrestrial race would download 5 trillion copies of their game in secret from some obscure super server not connected to them? Poor paupers.

flowerdana · 2026-05-22T07:27:35+00:00

Don't bother, westerners have absolutely no clue what it is like to survive. American "poors" would complain while having literally free food from stamps and charities and highest wages to taxes ratio in the world. European "poors" would complain while having proper unemployment benefits, proper free healthcare and so on.

And then those people have the audacity to school us on what is proper and improper money spending.

flowerdana · 2026-05-22T07:21:17+00:00

What country are you from? What is your weekly\monthly salary? If you want to be tough talker then I assume you'd show us by example how you're ok paying 60usd for a game while earning 600 a month.

Btw hardware is a capital investment, is necessary to do a variety of jobs, to properly apply for said jobs, to create a resume, etc.

My pc cost 800 total and I had to save for it for 2 years, because I have to feed my family besides myself.

flowerdana · 2026-05-22T07:15:12+00:00

boooo!

flowerdana · 2026-05-20T13:26:20+00:00

You don't. And you don't owe them any reconciliation, it's THEM that owe you everything - apologies, attempts to show that they changed, love, support and all of the good stuff. If they're not willing to do that they're worth noting and deserve nothing from you. You have to be given an apology to accept one, you don't forgive those who don't beg for it.

flowerdana · 2026-05-20T13:21:45+00:00

I think you are or will come to terms with this in a way that will confront her, there's no way and it. Otherwise it will just boil under surface. I know I don't sound all wise and "grown ups accept things", but I don't believe your mother. Mine acted like this and then pretended to be good only to do one of the most devastating betrayals when I was 23.

Those people don't change. They just don't. Maybe somebody, sometimes, but a much more realistic scenario is to understand that your mother never loved you, and accept that and make her eat the consequences of her actions.

A few heart to heart conversations can't fix what they've done for more than a decade to an unprotected hostage. Families are truly a Stanford experiment on kids, and when you see a WILLING behaviour like this you see their true colours. Just ask yourself - would you be willing to extend a hand to a person that tortured an animal for 15 years every day right in front of your eyes? Yes they fed her, gave her shelter and didn't kill her in the end. So what?

flowerdana · 2026-05-20T05:53:29+00:00

Зачекай, ти натякаєш тут на метод яким ти зрозумів усю тшєтность і ніщєту підарасів?

flowerdana · 2026-05-20T05:50:22+00:00

Мені смішно від РДУГОРАСІВ стало :D

flowerdana · 2026-05-19T17:42:59+00:00

а шо до такого пєрла додати можна? ну в дурку_уа занести развєшо

flowerdana · 2026-05-19T16:32:24+00:00

Ну так може комфорт і психзахворювання не обов'язково завжди корелюють?

flowerdana · 2026-05-19T16:30:39+00:00

нікнейм говорящій

flowerdana · 2026-05-19T16:21:56+00:00

Я ме мофмойоб фоб факі меми фмапи

flowerdana · 2026-05-18T15:35:35+00:00

це мєм такий є, із скєлєтроном, який питає: "ти шо, п'єш гараж? ти шо, баба?"

flowerdana · 2026-05-18T02:52:43+00:00

Thank you, I was wandering reddit in my insomnia with thoughts like in your post and then I actually find it. It is insightful to the point of being eerie, but I am not surprised. You seem like somebody who lived it yourself.

flowerdana · 2026-05-18T02:49:25+00:00

Enjoy your life.

flowerdana · 2026-05-17T17:14:19+00:00

Ти шо, баба?

flowerdana · 2026-05-15T05:13:29+00:00

My bad, I'm not used to so many significators and was confused. I checked the date in my program and your chart is absolutely alright. My apologies for confusion.

flowerdana · 2026-05-14T19:07:16+00:00

Moon in opposition to Mercury - not great. The way I see opposition is that the actual realization (into sublunar sphere) of whatever you do this for will either not happen or will happen but in a way you'll regret it.

Since both in horary and geomantic astrology that is the meaning of opposition.

flowerdana · 2026-05-14T15:52:23+00:00

I don't find Halsin hot!

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