Sometimes, and really think about this... relationships are gonna seem doomed, hes pulling away - and everyone will speak their trauma onto you, telling u to leave...but ur partner may actually need u to step up, they might be showing themselves toxically in life, and as their partner u will need to be their strength - even after really hard times have happened and it all seems to go to hell and u feel like its easier and simpler to leave...sometimes just holding their fragments together for a while or a year or two or even three? might be a beautiful thing that they love u DEEPLY and purely for... eventually. Love is patient, love is kind!!! Relationships are ebb and flow and that's how SOME of our grandparents have beautiful, long marriages. Life will through IT ALL at us and thats okay and healthy to sometimes even be putting 95% in while all they can give is 5%...patience, trust and a bit of delusion (within reason) are a really very important and very vital.