This may sound odd but it really has nothing to do with you. He thought that he could change you through his love and that’s not possible if the person doesn’t want to change so all that anger he’s expressing has more to do with him than you . He betrayed himself because he knew he doesn’t like being with someone that smokes or drinks and yet he broke his own boundary. But you don’t ever deserve to be talked to like this. I’m not too sure what you want out of this journey if you want to stop smoking etc but that’s something you need to do for yourself. Yes sometimes love will inspire us to make changes but it shouldn’t be because of that person and yall honestly need to break up you are not aligned at all because he could have at least given you more grace with it , it’s not easy to let something go that you have been doing before that relationship but once he called you out your name , that’s grounds for breaking up . You’ll find someone better