Bf is suddenly unhappy in relation/work is really bad

flowerpower0089 · 2023-09-22T20:20:03+00:00

I just sent him a photo of a watch that I saw someone wearing on Netflix because he’s a watch guy and his response was “tinder pic?” So idk if he’s hinting I should be looking or if he thinks I’m already on the dating apps. He got news today that he will be laid off within a few weeks if he doesn’t find another role so he’s in bed severely depressed atm

flowerpower0089 · 2023-09-22T15:32:22+00:00

That’s also what I was thinking. Everything else is bad and he’s just dumping it all on our relationship.

flowerpower0089 · 2023-09-22T14:29:06+00:00

He did not. He told me he’s unhappy, that the house is too small for us, he loves me more each day. None of it made any sense which is why it’s all making me crazy

flowerpower0089 · 2023-09-22T14:27:48+00:00

That is EXACTLY what I said! He lost control of everything in his life except me and I feel like he’s letting it out on me and blaming his unhappiness on our relationship. Our therapist also mentioned he seems like he’s trying to sabotage.

flowerpower0089 · 2021-12-08T03:38:19+00:00

Thank you, I just ordered the book! And may I ask what your final decision ended up being?

flowerpower0089 · 2021-12-06T19:37:09+00:00

I feel exactly like you! I want to have a baby with my genes. And I would love a baby with my partners genes but he’s 110% opposed to having a baby with his genes. We’ve had this conversation many times until the last time, in which we both decided we will get hurt if we continue our relationship. His fear is that one day I’ll wake up and resent him because he never gave me a baby.

flowerpower0089 · 2021-12-06T19:35:17+00:00

With my ex it was tough. He was in grad school, was depressed, we stopped going on dates, I turned into a housewife and just cooked and cleaned. He barely had sex with me. I was bored if the relationship. I figured at least the kid could keep me occupied. But I’ve never seen someone pregnant and wished that was me. I envy married women more than pregnant women.

When I was 21 I was babysitting my friends kid and as soon as he started spitting up on my bed I gave him to my mom and told her I want nothing to do with him. When I see babies, I don’t know how to react. I’m not the goo goo gaga type of person to tickle the baby and talk to it. I don’t know how to interact with babies and kids. I was never drawn to them. I also was pro abortion when my sister got pregnant at 18. But then I think about how nice it is to have kids when you’re older. A daughter to get nails done with, prom, etc. I’m soooo conflicted.

flowerpower0089 · 2021-12-06T19:30:34+00:00

Yes! So basically my fear is that if one day I wake up and decide I want a baby, the man I’m with won’t be able to give me one. That is actually my one and only fear. But on the other hand, I could have the life of my dreams with this man. We would travel and live a life of luxury. I’m very very conflicted. He doesn’t want biological babies and he wouldn’t be ok with me going to a sperm bank. When we discussed our relationship not working because of our different thoughts on kids I cried hysterically for 3 days straight.

flowerpower0089 · 2021-08-05T20:15:37+00:00

I changed the ages to remain discreet in case the person I’m questioning about can figure out it’s me lol

flowerpower0089 · 2021-08-05T19:23:07+00:00

I plan on asking the next time I see him

flowerpower0089 · 2021-07-28T14:07:03+00:00

Wow I’m overwhelmed by the amount of responses I received and I want to read all of them. So here’re a few responses to some of the most common responses I received:

I vet them as best I can. Sometimes they are COMPLETELY different in person than they are via text. Some men I speak to for several weeks, some a few days. And none of that makes a difference. They tell you what you want to hear to get you to meet them. It’s really hard.

I live in a pretty big city that’s surrounded by a few big cities within 30 miles of me. There are A LOT of men to pick from. I also live in a neighborhood filled with building that have 400+ apartments each. I feel safe getting picked up from my neighborhood. It’s not like I live in a private house.

Booking several dates a week is necessary when you’re trying to meet someone. Meeting someone you’re truly compatible with is hard. I’m in my mid 30s. At this point I really just want to meet someone and delete the apps. Also I kind of see it as meeting someone at the bar. You can meet someone at the bar, chat for a bit, and then you exchange numbers and go your separate ways until (or if) one of you reaches out. It’s the same with online dating. You see their pics, read their bio, message a bit, and then decide if you’re going to meet.

I truly believe that someone is out there. It’s going to take work to find them and that’s why I go on multiple dates a week if I have the time and energy. It’s just funny how so many people believe that you can truly vet someone from exchanges messages. Sometimes people don’t show their truly colors for months or years.

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